Situation - You are observing how someone goes under stress, becomes the Drama Queen, shows anxiety and it may reveal their fears
Observing someone stressed out can make it easy for you to pick their pattern
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Seeing others stressed out is an easy type of behaviour to observe. Here is also what to do!
Drama is also easy to observe! So which of all 16 are most likely to be the observed as drama queen? (A DQ is a person who reacts theatrically to minor difficulties, regularly tries to be the centre of attention and treats other people's problems as less important than their own.) Do you know the other person's fears? Contact us for an obligation free quote.
Contact us for an obligation free quote. Conducted and Composed by Elizabeth Hunter™ - Last Update 9 April, 2019
1. Can it be the Director - ESTJ?
Causes of Stress: Being in an environment that is in disarray; Frequent disruptions; Irrational behaviour; Being surrounded by (or guilty of) incompetence; Unexpected changes; Lack of control; Laziness in others; Not having their strongly held values validated; Guilt over being critical towards others; Dealing too long with abstract or theoretical concepts; Being in a highly-charged emotional environment for too long.
When overwhelmed by stress, Directors often feel isolated from others. They feel as if they are misunderstood and undervalued, and that their efforts are taken for granted. When under stress, they have a hard time putting their feelings into words and communicating them to others. If they are under frequent, chronic stress, they may fall into the grip of their inferior function - introverted feeling. When this happens, they can develop a “martyr complex” - i.e. When they don’t get what they want, they victimise, dramatise and exaggerate about the difficulties and problems they have had to endure. The Director will be uncharacteristically emotional, withdraw from others, become hypersensitive about their relationships and misinterpret tiny, insignificant details into personal attacks. Physically, they may feel tension headaches and neck or shoulder aches from tension in their body.
What to do: Give them some time to be left alone during and immediately after an incident; Avoid directly attacking the problem right away; Help them break down larger projects into smaller pieces; Listen to them; Let them talk it out; After some time of listening, discuss information or ideas that could lead to solutions; Validate their feelings; Do not be overly-sympathetic; Do not respond emotionally.
Drama Queen Level Analyser™: Directors definitely dislike drama, especially when it comes from overly emotional people. They will often become annoyed by these types of attention seeking individuals and will find themselves exhausted by them. Directors do not mind a little drama in their lives; they simply dislike over the top theatrics. They enjoy helping their loved ones and might give into their drama sometimes even if they dislike it. Directors simply prefer to live their lives focused on their goals and dislike pointless drama.
Dreadometer™ - Aversion as well as anxiety for Directors: Banished to a workplace filled with unreasonably sensitive employees. Nothing ever gets done unless you explain the team that if it does not get done, your feelings will be hurt. The faster you need something done, the more emotion you have to show.
What will vex Directors: Laziness; Procrastination; Others lateness; Mess and clutter; Belittling of beliefs or political views; Fear of Uselessness.
How the Director will show signs of Depression: If they feel like things in their life really are not going their way.
What the Director fears and a possible solution: Fear is hard to view but you have the upper hand if you know the pattern based on other criteria that you have found on
When things are vague or ambiguous will feel uncertain and stressed. Will lose sleep if a situation arises where the Director is unsure which direction to take or what is needed to solve a problem. Leaving things open-ended or unresolved stresses the Director no end. If a decision out of haste was made just to have closure then they might be anxious over how that decision could potentially backfire. Uncertainty is a plague they want extinguished as soon as possible and with it hanging they feel unable to rest or enjoy the moment as much as wanted. Directors should take a deep breath and remember that it is okay to encounter grey areas every once in a while. Nobody makes perfect decisions every single time. Some solutions take waiting and patience to reveal themselves and often rest and a distraction is just what you need for that solution to unexpectedly appear.
Possible Disorders: Passive Aggressive Personality Disorder.
Procrastination Tendency: Unlikely. Rank 15/16.
2. Can it be the Developer - ENTJ?
Causes of Stress: Being in an environment that lacks vision or ideas for the future; Being in an environment where others do not appreciate their vision; Being interrupted; Being surrounded by (or guilty of) incompetence; Poorly managed change; Laziness; Having to be a follower instead of a leader; Not being able to make their goals come to fruition; Having to deal with intense emotions from others; Feeling guilt over being critical towards others; Not having their strongly held values validated or respected; Small talk or frivolous conversations.
When experiencing stress, Developers may at first become argumentative and combative with anyone who is causing it. They may feel that they are losing control and feel an urgent need to complete a task. If the stress continues, they become distracted by the urgency and need to get something done. They may engage in compulsive, misdirected activities like cleaning, counting or inspecting. They will feel a growing sense of failure and a rising sense of anger and frustration. If they are in a state of chronic stress, they may fall into the grip of their inferior function - introverted feeling. When this happens they may become uncharacteristically emotional and furious and withdraw from others to prevent anyone seeing their lack of emotional stability. They may become hypersensitive about their relationships, misinterpreting tiny, insignificant details and believing that others hate or dislike them.
What to do: Give them some space and time alone to sort out their feelings; Listen and let them talk it out when they are ready; Discuss information or ideas that could lead to solutions; Do not be overly sympathetic or emotional; Give them a change of scenery by getting outdoors with them; Encourage them to vent their frustration without fear of judgment; Remind them that they are okay and it is perfectly fine to feel the way they do and that you will not judge them. This last one may be very difficult for Enhancers to do.
Drama Queen Level Analyser™: Developers do not mind a little drama here and there but they certainly dislike people who are overly emotional. They dislike people who openly display their emotions and are constantly seeking out attention from others. Developers prefer to live their lives away from this type of drama and simply do not have the time or energy for it. They do not mind if someone is being playfully dramatic or if they are simply doing it in order to make other people laugh (e.g. The Promoter). Developers just do not want to be a part of peoples emotional or relationship drama and will do their best to avoid those people.
Dreadometer™ - Aversion as well as anxiety for Developers: You discover that someone you trusted has been secretly manipulating your environment for years and infringing upon your ability to make autonomous choices. You are not sure if they were acting alone, or if you must now be suspicious of everyone else you once trusted.
What will vex Developers: Mediocrity; Being helpless; Stupidity; Being controlled; Not meeting potential; Fear of Alzheimer's; Compromise; Not improving; Being incompetent or dealing with incompetence; Fear of Betrayal.
How the Developer will show signs of Depression: Will often lose sight of what is important to them and will feel rather useless.
What the Developer fears and a possible solution: Fear is hard to view but you have the upper hand if you know the pattern based on other criteria that you have found on
The Developer fears being 'the worker'. Totally ambitious, will come up with evolutionary plans, strategies and tactics to stay on top and lead a life that is anything but ordinary and trample anyone who gets in the way. If the Developer is unchallenged and bored they may well need to test themselves and take up a business or a franchise, or pursue a recreational pursuit that requires mastery and quick thinking. Will want to associate with people with bigger dreams, bigger plans, who are asking bigger things of themselves.
Possible Disorders: Sadistic Personality Disorder.
Procrastination Tendency: Unlikely. Rank 14/16.
3. Can it be the Results - ESTP?
Causes of Stress: Rigidly enforced rules; Having to plan far into the future; Feeling out of control; Being asked to complete tasks without detailed directions or processes; Large amounts of book work, theory or writing; Being forced to make commitments or plans before they are ready; Being forced to make decisions or eliminate options before they’re ready; Having to spend a lot of time following someone else’s rules or schedule; Being in a situation where they have to use a lot of theoretical or intuitive concepts; Being around people who are excessively serious.
When faced with stress, Results folk tend to feel empty or hollow inside. Their first impulse may be to seek revenge for whatever has caused them stress. They may do this by mocking other people’s values or becoming increasingly anti-social and disdainful of others. If they are in a state of chronic stress, they may fall into the grip of their inferior function - introverted intuition, and become a “dramatiser”. When this happens, they may do things that are completely out of character for them. They may lose their naturally easy going, agreeable character and begin to have fearful fantasies of the future, ideas of impending doom swirling in their minds. They may begin to assign big meaning to small occurrences and become preoccupied with the meaning of life and the future of mankind and the universe in a way that is usually filled with gloom and disillusionment.
What to do: Give them space initially or directly after the event; Listen to them. Understand that they will likely be irrational; Do not tell them how to fix it. This will only make them feel more helpless; Give gentle affirmations or encouragement; Help them sort out their priorities, paying careful attention to their feelings.
Drama Queen Level Analyser™: Results folk o have dramatic moments especially since they despise being bored. If the Results person feels stagnant for too long, they might even create drama in their lives just to spice things up. They absolutely hate feeling like they have nothing interesting going on in their lives and will be great at stirring up drama. Results can sometimes make a mess of their own lives out of sheer boredom, but will be capable of piecing things back together afterwards.
Dreadometer™ - Aversion as well as anxiety for Results: Every time you want to take action on something, you must first fill out a stack of tedious paper work, wait several weeks for it to be approved and then proceed only with very specific parts.
What will vex Results: Others planning their schedule; Others seeking attention at all costs; Being controlled or trapped; Others complaining without wanting a solution; Slow pace; Having plans or logic dismissed; Fear of Being forgotten.
How the Results will show signs of Depression: Will often try to make themselves busy, focusing on their daily tasks.
What the Results fears and a possible solution: Fear is hard to view but you have the upper hand if you know the pattern based on other criteria that you have found on
The Results wants to feel unrestricted and in control. When sick or otherwise immobilised they fear being a burden to the people around them. Absolutely detests being at the mercy of anyone else or being unable to fend for themselves. This lack of control makes them restless. This also applies when stuck in a relationship where they are not unappreciated or trapped in a job where they are micro-managed and stifled every moment of the day. When feeling like a caged lion, who needs to break free to exert their own independence and freedom, needs to reflect on the accuracy of their thoughts before taking drastic action. May need to recreate or accomplish a small task. May need a change of scene. Rupert Murdoch appears to be a good example of a Results.
Possible Disorders: Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Procrastination Tendency: Yes. Prompted by pressure need to keep options open and reluctant to make quick decisions, act too quickly, fear of hurting people's feelings, embarrassment, incompetence, pure boredom, making the "wrong decision", not doing the perfect thing, putting off the difficult conversation, task or decision hoping it will resolve itself. Rank 7/16.
4. Can it be the Inspirational - ENTP?
Causes of Stress: An environment where rules are rigidly enforced; A lack of change or progression; A lack of outside stimulation; Being micromanaged; Having their creativity stifled; Being forced to make decisions or complete projects before they are ready to do so; Working with individuals they view as incompetent; Not having their visions appreciated; Having their principles violated; Having to focus too long on mundane details; Overextending themselves.
When an Inspirational is experiencing stress, they become distracted and overwhelmed, losing their signature “can do” attitude. They may feel incompetent, inept and inadequate. They can become overwhelmed with fear, panic and anxiety and will feel a need to escape whatever situation is plaguing them. Their creativity will be stifled and, if the stress isn’t handled, they will fall into the grip of their inferior function - introverted sensing. When they fall into the grip of their inferior function, they will become uncharacteristically quiet and reserved. They will feel depressed and stew on ways they have failed. They may notice minor bodily changes and become convinced that they are suffering from some life-threatening disease. They often become hypochondriacs, imagining all kinds of ailments that are befalling them physically.
What to do: Give them time alone to deal with their feelings; Avoid patronizing them, even if they are being irrational; Don’t try to “solve the problem”; Listen without making judgments, or trying to talk them out of their negative state; Encourage them to have some time alone to exercise; Encourage them to get enough rest; Give them a massage; After they have calmed down a little, ask if they want help.
Drama Queen Level Analyser™: Inspirationals dislike overly dramatic people and hate when individuals are senselessly emotional. They prefer to be around people who can control themselves and do not just fight for centre of attention. Inspirationals can be a bit dramatic sometimes but it is purely in jest. They will not enjoy drama that seems to be affecting the lives of others and truly dislike when people want to drag other people into their theatrics. Inspirationals simply enjoy being a little over the top in a playful way and do not mind having a little fun. They might be dramatic by making up a song to make people laugh, or doing something crazy and shocking like cliff diving.
Dreadometer™ - Aversion as well as anxiety for Inspirationals: Entrepreneurship has been outlawed. Now, only big corporations with standardised advancement opportunities are allowed. Meddling or arguing with the policy in any way lands you in solitary confinement for life.
What will vex Inspirationals: Being controlled or trapped; Not truly connected to another person; Laziness; Mediocrity; Not meeting potential; Boredom; Relationship commitment; Stupidity; Loss of loved one; Being seen as incompetent, inadequate or stupid; Losing rational use of the mind; Fear of Stagnancy.
How the Inspirational will show signs of Depression: If feels pigeonholed or trapped in their current situation.
What the Inspirational fears and a possible solution: Fear is hard to view but you have the upper hand if you know the pattern based on other criteria that you have found on
The Inspirational fears a situation where novelty, new experiences, new ideas, theories, knowledge, challenge and opposition to the “normal” way of thinking is in play. Cannot stand being tied down or forced to conform to the way things “have always been done”. If stuck in a rut, maybe a book about a new scientific theory or exploration of a philosophy that might turn their world view upside down. Should get out in the world and get a change of scenery or talk to a friend who can be counted on for a lively (but friendly) debate - the Inspirational is the debater after all - this is a common theme on this site in picking their pattern.
Possible Disorders: Compensatory Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Sadistic Personality Disorder.
Procrastination Tendency: Yes. Prompted by pressure need to keep options open and reluctant to make quick decisions, act too quickly, fear of hurting people's feelings, embarrassment, incompetence, pure boredom, making the "wrong decision", not doing the perfect thing, putting off the difficult conversation, task or decision hoping it will resolve itself. Rank 3/16.
5. Can it be the Persuader - ENFJ?
Causes of Stress: Being in critical or confrontational environments; Lack of appreciation or affirmation; Lack of harmony; Unexpected change; Inadequate time to complete work to their standards; Tense relationships or environments; Having to do mundane, repetitive tasks; Having to conform with something that goes against their values; Over-empathising with others to the point of losing track of their own needs; Being misunderstood or not trusted; People not living up to their idealized expectations.
When a Persuader experiences stress, they often disassociate themselves from the situation in an effort to protect their sense of well-being and togetherness. They may repress the unpleasant side of life for so long, that it gradually intensifies until the Persuader explodes with emotion and/or charged anger. Often the body will reflect pent-up stress by manifesting various physical symptoms, such as headaches, shoulder tension or an upset stomach. In the case of chronic stress, the Persuader may fall into the grip of their inferior function - introverted thinking. When this happens, the Persuader may uncharacteristically lash out at others, obsess over their mistakes, lack of competence and flaws. Eventually, these criticisms will turn inward and the Persuader will withdraw from others to self-criticise. He or she may become obsessive about analysing irrelevant data to find some ultimate truth or reason for their stress.
What to do: Acknowledge how they feel; Let them talk it out; Remind them of their strengths and contributions; Do not use logic to talk them out of their stress; Do not ignore them, even if they seem irrational; Give them a change of scenery to get away from the situation; Go outdoors. Do some type of exercise with them; Watch a lighthearted movie or comedy with them; Do not patronize or dismiss their concerns.
Drama Queen Level Analyser™: Persuaders often handle drama very well and find themselves constantly caught up in it. The Persuader's interest in caring for the emotional needs of others often leaves them smack in the middle of drama. They are the person everyone relies on to help them when they need life or relationship advice. Being the go to support system often causes becoming swept away in the drama of other people. They can be a bit dramatic themselves, especially with the things they are passionate about. Persuaders simply do not hold themselves back, and enjoy being upfront and honest.
Dreadometer™ - Aversion as well as anxiety for Persuader: You became the powerful leader of a movement meant to bring about peace, only to discover you were misguided by your mentor and the whole movement is bogus. Now you are exposed as a corrupt leader.
What will vex Persuaders: Lying; Unreliability; Disloyalty; Selfishness; Bullying; Fear of Loneliness.
How the Persuader will show signs of Depression: If feeling extremely guilty.
What the Persuader fears and a possible solution: Fear is hard to view but you have the upper hand if you know the pattern based on other criteria that you have found on
Despite being compassionate, visionary and insightful with folk flocking to you when they need consolation over a personal problem or direction at a confusing time in their life. Eventually the Persuader will run into someone who likes to spread negative information. Gossip will mean lost sleep about what they might have said or what the other person misconstrued as they hate being mistrusted or misunderstood and desperately want to fix it. Should remember that what a Persuader thinks of the Persuader is what matters most and Persuaders cannot always control what other people think and do; can only only control themselves. Talking to a trusted friend for support and who will be honest and who will either tell what is wrong or have enough trust in the Persuader to know when someone is making up lies.
Possible Disorders: Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.
Procrastination Tendency: Unlikely. Rank 10/16.
6. Can it be the Appraiser - ESFJ
Causes of Stress: Unstructured environment; Having to do things that involve abstract, theoretical concepts; Environments that have tension or conflict; Unexpected change; Inadequate time to complete work to their standards; Tense or confrontational relationships or situations; Situations that do not meld with their values; Lack of trust in someone or something they are involved with; Criticism; Feeling unappreciated.
When faced with stress, Appraisers can become very critical and overly sensitive, often imagining bad intentions where there are not any. Being prone to insecurity, they can focus all their attention on pleasing those who give them security. This may lead them to become staunchly attached to a toxic relationship, structure or belief system that provides them some sort of affirmation or security. They can become quite dramatic when under stress, finding fault with almost everyone and everything. They can experience low energy, a feeling of depression and pessimism. They become uncharacteristically quiet and withdrawn. If they are under chronic stress, they may fall into the grip of their inferior function - introverted thinking. This can cause them to take on the form of “the condemner”, focusing on everyone’s flaws and all the ways they have been hurt by them and how those flaws go against their belief system and how things “should be”.
What to do: Give them a change of scenery. Let them spend some time outdoors; Encourage them to exercise (without making it a dig at their weight or health); Watch a comedy with them, or engage them with some humor or lighthearted entertainment; Acknowledge how they feel; Let them talk it out; Remind them of their strengths and contributions; Do not use logic to talk them out of stress; Do not ignore them; Give them feedback. Talk about a similar situation you went through; Get them away from the environment or situation that is stressing them out; Give them an enjoyable book to read, or a lighthearted movie to watch.
Drama Queen Level Analyser™: Appraisers often find themselves caught up in the drama of others since they are constantly focused on the emotions of other people. They can quickly find themselves being dragged into other people’s emotional drama, even if the Appraiser does not want to be. They have a hard time saying “no” to people, which makes it hard for them to avoid drama in most situations. Appraisers actually dislike people who attempt to create drama, especially if it is hurting someone they care about. They will not be afraid to dive into the dramatic situation though, especially if they feel like it could help calm the situation down.
Dreadometer™ - Aversion as well as anxiety for Appraisers: A spell is cast upon you, stating that every time you make someone you love happy, another person you love becomes equally as unhappy. You begin to develop the reputation of spoiling the pleasure of others.
What will vex Appraisers: Lateness; Lack of follow through; Verbal manipulation (trolling); Being taken advantage of.
How the Appraiser will show signs of Depression: By trying to overcompensate for the feeling of sadness; Fear of Being unwanted.
What the Appraiser fears and a possible solution: Fear is hard to view but you have the upper hand if you know the pattern based on other criteria that you have found on
The Appraisers fear is what they do may never be enough regarding the security and physical and emotional welfare of the people close together with working hard and wanting to make sure that everything is perfect. The Appraiser worries that no matter how much is done it is not enough to be fully prepared for what can happen in life. May wish wish that people would understand how much they are really going through and how much they really do behind the scenes. When feeling burnt out it may be that anxiety over all the details that are not perfect, take a deep breath especially if physically and emotionally tired that worry is amped up from exhaustion. Talking to a friend to get out all the frustrations and anxieties; handing over one of your responsibilities and trust someone else to help with that or a change of scenery may be possible solutions.
Possible Disorders: Stress, depression, suicidal thoughts, masochistic personality.
Possible Disorders: Masochistic Personality Disorder.
Procrastination Tendency: Unlikely. Rank 11/16.
7. Can it be the Promoter - ENFP?
Causes of Stress: Environments where rules are rigidly enforced; Focusing on repetitive, detailed tasks; Having to focus too much on sensory details; Having to focus too much on the past or present; Not being able to use their intuition; Constraints on brainstorming or envisioning; A lack of outside stimulation; Being micromanaged; Having creativity stifled; Having to complete projects before they are ready to do so; Criticism; Lack of appreciation; Having their values violated; Overextending themselves for others.
Promoters tend to overextend themselves and procrastinate, which is often a source of stress as it complicates their lives. When they become stressed, their naturally charming natures become more irritable and over-sensitive. When stressed, Promoters feel alienated and engage in deceptions to obscure what is occurring within themselves. They will feel that they are losing control over their own independent identities and feel conflicted by intruding circumstances. During continued stress, they may fall into the grip of their inferior function - introverted sensing. When this happens, they become obsessive and depressed. They will become hyper-aware of minor bodily sensations or abnormalities and interpret them as a sign of a serious illness. They may have a hard time communicating clearly and feel numb and frozen inside. Their thinking may become cloudy and convoluted. They will feel that there are no possibilities or ways out. They may feel overwhelmed, out of control, unable to sort out priorities and thus become inflexible. Some become obsessive about record keeping, cleaning or other household tasks.
What to do: Give them space and time alone to sort out their feelings; Remind them that they are able and competent; Give them permission to “escape”; Do not give them advice. It won’t help right now; Do not ask for details; Do not try to “fix” the problem; Meditation often helps Promoters; Listen to them; Encourage them to exercise; Encourage them to get enough sleep; Encourage them to get a massage; Be warm and kind in the way you speak to them; After they have calmed down a little, ask them if they want help evaluating the situation. Be wary that Promoters are terrible in that they will not commit; sometimes "force" is required!
Drama Queen Level Analyser™: Promoters have a flair for the dramatics and might even enjoy being the center of attention. They will be intentionally dramatic just to make people laugh or entertain themselves or others. Promoters will only enjoy drama if it is harmless and does not hurt or upset another person. They dislike drama that involves fights or people’s lives becoming disrupted. Promoters simply like a little drama in their lives but only for the sake of entertainment and excitement. Promoters are passionate people which can cause people to believe they are dramatic at times, which they are!
Dreadometer™ - Aversion as well as anxiety for Promoters: You wrote a self-help book with the intention of empowering others. It gained a cult following, but there were a few holes in your logic and everyone who took your advice ended up worse off than they were to begin with. The media is branding you as a crook who took advantage of others for personal profit.
What will vex Promoters: Being alone; Death of loved ones; Meaninglessness; Not meeting potential; Abandonment; Hurting others feelings; Being morally flawed and not knowing it; The after life consequences; Missing out; Fear of Their past.
How the Promoter will show signs of Depression: Will begin disconnecting from the world around them and begin to lash out at those around them.
What the Promoter fears and a possible solution: Fear is hard to view but you have the upper hand if you know the pattern based on other criteria that you have found on
The Promoter will feel panicky and nervous when backed into a corner. If life starts feeling repetitive, or if you are caged in by obligations, the Promoter will lie awake thinking of ways to fight back. Craving freedom, exploration, and adventure, a repetitive rut will cause misery and a desire to escape. The Promoter should take a good hard look at what their values are and what is important in the grand scheme of things. Should cancel some responsibilities that are non-essential, consider a different job or make small changes as this can make a big difference. Schedule some unstructured free time. Read a book!
Possible Disorders: Paranoid Personality Disorder.
Procrastination Tendency: The absolute masters of procrastination. Prompted by pressure need to keep options open and reluctant to make quick decisions, act too quickly, fear of hurting people's feelings, embarrassment, incompetence, pure boredom, making the "wrong decision", not doing the perfect thing, putting off the difficult conversation, task or decision hoping it will resolve itself. Rank 1/16.
8. Can it be the Counselor - ESFP
Causes of Stress: An environment of rigidly enforced rules; Long-term planning; Having to think far into the future; Being forced to make commitments and plans; Criticism or confrontation; Feeling out of control; Being asked to complete tasks without detailed directions or processes; Lack of hands-on experiences; Too much time alone; Too much book work, theory, or writing; Having to sit still for too long.
When Counselors experience stress, they may become passively resistant initially. They might become bored and feel empty and listless. They may try to retaliate against the people who are causing them stress by annoying them or trying to irritate them. When overwhelmed with stress, they may become self-destructive, regressing emotionally and acting in an immature fashion. In the case of chronic stress, Counselors may fall into the grip of their inferior function - introverted intuition. When this happens, the Counselor can become highly exaggerative, dramatically foretelling the doom that the future will hold. They may see hidden meanings and visions of despair for the future and struggle with misinterpreting things people say. This is highly uncharacteristic since they are usually very optimistic and friendly people who want to maintain harmony.
What to do: Listen thoughtfully and patiently; Give them space initially to sort out their feelings, but be ready to talk to them as are often helped by talking things through; Understand that they will be irrational. Be patient with this; Do not tell them how to fix it. This makes them feel more helpless; Encourage them to exercise or spend some time outdoors; Tell them what they are doing well.
Drama Queen Level Analyser™: Counselors definitely enjoy a little drama in their lives and dislike being stagnant for too long. They do not always mean for it to happen, but drama seems to follow Counselors. They enjoy having excitement in their lives and might find themselves drawn to dramatic situations. No one will ever call a Counselor boring, but they might call them a bit dramatic. They enjoy making other people laugh and will often go over the top in order to do so. Counselors can also be a little dramatic when they want attention from someone they love and will go to great lengths to get what they want.
Dreadometer™ - Aversion as well as anxiety for Counselors: Someone is funnier than you and they follow you everywhere. Everyone starts thinking of you as the awesome guy’s boring sidekick.
What will vex Counselors: Planning ahead; Beating about the bush; Being micro managed; Negativity; Others who chew, eat or drink loudly; Fear of Insignificance.
How the Counselor will show signs of Depression: Might attempt to try new and exciting things to pull themselves out of it.
What the Counselor fears and a possible solution: Fear is hard to view but you have the upper hand if you know the pattern based on other criteria that you have found on
The Counselor is charismatic and often the one that people look at and wish they could emulate in social situations - cracking the perfectly-timed joke, reacting spontaneously with boldness and optimism that is admired. The fear is that the Counselor is that they will have no lasting impact on the world by imparting a sense of freedom and possibility to others. Should take some time to get away from all the commotion of the outside world and focus on who they are on the inside. Re-organise priorities or re-confirm being on the right track in life, talk to someone close who understands that all the things done to brighten people’s days can mean a great deal in the long run.
Possible Disorders: Borderline Personality Disorder.
Procrastination Tendency: Yes. Prompted by pressure need to keep options open and reluctant to make quick decisions, act too quickly, fear of hurting people's feelings, embarrassment, incompetence, pure boredom, making the "wrong decision", not doing the perfect thing, putting off the difficult conversation, task or decision hoping it will resolve itself. Rank 6/16.
9. Can it be the Specialist - ISFP
Causes of Stress: Rigid structure and rules; Having to violate their deeply held values; Not enough alone time. Too much extroverting; Too many demands or obligations; Having to deal with excessive data; Long-term planning; Criticism; Lack of appreciation from others; Feeling that they are about to lose something (relationship/task, etc,..).
When under stress, Specialists can often become passive aggressive, restless and defiant. If stress continues to build, Specialists may become self-destructive and careless of their own well-being in an effort to restore excitement or affirmation in their life. If a Specialist is in a state of chronic stress, they may fall into the grip of their inferior function - extroverted thinking, and become “the criticiser”. They may be harsh and critical of others, obsessing over their mistakes and others incompetence. They may have an intense urge to fix perceived problems or right wrongs, but this can often worsen the situation.
What to do: Give them some time alone to process their feelings and thoughts; Validate their feelings, and listen to them. Females are often ready to talk sooner about their feelings than males; Remind them of their strengths; Do not give them advice. It won’t help when they’re stressed; Do not try to reason with them or be logical. Just be patient, calm and affirming; Only after they have calmed down from the stress ask if they would like any help with solutions.
Drama Queen Level Analyser™: Specialists prefer to avoid too much social interaction and often enjoy being with one close friend or loved one. They do have moments where they can be a bit dramatic though, especially if they are seeking the attention of a certain person. Specialists do dislike drama if it hurts someone else and will want to avoid that at any cost. They dislike feeling as if their actions have hurt someone else and will definitely not let their drama harm someone. Specialists do not mind a little drama since they dislike feeling stagnant for too long.
Dreadometer™ - Aversion as well as anxiety for Specialists: Your artwork has been discovered by a famous influencer and you’re catapulted to fame overnight! Unfortunately, the piece of artwork they discovered exposed the secrets of the people you are closest to and they are all furious about it. Now they confront you.
What will vex Specialists: Arrogance; Others with closed minds; Prying; Attention seeking behaviour; Others half listening; Fear of Pressure.
How the Specialist will show signs of Depression: If someone close to them continues to push against beliefs.
What the Specialist fears and a possible solution: Fear is hard to view but you have the upper hand if you know the pattern based on other criteria that you have found on
The Specialist is free-spirited, creative, pragmatic and combines an adventurous spirit with a down-to-earth sense of realism. They fear that the things that matter will slip through if the plan is not followed - cannot get the self managed super fund set up or the savings account is deficient. Another fear is that outside influences will cage the Specialist in and cause loss of freedom if something important is forgotten. Sometimes this fear is irrational and only requires a good talk with a friend to confirm that everything is under control and okay. Sometimes this fear is a warning that some steps need to be taken to ensure long-term security.
Possible Disorders: Cyclothymic Personality Disorder. (Rare - emotional ups and downs)
Procrastination Tendency: Yes. Prompted by pressure need to keep options open and reluctant to make quick decisions, act too quickly, fear of hurting people's feelings, embarrassment, incompetence, pure boredom, making the "wrong decision", not doing the perfect thing, putting off the difficult conversation, task or decision hoping it will resolve itself. Rank 5/16.
10. Can it be the Investigator - INFJ?
Causes of Stress: Having to focus too much on sensory/concrete details; An overload of sensory stimulation or noise; Interruptions; Distress within a close relationship; Having their values violated; Not enough alone time. Too much extroverting; Working with closed-minded people; Lack of appreciation or understanding; Unfamiliar environments with overwhelming amounts of details; Having plans disrupted; Not having a clear direction; Lack of harmony; Criticism and conflict; Not being able to use their intuition or envision the future; Having to focus too much on the present.
When under stress, the Investigator feels fragmented or lost. They feel like they cannot be themselves and feel an urge to act a part to “survive” or fit in. This disassociation can cause physical symptoms like headaches, irritable bowel syndrome or nausea. The repressed feelings they are holding onto can cause them to become immobilised. If they are under chronic extreme stress, they may fall into the grip of their inferior function - extroverted sensing. When this happens, they may engage in indulgent, self-destructive habits like binge-eating, watching too much television, over-exercising or drinking too much. This often feels like an out-of-body experience to them. What they do provides no pleasure, but feels somewhat robotic and out of control. After this occurs, they dwell in self-hatred, falling even more into guilt over what they have done. They may become uncharacteristically angry and quick-tempered, unreasonable and irrational. They may become obsessed with details in their outer world; obsessively cleaning or doing housework. They stumble over their words, and their intense feelings may eventually lead them to a state of complete exhaustion.
What to do: Give them space; Reduce sensory stimulation; music, interruptions, TV, etc,..; Let them express their thoughts and feelings; Understand that they may be irrational. Do not judge them; Do not give advice. This will only stress them out further; Let them take a break from some of their responsibilities; Encourage them to spend some time in nature, walking or reading a book; Take a walk with them if they want company; Encourage their less serious side, and let them relieve emotional tension by letting them cry through a sappy movie or novel of some sort; Be forgiving if they have been overly harsh or critical while under stress. Chances are, they will feel very guilty about it.
Drama Queen Level Analyser™: Investigators tend to truly dislike certain kinds of drama but might find themselves involved in it involuntarily. People often come to their Investigator friends with all of their life and relationship drama in the hope that they will help them. This interest in caring for others is what drags the Investigator into the drama of other people. They can have a secret flare for dramatics and sometimes can appear over the top when it comes to certain things because of their passion. This is because the Investigator is intense people with powerful emotions.
Dreadometer™ - Aversion as well as anxiety for Investigators: You set up a system that was meant to incite world peace. Due to an impossible-to-predict oversight, the system is now functioning in a destructive capacity. You have no ability to dismantle the system and everyone assumes you tricked them into following it on purpose.
What will vex Investigators: Interruptions; Being told to 'get over it'; That others will condemn insights - 'that will never happen'; Being told they have been figured out; Receiving advice; Being considered too serious; Being told they are not trying hard enough; Realising that they will never be understood; Others considering their ideas are weird; Fear of Themselves.
How the Investigator will show signs of Depression: If they feel powerless to help others or if they feel overwhelmed by the world around them.
What the Investigator fears and a possible solution: Fear is hard to view but you have the upper hand if you know the pattern based on other criteria that you have found on
Big-picture focused and imaginative, the Investigator is always keeping an eye on where things will lead. Fear could be something like the destruction of the environment or maybe seeing a friend going in a direction that will inevitably end poorly. Whatever the pattern is, it is usually something that they understand on a gut level but struggle to explain in words. Sleep is lost wondering how to fix things, how to stop a negative pattern from repeating itself or how to warn people so that things can improve. Investigators should realise that even if their insights are correct it will do no good to catastrophise or overwhelm themselves. Need to split facts and beliefs. Write down insights, thoughts, and perceptions in a journal and then close it and sleep on it. The mind typically synthesises all this information causing a fresher perspective in the morning.
Possible Disorders: Avoidant Personality Disorder.
Procrastination Tendency: Unlikely. Rank 9/16.
11. Can it be the Agent - INFP?
Causes of Stress: Rigidity in rules and timelines; Having values violated; Not enough time alone. Too much extroverting; Too many demands on their time; Small-talk; A lack of authenticity from others; Having their creativity stifled; Having to focus too extensively on sensory/concrete details; Criticism or confrontation; Fear that they might lose someone or something (relationship/task, etc,..).
When under stress, an Agent gets lost in internal turmoil. They feel caught between pleasing others and maintaining their own integrity and taking care of their well-being. Their natural tendency to identify with others, compounded with their self-sacrificial tendencies, leaves them confused about who they really are. They feel lost and perplexed during stressful times; and as stress builds they can fall into the grip of their inferior function - extroverted thinking. When this happens, they will do things that are typically out of character. They may become obsessed with fixing perceived problems and righting wrongs. They may blurt out hostile thoughts or engage in destructive fantasies directed at just about anyone available. They also may have biting sarcasm and cynicism. They may become aggressively critical to others and themselves, dwelling on all the “facts” necessary to support their overwhelming sense of failure.
What to do: Give them space and time alone to sort out their feelings; Validate their feelings; Remind them of their strengths; Do not give them advice. This will only make them feel worse; Let them “get away” from it all; Exercise can help. However, with these types it is best not to suggest it when they are stressed, but after, as a solution; Forgive them if they’ve been overly critical while stressed; Let them work on a project they have been interested in, but maybe have been too busy to spend time on.
Drama Queen Level Analyser™: Agents definitely dislike most drama and try their hardest to avoid it when they can. They do not enjoy being caught in the middle of fights or relationship struggles and prefer to keep the peace. Agents might be a little dramatic when it comes to the things they are passionate about and can appear emotional at times. They simply are honest about their feelings and dislike hiding their intentions from others. They have powerful emotions and morals which can cause them to appear dramatic to people who do not understand them. Ultimately Agents dislike drama if it is going to harm or upset someone.
Dreadometer™ - Aversion as well as anxiety for Agents: A piece of art that you put into the world with the intent of inspiring peace and understanding has been misinterpreted and is now being used to support an evil, intolerant regime.
What will vex Agents: Being phony, dishonest or pretentious; Narrow minded judgments; Being put on the spot; Others with poor listening skills; Fear of Meaninglessness.
How the Agent will show signs of Depression: If they believe they are not doing enough for others or because they do not feel understood by people.
What the Agent fears and a possible solution: Fear is hard to view but you have the upper hand if you know the pattern based on other criteria that you have found on
The Agent looks at the state of the world and sees corruption, greed, and pain everywhere. Reading a story in the news about someone who was hurt causes imagination to feel the depths of that experience. Agents worry about a future where freedom is a distant memory and conformity is the only way to survive. Fear for the people who are being persecuted, dismissed or lost. The troubles of the world can become a heavy weight. Possible solutions are unplugging, turn off the phone, TV and social media and get outside in the natural world. Should try to write down 10 things for which they are thankful for before going to bed. Get enough sleep. Take a hot bath or read a favourite book. Confide in a trusted friend with the worries or play with a favorite pet. Find a simple but meaningful way to contribute to the world, whether that means helping out at a soup kitchen or volunteering at an animal shelter to walk dogs.
Possible Disorders: Histrionic Personality Disorder.
Procrastination Tendency: Yes. Prompted by pressure need to keep options open and reluctant to make quick decisions, act too quickly, fear of hurting people's feelings, embarrassment, incompetence, pure boredom, making the "wrong decision", not doing the perfect thing, putting off the difficult conversation, task or decision hoping it will resolve itself. Rank 2/16.
12. Can it be the Achiever - ISTP?
Causes of Stress: Tight restrictions and a rigid structure; Being in controlling relationships; Dealing with irrational people; Having to use theoretical or intuitive concepts for a prolonged period; Being in an emotionally charged environment; Lack of alone time; Too much extroverting; Being in a non-challenging work environment; Doing repetitive, mundane tasks; Not having their personal values respected or validated; Workaholic schedules that lead to work / life imbalance.
When Achievers experience an overload of stress, they may try to respond by lashing out against whatever is causing it. They may violate rules and regulations that they feel are controlling them; they may feel a need to “get even”. They may become emotionally obsessed with logic and proving a point, while losing track of organisation and losing objects or misplacing them. In cases of chronic stress, Achievers may fall into the grip of their inferior function - extroverted feeling, and become very emotive. They will become hypersensitive about their relationships with others and misinterpret small, insignificant details into the belief that others dislike or hate them. They may become uncharacteristically emotional and/or bitter towards others.
What to do: Give them alone time and space; Excuse them from some of their responsibilities; Let them “get away” from everything; Do not ask how they feel; Encourage them to exercise; Let them read a mystery novel or do something that engages light problem solving; Forgive their out-of-character behaviour.
Drama Queen Level Analyser™: Achievers definitely dislike drama and will do their best to avoid it at all costs. If they are around someone who is constantly over dramatic and emotional, the Achievers will become very frustrated. They often prefer people who are secure and stable and dislike emotionally messy individuals. Achievers enjoy having excitement in their lives, but they do not want this in the form of drama. They would much rather seek out exciting new hobbies and fun things to participate in with their loved ones.
Dreadometer™ - Aversion as well as anxiety for Achievers: You become an overnight celebrity. You wake up one morning with reporters in your house, recording every move and interviewing you about everything you do. There is nothing you do can get them to leave or lose interest.
What will vex Achievers: Bad driving; Complaining; Inefficiency and incompetence; Chatterboxes; Emotional overreactions; Fear of Restrictions.
How the Achiever will show signs of Depression: If they seclude themselves for long periods of time and will completely alienate themselves from others. Will not notice that they are depressed for a long time.
What the Appraiser fears and a possible solution: Fear is hard to view but you have the upper hand if you know the pattern based on other criteria that you have found on
The appraiser is independent and logical, generally stoic and reserved, and may might pride themselves in not being afraid of anything. Knows what is real and what is irrational. Their fear is the idea of someone close struggling and not being there to defend or protect them. e.g. A loved one dying, a child getting hurt, someone hurting your dog. If someone is bullying a defenceless person the Appraiser is likely to step right in and teach that bully a lesson that will never be forgotten. Fear that plagues the Appraiser tends to occur when they feel physically inept or incapable of protecting those close or themselves and their own autonomy. Sometimes this fear might serve as a reminder for them to send a text to the person you care about letting them know how appreciated they are. Sometimes the fear is just temporary and some sleep will blunt its sharp edges.
Possible Disorders: Antisocial Personality Disorder.
Procrastination Tendency: Yes. Prompted by pressure need to keep options open and reluctant to make quick decisions, act too quickly, fear of hurting people's feelings, embarrassment, incompetence, pure boredom, making the "wrong decision", not doing the perfect thing, putting off the difficult conversation, task or decision hoping it will resolve itself. Rank 8/16.
13. Can it be the Practitioner - ISFJ?
Causes of Stress: Overexerting themselves by saying “yes” to too many projects; Conflict or criticism; Lack of positive feedback; Environments filled with tension; Looming deadlines; Being asked to do things in a way that is not clearly defined; Having to overuse being in the role of having to constantly act as “the responsible one"; Dealing too long with abstract or theoretical concepts; Unfamiliar territory or uncertainty.
When faced with stress, Practitioners become discouraged and depressed. They start to imagine all the things that could go wrong and they may feel a strong sense of inadequacy. They may feel that everything is all wrong, or that they can not do anything right. If they are in a state of chronic stress, they may fall into the grip of their inferior function - extroverted intuition. When this happens they may start acting completely out of character. They may be at odds with normally relied upon facts and details, they may see everything as awful and feel “doomed”. They may become withdrawn, angry, irritable and pessimistic. They will probably feel emotionally overwhelmed and find themselves worrying about all kinds of horrible possibilities.
What to do: Give them space or time alone to work through their feelings; Provide provable affirmations about ways they have overcome situations like this in the past; Help them break down problems into manageable pieces; Do not give generalised compliments. Make compliments specific; Put a problem or task in sequential order; Do not brainstorm. When they are in the grip of extroverted intuition, this will only make things worse; Let them engage their auxiliary extroverted feeling by reading materials that are personally moving, or spiritual; Encourage them to get some physical exercise (without making it sound like an insult); Let them talk about their irrational fears or feelings and give them quiet, calm reassurance; Take them seriously. Do not patronise or judge them.
Drama Queen Level Analyser™: Practitioners are peace-keepers and often do their best to avoid drama. They want to make their loved ones happy and, because of this, drama is often very upsetting for Practitioners. They will do whatever they can to calm things down and will attempt to fix whatever problems have come up. Practitioners definitely do not enjoy causing drama and instead will work hard to fix the drama in their environment. Practitioners definitely prefer to keep the peace, which makes drama their enemy.
Dreadometer™ - Aversion as well as anxiety for Practitioners: There is only one way to please the people you love, and it involves breaking rules, challenging authority, duping the system and instilling chaos where there once was harmony.
What will vex Practitioners: Inconsiderate behaviour; Interrupted plans; Touchy-feely strangers; Lateness; Bad grammar and poor spelling; Fear of Loss.
How the Practitioner will show signs of Depression: If they find themselves more closed off from the world around them and be afraid to step out of their comfort zone.
What the Practitioner fears and a possible solution: Fear is hard to view but you have the upper hand if you know the pattern based on other criteria that you have found on
The Practitioner is conscientious and pragmatic and likes to create a stable, tranquil atmosphere for the people cared about. They like consistency and knowing that the people close are all on good terms. When conflict arises, particularly unresolved conflict, it feels like the Practitioner can never rest till peace is made. The Practitioner might lie awake re-playing everything they did wrong even if the other person is more at fault. Also, works too hard to find a practical solution for a problem that has nothing to do with the Practitioner. Has a hard time resting with animosity or knowing that someone close is in emotional distress. Should remind themselves that only they can control how they feel. Needs to realise that everyone encounters enemies and should concentrate who the true friends are and who really cares. Also it is not the Practitioner's job to “spin the plates” for everyone close as people need to learn to solve their own problems. Should pull energy in if getting too stressed and burned out and remember that sometimes the kindest thing to do is to let people deal with their own feelings.
Possible Disorders: Dependent Personality Disorder.
Procrastination Tendency: Unlikely. Rank 12/16.
14. Can it be the Objective Thinker - ISTJ?
Causes of Stress: Being in an environment that is in disarray; Looming deadlines; Being forced or asked to do things that do not make sense to them; Being asked to do something without a plan or direction; Frequent change; Having to innovate without any past experience to rely on; Being asked to do something spontaneously; Too much extroversion (excess people contact); Emotionally charged situations; Unfamiliar surroundings; Dealing too long with abstract or theoretical concepts.
When faced with stress overload, OTs may fall into “catastrophe mode”, where they see nothing but all the potential of what could go wrong. They may beat themselves up; berating themselves for things which could have been done differently, or duties which they failed to perform. They will lose their ability to see things calmly and reasonably and can become depressed at what they see as a bleak future. Under chronic stress, the OT may fall into the grip of their inferior function - extroverted intuition, and become a “dramatiser”. They may become intensely angry, rigid in what they are doing, outwardly critical, pessimistic and embrace an overwhelming fear of the future.
What to do: Give them plenty of space; Listen, and provide provable affirmation of how they have overcome or done something well in the past; Break a task down into manageable pieces; Do not give generalized compliments; Put things that have to be done in sequential order; Do not brainstorm. If they are in the grip of their inferior function, extroverted intuition, brainstorming will only make things worse; Do not give them more to do. Give them a break from responsibilities if possible; Take them seriously. Do not patronize or judge them; Encourage them to exercise, unless this would sound like an insult.
Drama Queen Level Analyser™: OTs definitely dislike drama and will do their best to avoid it at all costs. They might find themselves caught up in the drama of others especially since they have a deeply caring side to them. After a while though, the OT will find themselves pulling away from people who are overly dramatic. If the drama of others negatively affects their lives they will definitely not want to be around this type of behaviour. They do not mind someone who is a little dramatic for the sake of humor or silliness, since it is not actually harming anyone.
Dreadometer™ - Aversion as well as anxiety for OTs: You have been appointed to a highly-esteemed leadership position. Unfortunately, the people you are meant to be managing are singularly interested in challenging and breaking the rules at every opportunity. You will have to face the consequences if the situation continues.
What will vex OTs: Crowds; Strange environment; Uncertainty; Financial ruin; Abandonment; Home invasion; Loss of loved ones; Ill health; Driving over train tracks; Unexpected phone calls; Fear of Inadequacy.
How the Objective Thinker will show signs of Depression: If they keep to themselves and might be hard to reach and will continue performing their daily tasks and might dive harder into their work.
What the OT fears and a possible solution: Fear is hard to view but you have the upper hand if you know the pattern based on other criteria that you have found on
The OT is a firm believer in hard work and creating stability for themselves and the people close. Feeling like life is out-of-control or the people close cannot be counted on is maddening. Likes knowing what to depend on and who can be trusted with absolute certainty. Sometimes feels like all the work done is taken for granted and that nobody actually notices any of it. If has to wake up to an emotionally chaotic, unstable environment may find it hard to relax at night and rest. The trepidation of knowing that is what awaits the next morning can make it hard to settle down. A possible solution is to recognise that is probably time to assess the situation with someone absolutely trusted. Find out if there are any inter-personal issues that need sorting out. Getting regular, scheduled alone time and some semblance of a schedule is vital. It is also important for people to respect an OT's need for certainty. Sometimes 'counselling' can be an effective way to deal with this and sometimes just an open and honest conversation is all it takes.
Possible Disorders: Depressive Personality Disorder.
Procrastination Tendency: Unlikely. Rank 16/16.
15. Can it be the Perfectionist - INTP?
Causes of Stress: Being in an environment where they feel controlled by others; Being required to do simple and repetitive tasks; Being surrounded by individuals they see as incompetent; A lack of autonomy; Being in charge of the quality of another person’s work; Not enough alone time. Too much extroverting; Being immersed in emotionally charged environments; Being in a place where their expertise is not appreciated; People “barging in” on their space; Not having their strongly held values validated.
When a Perfectionist begins to experience stress, they often feel highly self-critical and powerless. If stress continues, the Perfectionist feels as if their mind is blocked and they can not access all the vital information they have stored there. Their creativity comes to a halt and they may suffer from stage fright, writer’s block, and a general inhibition of their usual ingenious thinking. The Perfectionist may become self-conscious and distracted in anticipation of failure. If they become too overwhelmed with stress, they may stop taking any risks and fail to gain the expertise and mastery they need. In the case of chronic stress, may fall into the grip of their inferior function - extroverted feeling. This may cause them to have uncharacteristic emotional outbursts, and become edgy, illogical, inefficient and obsessed with details.
What to do: Give them alone time and space; Excuse them from some of their responsibilities; Let them get away from everything; Do not ask them how they feel or if they are okay; Encourage them to have some alone time exercising; Let them know it is okay to feel unreasonable sometimes; Stay out of the way and forgive out-of-characteristic behaviour.
Drama Queen Level Analyser™: Perfectionists truly dislike drama especially if they feel like it is affecting the lives of others. They truly hate feeling like their time is being wasted by the dramatics of others. Perfectionists might become frustrated by people who are overly dramatic and emotionally expressive. They do dislike drama but they might find themselves observing certain dramatic people in order to understand their behaviour. Perfectionists are observers, and prefer to analyse the behaviour of others rather than participate directly in it. This helps them understand how who they can and cannot trust and helps the Perfectionist decide who they want to let into their world.
Dreadometer™ - Aversion as well as anxiety for Perfectionists: Before experimenting with any new idea, you must first pass the idea through a review board who loathes change and wish to uphold the status quo at all costs. Illegally you conducted experiments that are punishable by death.
What will vex Perfectionists: Gossip; Being told to smile; Others making quick judgments; Others pulling rank; Being pushed to socialise too much; Fear of Disappointment.
How the Perfectionist will show signs of Depression: If they have surprising emotional outbursts. If they are feeling pressured from those closest to them, it might result in them snapping at those people.
What the Perfectionist fears and a possible solution: Fear is hard to view but you have the upper hand if you know the pattern based on other criteria that you have found on
The Perfectionist likes to appear calm, cool, and collected on the surface and values autonomy and their own personal space. Digging deep into a theory or philosophy gives them a thrill. But underneath all that independence they crave meaningful companionship. The Perfectionist worries about what they say, whether too much is revealed or whether they will ever know enough information to be content. Fear is uncertainty about where they stand with the people close where depth is wanted but they do not want to put yourself on display or risk being too vulnerable or be rejected. Michael Jordan was cut from varsity basketball in his sophomore year because he "wasn’t good enough". Putting themselves out into the world to show off their work, making friends or pursuing a relationship can be a scary thing. But without trying the Perfectionist will never know what could be gained.
Possible Disorders: Schizoid Personality Disorder, Hoarding.
Procrastination Tendency: Yes. Prompted by pressure need to keep options open and reluctant to make quick decisions, act too quickly, fear of hurting people's feelings, embarrassment, incompetence, pure boredom, making the "wrong decision", not doing the perfect thing, putting off the difficult conversation, task or decision hoping it will resolve itself. Rank 4/16.
16. Can it be the Enhancer - INTJ?
Causes of Stress: Being in an environment that does not appreciate their skills, visions or ideas; Not enough alone time; Too much extroverting; Too much noise or sensory input; Working with those they see as lazy, incompetent or ignorant; Having to pay attention to too many details at once; Being in unfamiliar surroundings; Having their well-settled plans disrupted; Too much focus on the here-and-now; Not being able to use their intuition to envision the future.
When in a state of stress, the Enhancer can feel an immense amount of pressure – as if everything is on the line. This often means the ability to produce something significant is somehow stifled. They may find themselves overwhelmed and thinking about ideas and options that do not have a productive end. As stress increases, the Enhancer can become argumentative and disagreeable. Social interaction becomes increasingly difficult and they may become preoccupied with obsessive ideas and plans. They may start to spend a massive amount of time fighting horrible thoughts and feelings of worthlessness. They will ruminate (go over and over in the mind) about their mistakes, inadequacies and weaknesses and stop progress on a project for fear of failure. In a case of chronic stress may fall into the grip of their inferior function - extroverted sensing. When this happens, they may give into self-destructive indulgences such as over-eating, over-exercising, over using alcohol or buying lots of useless items. They may obsessively clean or re-organise files.
What to do: Give them space, and time alone to process their thoughts and feelings; Reduce sensory stimulation like noise, TV, radio, or bright lights; Let them express their thoughts and feelings without judgment; Understand that they may be irrational; Do not give them advice. This will only make them feel worse; Give them a break from responsibilities; Encourage them to get enough sleep at night; Help them lighten their schedule, or cancel unnecessary activities; Recommend avoidance of non essential socialising activities; Have a best friend who can listen; Encourage movies, reading, playing music; Do not give them caffeine or sugar; After some time of solitude, encourage them to get a change of scenery by going outdoors.
Drama Queen Level Analyser™: Enhancers usually hate dramatics and dislike being around people who are overly dramatic. Someone who chooses to be emotional about the most pointless things will absolutely annoy the Enhancer. They prefer to avoid other people’s pointless drama and will keep to themselves as much as they can. They would much rather have people in their lives that avoid drama and who prefer to participate in activities that enrich their minds and souls. Enhancers do not mind small theatrics and understand that sometimes people need to dramatise in order to fully make their point known. In most cases though, Enhancers prefer logic over drama and over the top behaviour.
Dreadometer™ - Aversion as well as anxiety for Enhancers: You have at last discovered the true, universal secret that governs the universe. You can save humanity with it, but humanity will only listen to celebrities such as Paris Hilton, who you have to teach and she remarks that these truths are not hot.
What will vex Enhancers: Interruptions; Surprises; Small Talk; Emotional manipulation; Not being seen as competent; Interference of 'alone time'; Fear of Failure.
How the Enhancer will show signs of Depression: If they have irrational thoughts will often attempt to search for things that can quell this problem. They might try diving into things that have helped them feel happy before, but some of these things are not the mostly healthy outlets e.g. drinking or reckless behaviour which will fail. Will not ask for help and might even revert into themselves.
What the Enhancer fears and a possible solution: Fear is hard to view but you have the upper hand if you know the pattern based on other criteria that you have found on
The Enhancer is typically sure of their vision and determined to achieve it and many people think there is nothing that they fear. They like to show a brave face to the world, but this does not mean that nothing worries the Enhancer at all. They know that fear of failure is irrational and that bravely focussing on the goal is the smartest thing to do. But sometimes they feel concerned about spending all of their time on a project or idea that will never get off the ground. they worry about their vision being wrong or realising their time is being wasted. Time is valuable and it is a currency that is always being spent whether they are awake or asleep. A huge fear is that getting to the end or their life and realising they spent all that time on a misguided plan or a vision that never came to fruition. Enhancers should realise that all the great entrepreneurs and visionaries have failed at one point or another. e.g. Steve Jobs. Enhancers need to remember that there is something incredible to be learned from nearly every negative experience, so failure or no failure, there is no reason to give up hope. If it becomes apparent that there is no possible future value in plugging along on a project, that project should be binned and the Enhancer should move on, even if it means selecting neutral for a while.
Possible Disorders: Schizotypal Personality Disorder.
Procrastination Tendency: Unlikely. Rank 13/16.