Generally, this consultancy uses the various techniques based in the positive side of things. This is really part of a 'go to' section. Seeing others stressed out is an easy type of behaviour to observe. Here are all the sixteen clearly evident stress conditions! And what to do! Contact us for an obligation free quote.
Causes of Stress: Being in an environment that is in disarray; Frequent disruptions; Irrational behavior; Being surrounded by (or guilty of) incompetence; Unexpected changes; Lack of control; Laziness in others; Not having their strongly held values validated; Guilt over being critical towards others; Dealing too long with abstract or theoretical concepts; Being in a highly-charged emotional environment for too long.
When overwhelmed by stress, Directors often feel isolated from others. They feel as if they are misunderstood and undervalued, and that their efforts are taken for granted. When under stress, they have a hard time putting their feelings into words and communicating them to others. If they are under frequent, chronic stress, they may fall into the grip of their inferior function; introverted feeling. When this happens, they can develop a “martyr complex” - i.e. When they don’t get what they want, they victimize, dramatize and exaggerate about the difficulties and problems they have had to endure. The Director will be uncharacteristically emotional, withdraw from others, become hypersensitive about their relationships, and misinterpret tiny, insignificant details into personal attacks. Physically, they may feel tension headaches, and neck or shoulder aches from tension in their body.
What to do: Give them some time to be left alone during and immediately after an incident; Avoid directly attacking the problem right away; Help them break down larger projects into smaller pieces; Listen to them. Let them talk it out; After some time of listening, discuss information or ideas that could lead to solutions; Validate their feelings; Don’t be overly-sympathetic; Don’t respond emotionally.
What will annoy Directors: Laziness; Procrastination; Others lateness; Mess and clutter; Belittling of beliefs or political views.
Causes of Stress: Being in an environment that lacks vision or ideas for the future; Being in an environment where others don’t appreciate their vision; Being interrupted; Being surrounded by (or guilty of) incompetence; Poorly managed change; Laziness; Having to be a follower instead of a leader; Not being able to make their goals come to fruition; Having to deal with intense emotions from others; Feeling guilt over being critical towards others; Not having their strongly held values validated or respected; Small talk or frivolous conversations.
When experiencing stress, Developers may at first become argumentative and combative with anyone who is causing it. They may feel that they are losing control, and feel an urgent need to complete a task. If the stress continues, they become distracted by the urgency and need to get something done. They may engage in compulsive, misdirected activities like cleaning, counting, or inspecting. They will feel a growing sense of failure and a rising sense of anger and frustration. If they are in a state of chronic stress, they may fall into the grip of their inferior function, introverted feeling. When this happens they may become uncharacteristically emotional and furious and withdraw from others to prevent anyone seeing their lack of emotional stability. They may become hypersensitive about their relationships, misinterpreting tiny, insignificant details and believing that others hate or dislike them.
What to do: Give them some space and time alone to sort out their feelings; Listen and let them talk it out when they’re ready; Discuss information or ideas that could lead to solutions; Don’t be overly sympathetic or emotional; Give them a change of scenery by getting outdoors with them; Encourage them to vent their frustration without fear of judgment; Remind them that they are OK and it is perfectly fine to feel the way they do and that you won’t judge them. This last one may be very difficult for Enhancers to do.
What will annoy Developers: Mediocrity; Being helpless; Stupidity; Being controlled; Not meeting potential; Fear of Alzheimers; Compromise; Not improving; Being incompetent or dealing with incompetence.
Causes of Stress: Rigidly enforced rules; Having to plan far into the future; Feeling out of control; Being asked to complete tasks without detailed directions or processes; Large amounts of book work, theory or writing; Being forced to make commitments or plans before they’re ready; Being forced to make decisions or eliminate options before they’re ready; Having to spend a lot of time following someone else’s rules or schedule; Being in a situation where they have to use a lot of theoretical or intuitive concepts; Being around people who are excessively serious.
When faced with stress, Results folk tend to feel empty or hollow inside. Their first impulse may be to seek revenge for whatever has caused them stress. They may do this by mocking other people’s values or becoming increasingly anti-social and disdainful of others. If they are in a state of chronic stress, they may fall into the grip of their inferior function, introverted intuition, and become a “dramatizer”. When this happens, they may do things that are completely out of character for them. They may lose their naturally easy going, agreeable character and begin to have fearful fantasies of the future, ideas of impending doom swirling in their minds. They may begin to assign big meaning to small occurrences and become preoccupied with the meaning of life and the future of mankind and the universe in a way that is usually filled with gloom and disillusionment.
What to do: Give them space initially or directly after the event; Listen to them. Understand that they will likely be irrational; Don’t tell them how to fix it. This will only make them feel more helpless; Give gentle affirmations or encouragement; Help them sort out their priorities, paying careful attention to their feelings.
What will annoy Results: Others planning their schedule; Others seeking attention at all costs; Being controlled or trapped; Others complaining without wanting a solution; Slow pace; Having plans or logic dismissed.
Causes of Stress: An environment where rules are rigidly enforced; A lack of change or progression; A lack of outside stimulation; Being micromanaged; Having their creativity stifled; Being forced to make decisions or complete projects before they’re ready; Working with individuals they view as incompetent; Not having their visions appreciated; Having their principles violated; Having to focus too long on mundane details; Overextending themselves.
When an Inspirational is experiencing stress, they become distracted and overwhelmed, losing their signature “can do” attitude. They may feel incompetent, inept, and inadequate. They can become overwhelmed with fear, panic and anxiety and will feel a need to escape whatever situation is plaguing them. Their creativity will be stifled and, if the stress isn’t handled, they will fall into the grip of their inferior function, introverted sensing. When they fall into the grip of their inferior function, they will become uncharacteristically quiet and reserved. They will feel depressed and stew on ways they have failed. They may notice minor bodily changes and become convinced that they are suffering from some life-threatening disease. They often become hypochondriacs, imagining all kinds of ailments that are befalling them physically.
What to do: Give them time alone to deal with their feelings; Avoid patronizing them, even if they are being irrational; Don’t try to “solve the problem”; Listen without making judgments, or trying to talk them out of their negative state; Encourage them to have some time alone to exercise; Encourage them to get enough rest; Give them a massage; After they’ve calmed down a little, ask if they want help.
What will annoy Inspirationals: Being controlled or trapped; Not truly connected to another person; Laziness; Mediocrity; Not meeting potential; Boredom; Relationship commitment; Stupidity; Loss of loved one; Being seen as incompetent, inadequate or stupid; Losing rational use of the mind.
"How you say something is always more important that what you say."
Causes of Stress: Being in critical or confrontational environments; Lack of appreciation or affirmation; Lack of harmony; Unexpected change; Inadequate time to complete work to their standards; Tense relationships or environments; Having to do mundane, repetitive tasks; Having to conform with something that goes against their values; Over-empathizing with others to the point of losing track of their own needs; Being misunderstood or not trusted; People not living up to their idealized expectations.
When a Persuader experiences stress, they often disassociate themselves from the situation in an effort to protect their sense of well-being and togetherness. They may repress the unpleasant side of life for so long, that it gradually intensifies until the Persuader explodes with emotion and/or charged anger. Often the body will reflect pent-up stress by manifesting various physical symptoms, like headaches, shoulder tension or an upset stomach. In the case of chronic stress, the Persuader may fall into the grip of their inferior function, introverted thinking. When this happens, the Persuader may uncharacteristically lash out at others, obsess over their mistakes, lack of competence and flaws. Eventually, these criticisms will turn inward and the Persuader will withdraw from others to self-criticize. He or she may become obsessive about analyzing irrelevant data to find some ultimate truth or reason for their stress.
What to do: Acknowledge how they feel; Let them talk it out; Remind them of their strengths and contributions; Don’t use logic to talk them out of their stress; Don’t ignore them, even if they seem irrational; Give them a change of scenery to get away from the situation; Go outdoors. Do some type of exercise with them; Watch a lighthearted movie or comedy with them; Do not patronize or dismiss their concerns.
What will annoy Persuaders: Lying; Unreliability; Disloyalty; Selfishness; Bullying.
Causes of Stress: Unstructured environment; Having to do things that involve abstract, theoretical concepts; Environments that have tension or conflict; Unexpected change; Inadequate time to complete work to their standards; Tense or confrontational relationships or situations; Situations that don’t meld with their values; Lack of trust in someone or something they’re involved with; Criticism; Feeling unappreciated.
When faced with stress, Appraisers can become very critical and overly sensitive, often imagining bad intentions where there weren’t any. Being prone to insecurity, they can focus all their attention on pleasing those who give them security. This may lead them to become staunchly attached to a toxic relationship, structure, or belief system that provides them some sort of affirmation or security. They can become quite dramatic when under stress, finding fault with almost everyone and everything. They can experience low energy, a feeling of depression and pessimism. They become uncharacteristically quiet and withdrawn. If they are under chronic stress, they may fall into the grip of their inferior function; introverted thinking. This can cause them to take on the form of “the condemner”, focusing on everyone’s flaws and all the ways they have been hurt by them and how those flaws go against their belief system and how things “should be”.
What to do: Give them a change of scenery. Let them spend some time outdoors; Encourage them to exercise (without making it a dig at their weight or health); Watch a comedy with them, or engage them with some humor or lighthearted entertainment; Acknowledge how they feel; Let them talk it out; Remind them of their strengths and contributions; Don’t use logic to talk them out of stress; Don’t ignore them; Give them feedback. Talk about a similar situation you went through; Get them away from the environment or situation that is stressing them out; Give them an enjoyable book to read, or a lighthearted movie to watch.
What will annoy Appraisers: Lateness; Lack of follow through; Verbal manipulation (trolling); Being taken advantage of.
Causes of Stress: Environments where rules are rigidly enforced; Focusing on repetitive, detailed tasks; Having to focus too much on sensory details; Having to focus too much on the past or present; Not being able to use their intuition; Constraints on brainstorming or envisioning; A lack of outside stimulation; Being micromanaged; Having creativity stifled; Having to complete projects before they’re ready; Criticism; Lack of appreciation; Having their values violated; Overextending themselves for others.
Promoters tend to overextend themselves and procrastinate, which is often a source of stress as it complicates their lives. When they become stressed, their naturally charming natures become more irritable and over-sensitive. When stressed, Promoters feel alienated and engage in deceptions to obscure what is occurring within themselves. They will feel that they are losing control over their own independent identities and feel conflicted by intruding circumstances. During continued stress, they may fall into the grip of their inferior function, introverted sensing. When this happens, they become obsessive and depressed. They will become hyper-aware of minor bodily sensations or abnormalities and interpret them as a sign of a serious illness. They may have a hard time communicating clearly and feel numb and frozen inside. Their thinking may become cloudy and convoluted. They will feel that there are no possibilities or ways out. They may feel overwhelmed, out of control, unable to sort out priorities and thus become inflexible. Some become obsessive about record keeping, cleaning or other household tasks.
What to do: Give them space and time alone to sort out their feelings; Remind them that they are able and competent; Give them permission to “escape”; Don’t give them advice. It won’t help right now; Don’t ask for details; Don’t try to “fix” the problem; Meditation often helps Promoters; Listen to them; Encourage them to exercise; Encourage them to get enough sleep; Encourage them to get a massage; Be warm and kind in the way you speak to them; After they’ve calmed down a little, ask them if they want help evaluating the situation. Be wary that Promoters are terrible in that they will not commit; sometimes force is required!
What will annoy Promoters: Being alone; Death of loved ones; Meaninglessness; Not meeting potential; Abandonment; Hurting others feelings; Being morally flawed and not knowing it; The after life consequences; Missing out.
Causes of Stress: An environment of rigidly enforced rules; Long-term planning; Having to think far into the future; Being forced to make commitments and plans; Criticism or confrontation; Feeling out of control; Being asked to complete tasks without detailed directions or processes; Lack of hands-on experiences; Too much time alone; Too much book work, theory, or writing; Having to sit still for too long.
When Counselors experience stress, they may become passively resistant initially. They might become bored and feel empty and listless. They may try to retaliate against the people who are causing them stress by annoying them or trying to irritate them. When overwhelmed with stress, they may become self-destructive, regressing emotionally and acting in an immature fashion. In the case of chronic stress, Counselors may fall into the grip of their inferior function; introverted intuition. When this happens, the Counselor can become highly exaggerative, dramatically foretelling the doom that the future will hold. They may see hidden meanings and visions of despair for the future and struggle with misinterpreting things people say. This is highly uncharacteristic since they are usually very optimistic and friendly people who want to maintain harmony.
What to do: Listen thoughtfully and patiently; Give them space initially to sort out their feelings, but be ready to talk to them as are often helped by talking things through; Understand that they will be irrational. Be patient with this; Don’t tell them how to fix it. This makes them feel more helpless; Encourage them to exercise or spend some time outdoors; Tell them what they are doing well.
What will annoy Counselors: Planning ahead; Beating about the bush; Being micro managed; Negativity; Others who chew, eat or drink loudly.
Causes of Stress: Rigid structure and rules; Having to violate their deeply held values; Not enough alone time. Too much extraverting; Too many demands or obligations; Having to deal with excessive data; Long-term planning; Criticism; Lack of appreciation from others; Feeling that they are about to lose something (relationship/task, etc,..).
When under stress, Specialists can often become passive aggressive, restless and defiant. If stress continues to build, Specialists may become self-destructive and careless of their own well-being in an effort to restore excitement or affirmation in their life. If a Specialist is in a state of chronic stress, they may fall into the grip of their inferior function, extraverted thinking, and become “the criticizer”. They may be harsh and critical of others, obsessing over their mistakes and others incompetence. They may have an intense urge to fix perceived problems or right wrongs, but this can often worsen the situation.
What to do: Give them some time alone to process their feelings and thoughts; Validate their feelings, and listen to them. Females are often ready to talk sooner about their feelings than males; Remind them of their strengths; Don’t give them advice. It won’t help when they’re stressed; Don’t try to reason with them or be logical. Just be patient, calm and affirming; Only after they’ve calmed down from the stress ask if they’d like any help with solutions.
What will annoy Specialists: Arrogance; Others with closed minds; Prying; Attention seeking behaviour; Others half listening.
Causes of Stress: Having to focus too much on sensory/concrete details; An overload of sensory stimulation or noise; Interruptions; Distress within a close relationship; Having their values violated; Not enough alone time. Too much extraverting; Working with closed-minded people; Lack of appreciation or understanding; Unfamiliar environments with overwhelming amounts of details; Having plans disrupted; Not having a clear direction; Lack of harmony; Criticism and conflict; Not being able to use their intuition or envision the future; Having to focus too much on the present.
When under stress, the Investigator feels fragmented or lost. They feel like they can’t be themselves and feel an urge to act a part to “survive” or fit in. This disassociation can cause physical symptoms like headaches, irritable bowel syndrome or nausea. The repressed feelings they’re holding onto can cause them to become immobilized. If they are under chronic extreme stress, they may fall into the grip of their inferior function, extraverted sensing. When this happens, they may engage in indulgent, self-destructive habits like binge-eating, watching too much television, over-exercising or drinking too much. This often feels like an out-of-body experience to them. What they do provides no pleasure, but feels somewhat robotic and out of control. After this occurs, they dwell in self-hatred, falling even more into guilt over what they’ve done. They may become uncharacteristically angry and quick-tempered, unreasonable and irrational. They may become obsessed with details in their outer world; obsessively cleaning or doing housework. They stumble over their words, and their intense feelings may eventually lead them to a state of complete exhaustion.
What to do: Give them space; Reduce sensory stimulation; music, interruptions, TV, etc,..; Let them express their thoughts and feelings; Understand that they may be irrational. Don’t judge them; Don’t give advice. This will only stress them out further; Let them take a break from some of their responsibilities; Encourage them to spend some time in nature, walking or reading a book; Take a walk with them if they want company; Encourage their less serious side, and let them relieve emotional tension by letting them cry through a sappy movie or novel of some sort; Be forgiving if they’ve been overly harsh or critical while under stress. Chances are, they will feel very guilty about it.
What will annoy Investigators: Interruptions; Being told to 'get over it'; That others will condemn insights - 'that will never happen'; Being told they have been figured out; Receiving advice; Being considered too serious; Being told they are not trying hard enough; Realising that they will never be understood; Others considering their ideas are weird.
Causes of Stress: Rigidity in rules and timelines; Having values violated; Not enough time alone. Too much extraverting; Too many demands on their time; Small-talk; A lack of authenticity from others; Having their creativity stifled; Having to focus too extensively on sensory/concrete details; Criticism or confrontation; Fear that they might lose someone or something (relationship/task, etc,..).
When under stress, an Agent gets lost in internal turmoil. They feel caught between pleasing others and maintaining their own integrity and taking care of their well-being. Their natural tendency to identify with others, compounded with their self-sacrificial tendencies, leaves them confused about who they really are. They feel lost and perplexed during stressful times; and as stress builds they can fall into the grip of their inferior function, extraverted thinking. When this happens, they will do things that are typically out of character. They may become obsessed with fixing perceived problems, and righting wrongs. They may blurt out hostile thoughts or engage in destructive fantasies directed at just about anyone available. They also may have biting sarcasm and cynicism. They may become aggressively critical to others and themselves, dwelling on all the “facts” necessary to support their overwhelming sense of failure.
What to do: Give them space and time alone to sort out their feelings; Validate their feelings; Remind them of their strengths; Don’t give them advice. This will only make them feel worse; Let them “get away” from it all; Exercise can help. However, with these types it’s best not to suggest it when they are stressed, but after, as a solution; Forgive them if they’ve been overly critical while stressed; Let them work on a project they’ve been interested in, but maybe have been too busy to spend time on.
What will annoy Agents: Being phony, dishonest or pretentious; Narrow minded judgments; Being put on the spot; Others with poor listening skills.
Causes of Stress: Tight restrictions and a rigid structure; Being in controlling relationships; Dealing with irrational people; Having to use theoretical or intuitive concepts for a prolonged period; Being in an emotionally charged environment; Lack of alone time; Too much extraverting; Being in a non-challenging work environment; Doing repetitive, mundane tasks; Not having their personal values respected or validated; Workaholic schedules that lead to work / life imbalance.
When Achievers experience an overload of stress, they may try to respond by lashing out against whatever is causing it. They may violate rules and regulations that they feel are controlling them; they may feel a need to “get even”. They may become emotionally obsessed with logic and proving a point, while losing track of organization and losing objects or misplacing them. In cases of chronic stress, Achievers may fall into the grip of their inferior function, extraverted feeling, and become very emotive. They will become hypersensitive about their relationships with others and misinterpret small, insignificant details into the belief that others dislike or hate them. They may become uncharacteristically emotional and/or bitter towards others.
What to do: Give them alone time and space; Excuse them from some of their responsibilities; Let them “get away” from everything; Don’t ask how they feel; Encourage them to exercise; Let them read a mystery novel or do something that engages light problem solving; Forgive their out-of-character behavior.
What will annoy Achievers: Bad driving; Complaining; Inefficiency and incompetence; Chatterboxes; Emotional Overreactions.
Causes of Stress: Overexerting themselves by saying “yes” to too many projects; Conflict or criticism; Lack of positive feedback; Environments filled with tension; Looming deadlines; Being asked to do things in a way that isn’t clearly defined; Having to overuse their type by having to constantly act as “the responsible ; Dealing too long with abstract or theoretical concepts; Unfamiliar territory or an uncertain .
When faced with stress, Practitioners become discouraged and depressed. They start to imagine all the things that could go wrong and they may feel a strong sense of inadequacy. They may feel that everything is all wrong, or that they can’t do anything right. If they are in a state of chronic stress, they may fall into the grip of their inferior function, extraverted intuition. When this happens they may start acting completely out of character. They may be at odds with normally relied upon facts and details, they may see everything as awful and feel “doomed”. They may become withdrawn, angry, irritable, and pessimistic. They will probably feel emotionally overwhelmed and find themselves worrying about all kinds of horrible possibilities.
What to do: Give them space or time alone to work through their feelings; Provide provable affirmations about ways they’ve overcome situations like this in the past; Help them break down problems into manageable pieces; Don’t give generalized compliments. Make compliments specific; Put a problem or task in sequential order; Don’t brainstorm. When they are in the grip of extraverted intuition, this will only make things worse; Let them engage their auxiliary extraverted feeling by reading materials that are personally moving, or spiritual; Encourage them to get some physical exercise (without making it sound like an insult); Let them talk about their irrational fears or feelings, and give them quiet, calm reassurance; Take them seriously. Don’t patronize or judge them.
What will annoy Practitioners: Inconsiderate behaviour; Interrupted plans; Touchy-feely strangers; Lateness; Bad grammar and poor spelling.
Causes of Stress: Being in an environment that is in disarray; Looming deadlines; Being forced or asked to do things that don’t make sense to them; Being asked to do something without a plan or direction; Frequent change; Having to innovate without any past experience to rely on; Being asked to do something spontaneously; Too much extraversion (excess people contact); Emotionally charged situations; Unfamiliar surroundings; Dealing too long with abstract or theoretical concepts.
When faced with stress overload, OTs may fall into “catastrophe mode”, where they see nothing but all the potential of what could go wrong. They may beat themselves up; berating themselves for things which could have been done differently, or duties which they failed to perform. They will lose their ability to see things calmly and reasonably and can become depressed at what they see as a bleak future. Under chronic stress, the OT may fall into the grip of their inferior function, extroverted intuition, and become a “dramatizer”. They may become intensely angry, rigid in what they’re doing, outwardly critical, pessimistic, and embrace an overwhelming fear of the future.
What to do: Give them plenty of space; Listen, and provide provable affirmation of how they’ve overcome or done something well in the past; Break a task down into manageable pieces; Do not give generalized compliments; Put things that have to be done in sequential order; Don’t brainstorm. If they are in the grip of their inferior function, extroverted intuition, brainstorming will only make things worse; Don’t give them more to do. Give them a break from responsibilities if possible; Take them seriously. Don’t patronize or judge them; Encourage them to exercise, unless this would sound like an insult.
What will annoy OTs: Crowds; Strange environment; Uncertainty; Financial ruin; Abandonment; Home invasion; Loss of loved ones; Ill health; Driving over train tracks; Unexpected phone calls.
Causes of Stress: Being in an environment where they feel controlled by others; Being required to do simple and repetitive tasks; Being surrounded by individuals they see as incompetent; A lack of autonomy; Being in charge of the quality of another person’s work; Not enough alone time. Too much extraverting; Being immersed in emotionally charged environments; Being in a place where their expertise is not appreciated; People “barging in” on their space; Not having their strongly held values validated.
When a Perfectionist begins to experience stress, they often feel highly self-critical and powerless. If stress continues, the INTP feels as if their mind is blocked and they can’t access all the vital information they’ve stored there. Their creativity comes to a halt and they may suffer from stage fright, writer’s block, and a general inhibition of their usual ingenious thinking. The Perfectionist may become self-conscious and distracted in anticipation of failure. If they become too overwhelmed with stress, they may stop taking any risks and fail to gain the expertise and mastery they need. In the case of chronic stress, may fall into the grip of their inferior function, extroverted feeling. This may cause them to have uncharacteristic emotional outbursts, and become edgy, illogical, inefficient and obsessed with details.
What to do: Give them alone time and space; Excuse them from some of their responsibilities; Let them get away from everything; Don’t ask them how they feel or if they’re okay; Encourage them to have some alone time exercising; Let them know it’s okay to feel unreasonable sometimes; Stay out of the way and forgive out-of-characteristic behaviour.
What will annoy Perfectionists: Gossip; Being told to smile; Others making quick judgments; Others pulling rank; Being pushed to socialise too much.
Causes of Stress: Being in an environment that doesn’t appreciate their skills, visions or ideas; Not enough alone time; Too much extraverting; Too much noise or sensory input; Working with those they see as lazy, incompetent or ignorant; Having to pay attention to too many details at once; Being in unfamiliar surroundings; Having their well-settled plans disrupted; Too much focus on the here-and-now; Not being able to use their intuition to envision the future.
When in a state of stress, the Enhancer can feel an immense amount of pressure – as if everything is on the line. This often means the ability to produce something significant is somehow stifled. They may find themselves overwhelmed and thinking about ideas and options that don’t have a productive end. As stress increases, the Enhancer can become argumentative and disagreeable. Social interaction becomes increasingly difficult; and they may become preoccupied with obsessive ideas and plans. They may start to spend a massive amount of time fighting horrible thoughts and feelings of worthlessness. They will ruminate (go over and over in the mind) about their mistakes, inadequacies and weaknesses and stop progress on a project for fear of failure. In a case of chronic stress may fall into the grip of their inferior function; extroverted sensing. When this happens, they may give into self-destructive indulgences such as over-eating, over-exercising, over using alcohol or buying lots of useless items. They may obsessively clean or re-organize files.
What to do: Give them space, and time alone to process their thoughts and feelings; Reduce sensory stimulation like noise, TV, radio, or bright lights; Let them express their thoughts and feelings without judgment; Understand that they may be irrational; Don’t give them advice. This will only make them feel worse; Give them a break from responsibilities; Encourage them to get enough sleep at night; Help them lighten their schedule, or cancel unnecessary activities; Recommend avoidance of non essential socialising activities; Have a best friend who can listen; Encourage movies, reading, playing music; Do not give them caffeine or sugar; After some time of solitude, encourage them to get a change of scenery by going outdoors.
What will annoy Enhancers: Interruptions; Surprises; Small Talk; Emotional manipulation; Not being seen as competent; Interference of 'alone time'.