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S - Steadiness - The Dove

Steadiness is the S in Disc - the behaviour profile methodology commenced by William Moulton Marston in 1928. There have been many additions and variations since then. This site aggregates a lot of it with the one aim: finding patterns. Then you can impose correctly. How do you do this without filling out a questionnaire?

We are always careful to emphasise to the cohort that this measures behaviour. It does not measure a person's values, aptitude, honesty, intelligence, personality nor whether they have any mental health issues or have been brainwashed.

Conducted and Composed by Elizabeth Hunter™ - Last Update 30 January, 2019


9. Specialist Does not care. Well, we got the job done on time! Specialist profile in pdf

Approx. Population - 6.0% - =8/16 - M:5.0% - F:7.0%. MBTI - ISFP. Introvert, Sensing, Feeling, Perceiving. Kiersey - Composer (Artisan category)

10. Investigator Really wants to be a good person and usually is. I’m determined to find out what’s causing this. Investigator profile in pdf

Approx. Population - 1.0% - 16/16 - M:0.5% - F:1.5%. MBTI - INFJ. Introvert, Intuitive, Feeling, Judging. Kiersey - Counselor (Idealist category)

11. Agent 24/7 in La La Land. Just tell me what you would like me to do. Agent profile in pdf

Approx. Population - 2.0% - 14/16 - M:1.5% - F:2.5%. MBTI - INFP. Introvert, Intuitive, Feeling, Perceiving. Kiersey - Healer (Idealist category)

12. Achiever Low key awesome. It’s my project. I want the credit and I’ll take the blame. Achiever profile in pdf

Approx. Population - 6.0% - =8/16 - M:8.5% - F:3.5%. MBTI - ISTP. Introvert, Sensing, Thinking, Perceiving. Kiersey - Crafter (Artisan category)

As a Leader

9 - Specialist - A cautious leader. Places too much weight on others’ perspectives or viewpoints leading to appear uncertain or unwilling to make firm decisions. This infuriates all High D's and the Enhancer in particular. Example: JOHN. Martina Navratilova. Ted Baillieu. Cher.

10 - Investigator - A determined leader. Become so set on their values that they rush into decisions or opinions without consulting any other outside ideas, information, or wisdom. Examples: ABRAHAM. Jimmy Carter. Adolph Hitler. Sir Alec Guinness.

11 - Agent - An appreciative leader. While considering others’ input can be important, it can also result in grinding decision-making to a halt when trying to make everyone happy, sometimes no one is. Examples: NEHEMIAH. Nelson Mandela. Princess Diana.

12 - Achiever - A missionary leader. Spends too much time observing the world around them, therefore making it almost impossible to spend an accurate amount of time and energy processing the information gathered. This lack of execution can lead to hasty decision-making or just poorly informed ideas and opinions. Examples: ISAAC. Tiger Woods. Michael Jordan. Clint Eastwood. Tom Cruise.

Pos Twosome Descripta™

9 - Specialist - Observant artist.

Augmentation: A blend of contradictions that intrigue and fascinates.

Seven Pos Traits: 1. Loves facts and figures, rather than theories and ideas. 2. Dislikes uncertainties but can adapt to change but only with prior conditioning. 3. Serious and disciplined on the inside but appears highly spontaneous on the outside. 4. Loves adventure, craves thrilling activities and is free spirited. 5. Tactful and always considerate of how people feel. 6. Dislikes restrictions. 7. Loves to try new experiences and gets bored with routine matters.

10 - Investigator - Perfectionistic humanitarian.

Augmentation: An intense, perceptive nature is simultaneously scary and enticing.

Seven Pos Traits: 1. Passionate about ideas and dreams. 2. Warm, caring and approachable. 3. Tactful (occasionally), helpful, sensible and cautious. 4. Can read and understand other people. 5. Trusts gut feelings. 6. Likes organising and creating systems. 7. Visionary who tries to make sense of life.

11 - Agent - Skittish poet.

Augmentation: A rich imagination and mysterious, complex nature are deeply attractive.

Seven Pos Traits: 1. Loves life and all that comes with it. 2. Spontaneous and quick to adapt but hard on themselves over perceived failures. 3. Loves to be around people; naturally warm and compassionate. 4. Highly intuitive and perceptive; good at making people feel comfortable. 5. Strives to make the world a better place. 6. Avoids hurting peoples feelings but sometimes can be too controlling. 7. Are good mediators who avoid conflict.

12 - Achiever - Quiet explorer.

Augmentation: A steely, rebellious nature that is both intriguing and captivating.

Seven Pos Traits: 1. Constantly gathers facts about the environment and stores them away for later. 2. Risk taker who loves variety and new experiences. 3. Highly practical, realistic and results oriented. 4. Excellent trouble shooters who are able to find solutions to practical problems. 5. Usually laid back and easy going with people. 6. Independent and determined. 7. Focused on living in the present rather than the future.

Neg Twosome Descripta™

9 - Specialist - Too clingy.

10 - Investigator - Too quiet.

11 - Agent - Too indecisive.

12 - Achiever - Too ungrateful.

Surprise, Surprise Descripta™

Surˌprise, surˈprise - you should not be surprised about these sorts of behaviour!

9 - Specialist

Surˌprise, surˈprise: Looking at the same things they can always see something different that others miss.
Smartness Explorer™ : 0.39 compared with norm of this pattern (Sak, 2004, Uni. of Arizona). Rank: 13/16. Excellent Artistic Intelligence.
At ya Best™ : You are artistic. Your combination of sensing and feeling means you know how to speak your feelings into existence. Anything you come up with is going to be creative yet discernible by touch and you may not express yourself with many words. But you know how to make the most original and interesting abstract paintings and you do best when you can touch your creations. You can funnel your emotions into any outlet you want and have it influence others positively.
Your likely vehicle : Toyota Land Cruiser.

10 - Investigator

Surˌprise, surˈprise: The very fact that they always maintain a capacity to surprise you will surprise you. Investigators always seem to have more depths.
Smartness Explorer™ : 2.67 compared with norm of this pattern (Sak, 2004, Uni. of Arizona). Rank: 4/16. Excellent Empathetic Intelligence.
At ya Best™ : You are intuitive. Your powers of perception can be downright mystical. You are able to see the truth in what other people put out there and see the flow of life in a way others cannot. That makes you extra powerful when it comes to interpreting the direction society or yourself are going.
Your likely vehicle : Volkswagen Touareg.

11 - Agent

Surˌprise, surˈprise: You can never figure them out - they are always three steps ahead in the world of crazy and literally everything they do surprises you - this is the effect they seek to achieve. Do not be surprised if they throw a curveball - e.g. ask "How do you refrigerate Israel?"
Smartness Explorer™ : 2.67 compared with norm of this pattern (Sak, 2004, Uni. of Arizona). Rank: 3/16. Excellent Empathetic Intelligence
At ya Best™ : You are self-aware and brave. Your functional stack means you know how to cycle through any bad feeling; most people cannot do this and end up repressing parts of themselves. Your ability to understand yourself is unmatched by any other type and you have the ability to come out on top because you know when to stop yourself right before you can really ruin your life with unchecked feelings. Keep persevering through the conflict — a lot of people shut down when it comes to emotional trauma, but you are excellent at maintaining a sunny disposition and accepting the occasional rain.
Your likely vehicle : Volkswagen Combi Van.

12 - Achiever

Surˌprise, surˈprise: The depths of over thinking they can put into getting to a perfectly crafted end-result continually amazes you - the result is usually worth it though.
Smartness Explorer™ : 0.78 compared with norm of this pattern (Sak, 2004, Uni. of Arizona). Rank: 10/16. Excellent Mechanical Intelligence.
At ya Best™ : You are sharp. You are able to get how things work instantly and you're a quick problem solver. You can fix a lot of things, from the broken faucet to the error in computing data. Your brain is like a well-tuned machine and it helps you in all sorts of social situations too. You would be a great comedian usually, because your observations about society are usually acerbic but altogether accurate. Always thinking comes in handy when it comes to the best way to handle a social dynamic — do not be intimidated by your extroverted feeler counterparts. Your tools are just as valuable to the world.
Your likely vehicle : Chevy Camaro.

Discs - Pidgeonholed v. The Real World

9 - Specialist - P: Exceptional artists, emotionally deep, humanitarians and always helping the planet. R: Just want to become trees, do not get why people cannot love one another, hippies. The Hipster Snake; The Panda Bear.

10 - Investigator - P: Mysterious and tricky to get to know, 'more' unique than anyone you have ever met. R: One way or another embarrass themselves every day, somehow, consistently. The Philosophical Snake; The Wolf.

11 - Agent - P: Gifted with emotional intelligence, spiritual, believes in the soul, the natural course of the world and love. R: Really good at laughing at themselves, which is necessary, as they mess up, bungle or blunder constantly. The Lovable, quiet Snake; The Slow Loris.

12 - Achiever - P: Cool as hell, detached and indifferent, smart tinkerers. R: Won prize for the most stubborn and silent for the Senior and Superlative category in the high school yearbook. The Mechanic Snake; The Cat.

"Do the difficult things while they are easy and do the great things while they are small. A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step."

Lao Tzu

9 - Specialist - Gentle, quiet, unobtrusive commitment.

10 - Investigator - I think this is important!

11 - Agent - Be guided by your heart.

12 - Achiever - You stay off my back and I’ll stay off yours.


9 - Specialist - Create calm, safe environment.

10 - Investigator - Dogged determination and follow through. Integrates attitudes, values, standards and the opinions of others into one's own identity or sense of self (particularly if 'boss' is Developer, Results or Inspirational).

11 - Agent - Treats people with respect.

12 - Achiever - Fights for equality and justice. Often involved in 'causes' e.g. Local Government. Immovable on issues.

Anxiety Explorer™

9 - Specialist - When you have to behave in a way that is out of line with your values or desires.

10 - Investigator - When things are not going according to plan.

11 - Agent - When you have to behave in a way that is out of line with your values or desires.

12 - Achiever - When you are being held responsible for others.

Green About the Gills Explorer™

9 - Specialist - Secretly revels in having a socially acceptable excuse to stay home and do their own thing for a week or so.

10 - Investigator - Avoids medication unless they absolutely have to take it, but stays home to rest and recoup. No way are they going to let others see them in a vulnerable state.

11 - Agent - Stays home and fantasizes about all the nice things people would say about them at their funeral.

12 - Achiever - Takes enough medication to get a little high and then relishes in the excuse to stay home and play video games.

Spot behaviour seen on Social Media

9 - Specialist - Takes more selfies per day than you’ve ever taken in your life.

10 - Investigator - Exclusively posts Gandhi quotes. e.g. "Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony."

11 - Agent - Alternates between posting happy photos of them with their friends and getting into vehement arguments about human rights issues with their conservative uncle.

12 - Achiever - Invites you to play Candy Crush Saga several times a day despite the fact that you haven’t seen them in real life for years.

Behaviour seen on the Elevanto Bus™

9 - Specialist - Window seat on opposite side from the driver. Sitting next to the Persuader. Looking at landscapes with smartphone ready to take photos. Row 4/7.

10 - Investigator - In the middle of the back row, opposite the aisle. Watching everybody and thinking about how crazy humanity is. Row 7/7.

11 - Agent - Window seat on driver's side. Updating their diary. Row 5/7.

12 - Achiever - In the back row, window seat on driver's side. Burning random objects. Row 7/7.

The Cannot Stomach Listings

9 - Specialist - Leaving voice messages. Keeping in touch with people. Small talk. Strategizing and coming up with contingency plans. Discussing their inner feelings and thoughts. People who judge them harshly. People invading their personal space or intruding on their time. Cruelty and injustice.

10 - Investigator - Loud and crowded places. Coming home to a dirty house. Not being listened to and being misunderstood. Self-righteous pontificators. Emotional manipulation and deception. Conflict situations and toxic people. When people are unnecessarily rude and uptight. Saying goodbye. People who are two-faced and disloyal. Social gatherings full of strangers.

11 - Agent - When people try to rain on their parade. When people tell them they’re being too sensitive and dismiss their feelings. People who only see things from their own perspective and do not put themselves in other people’s shoes. People who are fake and disingenuous. The impact that other people’s opinions have on their emotions. Following predictable routines and being in restrictive environments. Hypocrisy and people who don’t practice what they preach. Housework, homework, work in general. People who never give others the benefit of the doubt. Impostors, posers, and copycats.

12 - Achiever - Auditioning and job interviews. Pop up ads and advertisements that run too long. Running into people they don’t want to talk to. Pushy sales people. When other people butt into their one on one conversations. Divulging feelings and being emotionally vulnerable. Being judged by people who don’t know or understand them. How socially awkward they can be. People who are too desperate for attention and validation.

Conflict Matrix, plus Defence Mechanism

9 - Specialist - Will want to keep things the same.
Defence Mechanism: Social Comparison.

10 - Investigator - Will provide rationale.
Defence Mechanism: Idealisation & Acting Out.

11 - Agent - May avoid conflict to preserve the group.
Defence Mechanism: Avoidance unless pet issues.

12 - Achiever - Will be precise about facts.
Defence Mechanism: Passive Aggression.

On a team and as an Instructor

9 - Specialist - Team: Campaigning. Most Artistic. Instructor: Rarely comes to class because they’re apparently sick, but are probably just too busy avoiding conflict and social interaction by getting a nose piercing or dying their hair a strange colour. Really couldn’t give an ess, aitch, one, tee about deadlines and postpones tests almost every week and sometimes completely cancels them, not only because the class isn’t ready, but because they haven’t even created the test yet.

10 - Investigator - Team: Innovating. Most Contemplative. Instructor: Always wants you to put emotion and feeling into every assignment they give you and seems stoic and aloof on the outside when really they’re just a big softy when you get to know them. Will probably expect you to be as smart and emotionally connected with yourself as they are and give you tests that far exceed your capabilities, expecting perfection and excellence with every evaluation. Probably gets incredibly angry and offended if you are late or ditch their class and can hold a grudge against you forever.

11 - Agent - Team: Campaigning. Most Idealistic. Instructor: Forces the class to take their shoes off and sit together in a meditative circle and go around talking about feelings and profound theories. Prone to walking up to you, starting to say something really deep and intellectual only to walk away again mid-sentence, never finishing their thought. Probably bases the class seating plan on favoured students and most likely to make obscure references to weird things of which they are a fan that most of the class will never understand. Full of childlike wonder and quite eager to learn from their students as well as teach them.

12 - Achiever - Team: Most Pragmatic. Instructor: Does not give an ess, aitch, one, tee about rules or discipline and would rather go against all the guidelines and suggested curricula despite it being part of the company / school policy. Super mysterious. Their students see them more as a friend than a teacher. Very laid back however if you cross them in any way they will rip you apart. Most likely to say whatever they want no matter if it’s appropriate or not, earning them quite a reputation amongst their students and colleagues (especially the gossipy Counselor).

Sins and Virtues matrix

9 - Specialist - Diligence (Virtue Rank 4/7) - Steadfast application, assiduousness and industry, hard work. A zealous and careful nature in one's actions and work. Decisive work ethic. Budgeting one's time; monitoring one's own activities to guard against laziness.
Sins: Avoids conflict, withdrawn, hard to get to know, fiercely independent, unpredictable, easily stressed, overly competitive.

10 - Investigator - Chastity (Virtue Rank 7/7) - Sexual behaviour that is acceptable to the moral standards and guidelines of their culture, civilization or religion. Sexual abstinence, especially before marriage.
Sins: Trouble with conflict, can be manipulative, easily bored, needs to have a “cause,” burns out easily, reserved, overly sensitive.

11 - Agent - Forgiveness (Virtue Rank 3/7) - Forbearance and endurance through moderation. Resolving conflicts peacefully, as opposed to resorting to violence. The ability to forgive; to show mercy to sinners.
Sins: Reacts emotionally, extreme dislike of criticism, blames themselves, impractical, dislike dealing with data, reserved, too altruistic (unselfish).

12 - Achiever - Humility (Virtue Rank 1/7) - Act or posture of lowering oneself in relation to others; having a clear perspective and respect for one's place in context. Modest behaviour, selflessness and the giving of respect. Giving credit where credit is due; not unfairly glorifying one's own self.
Sins: Emotionally uncomfortable, bad at long-term planning, insensitive, stubborn, reserved, easily bored, risky, workaholic.

In a meeting

9 - Specialist - Dinosaur.

10 - Investigator - Have gripes / mood swings.

11 - Agent - Hijacker.

12 - Achiever - Hostile.

Exaggeration Explorer™ - all one’s geese are swans.

Exaggeration is “Swearing in your native tongue”. Carl Jung, the legendary Swiss psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, indicated that when things get dicey, we are more apt to react in a manner that feels most familiar. By doing this, we lose access to the auxiliary function that keeps us balanced. This notion of exaggeration is why under a certain amount of stress, our personality becomes ‘bigger’, but not necessarily more effective.

9 - Specialist - Are rescuers; Carry the weight of the world on their shoulders; Isolate themselves; Become hypersensitive; Become pompous and demagogic.

10 - Investigator - Have unrealistic expectations; Are arrogant about their ideas; Are overly complex – everything is connected; Force data to fit their own ideas and patterns; Are driven inward and won’t ask for help.

11 - Agent - Are rescuers; Carry the weight of the world on their shoulders; Isolate themselves; Become hypersensitive; Become pompous and demagogic.

12 - Achiever - Obsessively search for the truth about everything; Get lost in concentration – forget the basics; Accept only their own logic; Become detached and machine-like.

Self Improvement

9 - Specialist - Be aware that you may hold too much to past tradition in both procedures and processes.

10 - Investigator - Be aware that you might need to reduce “either/or” thinking and realize that “both/and” solutions are possible.

11 - Agent - Be aware that you may prefer to maintain silent in a negative situation rather than to work in a pro-active way to create changes.

12 - Achiever - Be aware that you could use more people skills in motivating and managing others. Attend to work / life imbalance caused by workaholic tendencies.

As a negotiator

Style - Tend to Compromise.

Result - Tend to be they lose and the other side loses.

Outcome - Unsatisfactory.

With Others at Work and in Social Situation

Scale 1 - 8. 1&2 Excellent; 3&4 Good; 5&6 Fair; 6&7 Poor.

High S with High D: Work: 1. Social: 6.

High S with High I: Work: 1. Social: 5.

High S with High S: Work: 3. Social: 1.

High S with High C: Work: 2. Social: 1.5.

The worst workplace for each Disc type. What's your workplace like for you?

9 - Specialist - Run as a workplace that expects workers to be highly self-motivated but only the completion of dull, uncreative projects are praised.

10 - Investigator - Run as a workplace that exploits honest customers in order to make money and treats its employees like replaceable commodities.

11 - Agent - Run as a workplace that has a stuffy corporate environment that contributes nothing of worthwhile meaning to society and frowns upon any sort of creative problem solving.

12 - Achiever - Run as a workplace that forces workers to be on the front line fielding customer complaints and politely resolving an endless series of petty, day-to-day issues.

At the Job Souk

Here are some flavours of jobs that might match with your Disc. It is not exclusive. e.g. Lawyer is in more than one category. Contributions welcome. Are you in the correct seat on the bus?

9 - Specialist - It's the thought that counts. Administrative Assistant; Fashion Designer; Chef; Physical Therapist; Beautician; Landscape Designer; Storekeeper / Clerk; Dental Assistant; Bookkeeper.

10 - Investigator - Catalyst for Positive Change. Psychologist / Psychiatrist; Clergy; Novelist / Playwright; HR; English, Drama Teacher; Educational Consultant; Social Worker; Mediator; Speech Pathologist.

11 - Agent - Quiet manner conceals passionate nature. Minister / Priest; Musician / Composer; Psychologist / Psychiatrist; HR Development; Educational Consultant; Social Worker / Counselor; Writer / Editor / Reporter/ Artist / Entertainer; Teacher - Special Education / Art.

12 - Achiever - Doing the best with what I have got. Farmer; Construction Worker; Pilot; Computer Specialist; Banker; Intelligence Agent; Park Ranger; Engineer; Police / Security.

As a performance appraiser

Style - High S's will likely be the most lenient managers.

Result - They prefer stability to change.

Outcome - A waste of time and the status quo remains - good or bad.

As a customer service representative

Style - High D's put relationship building as secondary to fixing the problem. Never put a High D across the counter from the customer who wants to vent.

Result - Perfect when customer service means getting to the point, fixing the problem, and moving on to the next customer. For all other situations there will be problems.

Outcome - Maybe two-thirds of the population hear an abrupt “tell me what you want me to do to the fix your problem” as cold and un-empathetic. High D's are really not suited to these roles.

At the Shopping Mall

9 - Specialist - Buying new luggage. They are looking for a carry-on bag that will fit a 1m x 1/2m framed canvas.

10 - Investigator - At Starbucks enjoying the serenity and free samples. Will almost certainly leave with a jasmine tea or chai latte.

11 - Agent - At Barnes & Noble. 120 pages and three coffees deep into a book they haven’t bought.

12 - Achiever - In the Apple store trying out all the new tech. Won’t be satisfied until they catch a glimpse of the new watches.

As a gift buyer

9 - Specialist - Scours a plethora of DIY blogs for ideas then crafts incredibly personalized gifts for each of their loved ones. Blows their friends and family away by showcasing how readily they’ve been picking up on their unique interests and styles.

10 - Investigator - Crafts personalized, heartfelt gifts that explain what each of their loved ones means to them. Delivers them weeks ahead of the holiday season, because it feels inauthentic to use a socially constructed holiday as a means of sharing love and appreciation.

11 - Agent - Waits until they’re feeling inspired, then sits down with a glass of wine and a playlist of instrumental music to write heartfelt letters for each of their loved ones. Pairs each letter with a carefully selected hand crafted gift from an on-line store that captures the person’s essence.

12 - Achiever - Picks out the tech gadget they’ve been secretly wanting to try out. Gives it to someone who they know will let them play with it.

What to give as a gift

9 - Specialist - Time, An Adventure, Soft cosy items, Act of service, Artwork or artwork supplies, Fun gadgets, Scented items.

10 - Investigator - Crafts personalized, heartfelt gifts that explain what each of their loved ones means to them. Delivers them weeks ahead of the holiday season, because it feels inauthentic to use a socially constructed holiday as a means of sharing love and appreciation.

11 - Agent - Waits until they’re feeling inspired, then sits down with a glass of wine and a playlist of instrumental music to write heartfelt letters for each of their loved ones. Pairs each letter with a carefully selected hand crafted gift from an on-line store that captures the person’s essence.

12 - Achiever - Practical tools, Affection from romantic partner, An experience, High quality food and drinks, Quality socks, Technological gadgets, Cash.

Patterns & Fascination

9 - Specialist - Trust - Build relationships through dependability. With Trust as Secondary, The Old Guard - Predictable, Safe, Unmovable.

10 - Investigator - Trust - Build relationships through dependability. With Mystique as Secondary, The Anchor - Protective, Purposeful, Analytical.

11 - Agent - Trust - Build relationships through dependability. With Alert as Secondary, The Good Citizen - Principled, Prepared, Conscientious.

12 - Achiever - Trust - Build relationships through dependability. With Power as Secondary, The Gravitas - Dignified, Stable, Hardworking.

Tension Warner

SD - S with D - Pace & Priority. Indirect, Slower-Paced, Open, People-Oriented v. Direct, Fast-Paced, Guarded, Task-Oriented.

SI - S with I - Priority. Indirect, Slower-Paced v. Direct, Fast-Paced.

SS - S with S - Passive, Inactive.

SC - S with C - Priority. Open, People-Oriented v. Guarded, Task-Oriented.


9 - Specialist - Most artistic. Mr. Routine. Robin. Cocoa. Adventurer. Snob. Saint Bernard.

10 - Investigator - Most reflective. Mr. Stubborn-Opinionated. Hummingbird. Mineral Water. Advocate. Messiah. Greyhound. [Activist]

11 - Agent - Most idealistic. Mr. Volunteer. Dove. Green Tea. Mediator. Fanatic. Tibetan Terrier. [Activist]

12 - Achiever - Most pragmatic. Mr. Workaholic. Cuckoo. Vodka. Virtuoso. Assassin. Basset Hound.


9 - Specialist - Won't change. How organised ranking: 13/16. How dominant ranking: 12/16. How submissive ranking: 5/16.

10 - Investigator - Tactless. How organised ranking: 8/16. How dominant ranking: 9/16. How submissive ranking: 8/16.

11 - Agent - Upset if you do not agree with them. How organised ranking: 16/16. How dominant ranking: 2/16. How submissive ranking: 1/16.

12 - Achiever - Tends to take over. How organised ranking: 10/16.How dominant ranking: 7/16. How submissive ranking: 10/16.

Female Dressage

9 - Specialist - With a sensitive and kind nature usually enjoy the present moment more so than the past or future. Work in their own time and at their own pace. Not a fan of conflicts and arguments will enjoy an easygoing dress that requires minimal effort yet is also stylish.

10 - Investigator - Hold strong personal values. Interested in discovering connections and meaning in ideas and relationships. A structured blazer illustrates bold and self-sufficient personalities.

11 - Agent - Idealistic and also adaptable and flexible to the environment around them. Curiosity and intuitiveness allow to be less afraid of the season’s trends, so cropped flared-denim jeans is the go.

12 - Achiever - Stay out of the limelight for the most part but are quick problem-solvers. A jean jacket is the perfect third piece for a fuss-free and fashionable outfit.

Male Dressage

9 - Specialist - Like to wear things that are a bit unusual and quirky according to their personal aesthetic preferences as opposed to what is socially standard. They may be a bit unorthodox yet modest although they do like to look swanky. They want to look attractive and oftentimes have a very classy style sensibility that is different and intriguing. Because many of them have an artistic bend, Specialists may have a hipster streak and incorporate ironic juxtapositions into their wardrobe.

10 - Investigator - Like to convey something about themselves through their clothing. They may adopt an edgy artistic aesthetic or a buttoned up and professional one. Whatever look they go for, it will likely be alluring and well put together in a subtle and low-effort kind of way. Do not seek to call attention to themselves with their clothing but rather blend in by wearing what seems appropriate for the situation yet doesn’t impair their individualism.

11 - Agent - Like to accentuate their good qualities and uniqueness without being ostentatious or attention grabbing. They probably dislike uniforms and restrictive dress codes. Adopt a fashion sense that probably echoes the unique image they hold of themselves and conveys their individuality. They may be a bit hipsterish and inclined to experiment with unusual combinations and put a twist on conventional styles.

12 - Achiever - Many may prefer to dress in a casually stylish and comfy way. They may dress in a a lot of sporty apparel like jerseys, caps and Adidas track jackets. They may enjoy wearing novel tees that showcase their particular subculture such as Star Wars or Harry Potter. Baggy pants, cargo pants and ripped or jeans with a rugged or faded look may be examples of things they might wear. They like to dress in a slightly working class style rather than wear crisp professional or pretentious attire.

What sort of Holiday

9 - Specialist - Wildlife project volunteering.

10 - Investigator - Creative writing retreat.

11 - Agent - Backpacking with a soulmate.

12 - Achiever - A long distance trail.

As a house Guest

Preliminary - Under Research. Contributions welcome. "Guests, like fish, begin to smell after three days." ― Benjamin Franklin

9 - Specialist - As Host: Ok, you'll find it in a mess. As Guest: I might unexpectedly tell you when I'm coming and for how long.

10 - Investigator - As Host: My rules, don't leave things like that! As Guest: I'll use as much hot water as I like.

11 - Agent - As Host: Of course, but I might not be there. As Guest: I'm likely to bring unwanted folk back from the march.

12 - Achiever - As Host: Let me tidy up first. As Guest: I may well just dive in and fix broken stuff. I'll want to be entertained and I will exhaust you.

In a Relationship / Dating

9 - Specialist - Relationship needs – Intimacy and Freedom.

Red Flag if you hear this - "I think art and music classes shouldn't be mandatory."

Not negotiable with the partner - Being unable to express their true selves.

Biggest Strength - Charming.

Ideal Date Activities - Anything to made them 'feel good'. Shopping for latest fashion, anything unique and fresh.

Will be seeking - Casual sex, short term dating.

Target area priority - LOVABLE - 15%; ROMANTIC 25%; SEXUAL 60%.

Soulmate - Persuader or Achiever.

10 - Investigator - Relationship needs – Understanding and Aspiration.

Red Flag if you hear this - "I'm super opportunistic. It's your own fault if you get trampled."

Not negotiable with the partner - Feeling unable to fully trust their partner.

Biggest Strength - Communicator. Shows understanding.

Ideal Date Activities - Anything that involves mutual agreement. Talking, debating, intimate dinner, walk in the park.

Will be seeking - Long term and short term dating.

Target area priority - LOVABLE - 60%; ROMANTIC 17%; SEXUAL 23%.

Soulmate - Inspirational.

11 - Agent - Relationship needs – Sincerity and Shared Values.

Red Flag if you hear this - "A homeless guy asked me for change. I told him to get a job."

Not negotiable with the partner - Having a closed mind.

Biggest Strength - Caring deeply.

Ideal Date Activities - Anything that involves quiet activities. Church, cafe, walk in the park.

Will be seeking - New friends, long term dating.

Target area priority - LOVABLE - 55%; ROMANTIC 35%; SEXUAL 10%.

Soulmate - Developer.

12 - Achiever - Relationship Need – Understanding and Independence.

Red Flag if you hear this - "I heard the juiciest gossip today! X cheated on Y with Z!"

Not negotiable with the partner - Insecurity.

Biggest Strength - Adventurous.

Ideal Date Activities - Anything that involves danger. Racing, sky diving, surfing, motorcycling.

Will be seeking - Short term dating.

Target area priority - LOVABLE - 38%; ROMANTIC 22%; SEXUAL 40%.

Soulmate - Director.

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This is a summary from several sources. Elevanto does not totally agree with these compatibility assertions.

9 - Specialist - Compatibility best with Persuader, and Director. Worst with Agent, Promoter and Investigator.

10 - Investigator - Compatibility best with Promoter, Inspirational and Enhancer. Worst with Specialist, Counselor, Achiever, Results, Practitioner, Appraise, Perfectionist and Director.

11 - Agent - Compatibility best with Promoter and Developer. Worst with Specialist, Counselor, Achiever, Results, Practitioner, Appraiser, Perfectionist and Director.

12 - Achiever - Compatibility best with Appraiser and Director. Worst with Agent, Promoter, Investigator and Persuader.

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Jobs and Tasks

9 - Specialist - Making others happy. Providing practical services for others; Helping people with information; Planning social events; Being patient with others; Taking care of others; Getting answers for people now; Finding resources for people; Following written procedures; Making others feel comfortable and at ease; Serving; Focusing on what people need.

10 - Investigator - Empowering others. Encouraging others to grow and develop; Creating programs that enrich others; Motivating and inspiring others; Focusing on personal meaning and self-expression; Motivating others to use information for their own benefit; Solving new and complex problems that will benefit the future of humanity; Changing the way people do things; Helping others resolve conflict; Mentoring; Designing projects; Focusing on performing.

11 - Agent - Empowering others. Encouraging others to grow and develop; Creating programs that enrich others; Motivating and inspiring others; Focusing on personal meaning and self-expression; Motivating others to use information for their own benefit; Solving new and complex problems that will benefit the future of humanity; Changing the way people do things; Helping others resolve conflict; Mentoring; Designing projects; Focusing on performing.

12 - Achiever - Getting things right. Analyzing information in a detached and subjective way; Collecting and keeping track of data; Managing projects; Doing budgets and overseeing them; Instructing; Finding more efficient ways of doing things; Controlling information; Applying principles consistently; Doing cost-benefit analyses; Improving; Focusing on what needs to be done now.

As a friend

9 - Specialist - In touch, uplifting. The earthy and artistic friend, who knows more about pop culture than you. They are always current on what is popular and are very in touch with the world around them. Which is fine by you since they keep you hip. They may be a little bit of a hippie, but you love how in touch with nature they are.

10 - Investigator - Suspicious, great listener. The friend who always finds a way to make you feel ready for the future. The friend who encourages you to live your life the way that you want to. They are supportive and always there for you, but are probably constantly afraid that you will betray them. When you two talk it feels like you are being understood and completely accepted.

11 - Agent - Sympathetic, comforting. The friend that you feel completely comfortable being yourself with. They do not look down on you for your flaws and are completely understanding of you. When you get tired of the shallow world, you can always come to this friend for the in depth and passionate conversation that you need.

12 - Achiever - Laid back, volunteer. The laid back and sarcastic friend who you always seem to have fun with, even if you are not doing anything. They know how to fix anything, so that is a plus.

Myers Briggs & Kiersey & iPersonic X-ref + Career & Examples

9 - Specialist - Myers Briggs MBTI - ISFP - The Composer. Introvert, Sensing, Feeling, Perceiving. KIERSEY - Artisan (=Craftsman) - Composer. iPERSONIC - Sensitive Doer. Other - Artist. Career: Painter, potter, jeweller, fashion designer, carpenter, chef, surveyor, botanist, chemist. waiter, beautician, retail clerk, bookkeeper or legal secretary. Key hate: Being trapped; Those who are dismissive. Examples: Kevin Costner; Victoria Azarenka; Anthony Hopkins.

10 - Investigator - Myers Briggs MBTI - INFJ - The Counselor. Introvert, Intuitive, Feeling, Judging. KIERSEY - Idealist - Counselor. iPERSONIC - Harmony-seeking Idealist. Other - Confidant. Career: Professor , teacher, counselor, educational consultant, clergy, nun, director of religious education. social worker, social scientist, mediator, human services, marketing, job analyst, novelist, designer or artist. Key hate: Darkness; Those who make them feel like they can never be good enough. Examples: J.K. Rowling; Tom Selleck; Adolf Hitler; Jesus.

11 - Agent - Myers Briggs MBTI - INFP - The Idealist. Introvert, Intuitive, Feeling, Perceiving. KIERSEY - Idealist - Healer. iPERSONIC - Dreamy Idealist. Other - Dreamer. Career: Visionary in the world of music, art, entertainment or dance. Professor, teacher, counselor, social worker, organizational development, HR, religion or librarian. Key hate: Not living up to ideals; Those who are a stick-in-the-mud. Examples: William Shakespeare; John F. Kennedy; Neil Diamond.

12 - Achiever - Myers Briggs MBTI - ISTP - The Craftsman. Introvert, Sensing, Thinking, Perceiving. KIERSEY - Artisan (=Craftsman) - Crafter. iPERSONIC - Individualistic Doer. Other - Craftsman. Career: Computer programmer or technician, pilot, race car driver, marshal, intelligence agent, banker, purchasing agent, securities analyzer or tradie. Key hate: Physical helplessness; Those who force them to be “normal”. Examples: Clint Eastwood; Dali Lama XIV; Tom Cruise.

Philosophy regarding money and risk

9 - Specialist - Happy and High Roller. Is a starving artist or lowly paid worker, but wouldn’t have it any other way due to reluctance to change. Spends on expensive clothes and designer restaurants but can scale back.
A Player also. Overly impulsive and optimistic about risks and carefree about planning. Resourcefulness and a can-do attitude can be just what’s needed for an entrepreneurial experiment.
As a risk taker. Specialists, together with Results, Counselors and Achievers have a fondness for risk-taking, especially in the immediate context. However, they do like to have a certain amount of security when it comes to their home life and the people that are important to them. They like having a “home base” whether it’s an actual home, a long-term friendships, a relationship, etc.. that they can return to at the end of the day (or week, or month). Specialist are quick to think on their feet and they tend to keep a steady head during a crisis. They are also good at scanning their environment for resources and solutions. Unlike some other types who might panic over a challenge, find themselves stimulated and invigorated by it. Specialists are always looking around for new experiences and enjoyment and they can sometimes become scattered and move from project to project without completing anything. This tends to play out in them jumping from job to job or passion to passion without finding long-term contentment. If they fail to inwardly analyse the opportunities they embark on then they can make poor choices that fail in the long-term and figure out whether what they are doing is logical or has lasting value. Sometimes it means allowing themselves to be bored because it is the most reasonable thing to do or it is the thing most in line with their values.

10 - Investigator - Saver and Social Spender. Works long hours as a coach / therapist / guidance counsellor, eventually saving up enough to build an off-the-grid cottage / sanctuary in the forest or at the seaside. Good saver who can be tempted by peers.
A Pleaser also. Can be subject to financial abuse at the hands of individuals who may take advantage of the desire to put others’ needs above their own. May overspend on themselves “because I’m worth it". Should steer clear of toxic friends who can manipulate best intentions.
As a risk taker. Investigators, together with Enhancers, Persuaders and Developers are more calculated at risk taking and not as spontaneous as the high risk takers. The Investigator needs to have an internal vision of where they are going before they pursue a possibility. They need time to analyse, prioritise and process information. At times they might get a vision about a future possibility quickly and, during these times, they can seem quite impulsive. Other times the process will take longer and they can seem more cautious and deliberating. The Investigator (and the Enhancer) especially like to have time to “chart-the-course” for where they are going to go. When they have a course and a clear vision they actually enjoy taking long-term risks and pursuing unconventional paths. The Investigator prefers to pursue new pathways rather than follow along in a more routine or traditional lifestyle or career. By taking extra time to prepare they are usually very strategic and have contingency plans in place. They also are stimulated by new ideas and possibilities so this can lead them down innovative or transformational pathways. However, can become so sure of a specific vision or path that they close their minds to precautions and details that might get in the way of its realisation. They tend to be analytical when deciding on a pursuit, but because they focus more on the big picture than the details, those details can eventually trip them up. Accordingly, it can help to get some advice and input from a trusted source.

11 - Agent - Donor and Compulsive Shopper. Gladly gives their last $20 to a homeless person, occasionally forgets to pay the utility bill. Needs financial guidance.
A Pleaser also. Can be subject to financial abuse at the hands of individuals who may take advantage of the desire to put others’ needs above their own. May overspend on themselves “because I’m worth it". Should steer clear of toxic friends who can manipulate best intentions.
As a risk taker. In the top 4 as the highest risk-takers together with Inspirational, Promoter and Perfectionist. Enjoys exploring new, untested theories and possibilities. Unlike those who have facts to rely on, enjoy “jumping into possibilities” without having to spend a lot of time figuring out if something like this has been done before. In fact, if a project or idea has been done before that can be a deterrent. Drawn to the novel and original far more than the tested and established. This tends to play out in career choices. Many Agents are stimulated by taking less-secure job positions if there is a higher reward. Are able to consider many new, unusual theories, projects, and endeavours simultaneously without getting weighed down by anxiety or over-planning. However, need to take a moment and pause and consider their priorities, values, and principles before moving forward. This way they can avoid floundering in a sea of unfinished projects and unlimited alternatives.

12 - Achiever - Risky and Luxury Shopper. Earns a living playing on-line poker, buys at least one motorcycle. Wants to live life to the fullest.
A Player also. Overly impulsive and optimistic about risks and carefree about planning. Resourcefulness and a can-do attitude can be just what’s needed for an entrepreneurial experiment.
As a risk taker. Achievers, together with Results, Counselors and Specialists have a fondness for risk-taking, especially in the immediate context. However, they do like to have a certain amount of security when it comes to their home life and the people that are important to them. They like having a “home base” whether it’s an actual home, a long-term friendships, a relationship, etc.. that they can return to at the end of the day (or week, or month). Achievers are quick to think on their feet and they tend to keep a steady head during a crisis. They are also good at scanning their environment for resources and solutions. Unlike some other types who might panic over a challenge, find themselves stimulated and invigorated by it. Achievers are always looking around for new experiences and enjoyment and they can sometimes become scattered and move from project to project without completing anything. This tends to play out in them jumping from job to job or passion to passion without finding long-term contentment. If they fail to inwardly analyse the opportunities they embark on then they can make poor choices that fail in the long-term and figure out whether what they are doing is logical or has lasting value. Sometimes it means allowing themselves to be bored because it is the most reasonable thing to do or it is the thing most in line with their values.

Spending Attitude

9 - Specialist - Aesthetic. Finely honed aesthetic tastes and are generally interested in expressing their identity to people with money. Look for high spending on clothing especially along with dining out with friends. More reserved than Developer and will scale back when required. Optimistic about risks. High Roller.

10 - Investigator - Tempted. Good savers but, when surrounded by peers who are spending more exuberantly, may feel tempted to spend more. Should steer clear of toxic friends who may manipulate best intentions. Although they will generally not join in, they may sometimes make bad decisions randomly as a result of stress and momentary carelessness. Money not that important but it is when making career decisions. May overspend 'because I'm worth it'. Social Spender.

11 - Agent - Carefree. Spending habits are very reflective of the environment they are in. e.g. brought up in a money-conscious household will also be that. In the absence of proper guidance, are apt to take risks beyond what they can handle. May overspend 'because I'm worth it'. Compulsive Shopper.

12 - Achiever - Full Lifer. Very interested in traveling and new experiences with dining along with other material luxuries. This can lead to rash decisions and spending then becomes too high, especially given a high propensity to take risks which are viewed optimistically. Luxury Shopper.

Financial Toxicity

9 - Specialist - Player - Safe. Pay what's due, when it's due. Simple. Will not splurge on themselves or you. However, the Specialist can be an Extractor. Is prone to always find ways to push the buying responsibilities with other people if they can.
Trustworthy Ranking ?/16. (Hesitant to let people in, since they have experienced being hurt before)

10 - Investigator - Pleaser - Extractor. Pretends to reach for the wallet but always comes up short, so the other party pays. Or gets up to go to the bathroom when they see the waiter coming to the table with the bill.
Trustworthy Ranking ?/16. (Does not trust others easily)

11 - Agent - Pleaser - Over Generous. Insists on paying for your dinners every time you go out. Tries to be the one who handles things, gives expensive gifts or just does more financially than necessary. But there's a trick. While it may appear to make them happy, they are creating a circumstance that you have some sort of debt which may be in dollars, commitment, time, emotion, sexual favours etc. They'll be upset, but it is wise not to get into this debt spiral.
Trustworthy Ranking ?/16. (Will guard themselves for a while before deciding if they can trust someone. Easy to get taken advantage of)

12 - Achiever - Player - Slacker. Acts like they need help though they really don’t need it - 'crying wolf'. They ask for money, though they actually aren’t doing anything to try on their own. Living off others is what they would rather do, instead of taking the difficult step of trying to be self-sufficient. This can be a challenge, so don't lend.
Trustworthy Ranking ?/16. (Do not trust most people simply because of skeptical attitude. Hesitant to trust anyone)

The Sir Robertson Sole Symptoms™

The Sir Robertson Sole Symptoms™ are really the harsh truth. No-one likes this section and Sir Robertson is aware of this. These symptoms are useful in picking patterns if you have the chance to observe how someone goes in a very negative way. You'll need to look in the four quadrants to explore all sixteen soles. [Signed: R. Sole]

9 - Specialist - The Fat Bulldog. Cuddly inside and out. Posses no logic at all and see no patterns in reality. Switch from petting animals at the zoo then go hang gliding afterwards for excitement. Some work fiercely on trying to come up with less obnoxious things for the subculture to do. This does not redeem them. The whinging, crybaby R. Sole.

10 - Investigator - The Conspirator. Acts cuddly but is secretly an R. Sole. Fond of themselves and try to have friends but they often do not get past the “hello” phase. After telling too much and then too little, can befriend and then listen and pretend other's anecdotes actually were own experiences. Then it's all about them. Validation for their ideas from other people is unrealistic as the ideas are half-witted. Confuse facts and beliefs. Even if an idea is validated may be taken a negative and converted into an insult. This is considered to be dumb behaviour. Prefer non-interactive media, which is why they like poetry and prose. Will not let go if they bite you, which they are prone to do. Investigators are the classic door slammers on the basis that if they think you are a bad or shallow person they can’t trust - particularly if you hurt their feelings. They will door slam family members. The pretentious, over dramatic R. Sole.

11 - Agent - The one who is overly annoyed or bothered by a perceived insult to their bulltish. Cuddly inside and out. A leech to a fun environment that no one wants to deal with them or help them. May not succeed in life. Say to them you understand when actually there is nothing to understand. Disinterested in the material world as anything that matters to them happens inside their head. Find meaning in meaningless things. They are the kid in the back of the class who understands nothing and believes themselves to understand it all. Never ask questions and always make assumptions. If you correct their assumptions they are likely to not hear you. Will forgive all due to doubt that anything they perceive is truly there. If you leave, it might take them up to three weeks to notice, had you been living together. The I don't know what I want R. Sole.

12 - Achiever - The useless son of a bitch. Acts like an R. Sole but is secretly cuddly. Ignores social norms. Introspective thinking creates logical consistency in fixing things - cars etc. May be considered dumb accordingly. Can be helped by taking a chill pill. Unpredictable in the worst of ways – one second they might be slouching around doing absolutely nothing and, in the next second they will be all up in your face screaming and flailing. Watch out from them sending you vitriolic emails from two offices away, one minute after a cordial face-to-face meeting. They don’t care about their own or others’ safety, rarely check all facts and often endanger others with their shenanigans. Imagine them as ticking bombs. A relationship with an Achiever is exhausting. If they do not get what they want they will act like a child and you will be thoroughly embarrassed because these grown-up babies will sulk or throw fits. The smart aleck R.Sole.

The Sir Robertson Sole Symptoms™ on Steroids

The Sir Robertson Sole Symptoms™ on Steroids have been compiled when you really do not like the other person. We have been told that this section is confrontational, so you are advised to keep your seat belt fastened. An alternate term is as an Oxygen Thief. You'll need to look in the four quadrants to explore all sixteen steroid soles. [Signed: R. Sole]

9 - Specialist - The oblivious narcissist. The most self-centered of all behaviour patterns, their desktop photos are of themselves, typically nude. Explaining to them that socialism is not true is impossible as their brains are incapable of abstract thought. Prone to marrying people who look like themselves. Insulting tag: Not gifted. R. Sole nominates Nero, Michael Jackson, Justin Timberlake and Enya.

10 - Investigator - The Delicate Egomanic. Bigger is better. Bigger ideas. Big empires. Big pussies. They can conquer entire continents but they cry every time their stupid quirks are ridiculed. That's what fuels the Investigator's miserable life - terror in the face of endless humiliation. The more critics that are destroyed, the better an Investigator will sleep. Insulting tag: Evil. R. Sole nominates Vladimir Lenin, Adolf Hitler and Osama Bin Laden.

11 - Agent - The hapless space cadet. Nobody knows what Agents talk about but they certainly talk. Not really hateable so much as pitiable. An Agent is like a babbling old woman at an inconsequential town hall meeting to whom no-one is listening. Or tell you when your friend's child told you he made a drawing of a rocket ship but it just looks like a sticky turnip. In Aussie terms - a Brunswick Streeter. Insulting tag: Fake. R. Sole nominates Nicholas Cage, JRR Tolkien and John Kerry.

12 - Achiever - The empty headed brooder. Brow perpetually knitted, these creeps spend a lot of time in front of the mirror rehearsing their 'deep thoughts' expression. Achiever types occasionally come close to getting laid until it becomes clear just how few substantive thoughts actually lurk behind their pensive mask. Then they enter the friend zone, never to return. Insulting tag: Clueless. R. Sole nominates Keanu Reeves, Woody Allen, Tom Cruise and Kristen Stewart.

Truthful Toxicity & Ingeniously Problematic™

Can the Elevanto expertise assist in lie detection? Sometimes. Ingeniously Problematic™ behaviour is on display when it is clearly known what the desired outcome is, yet an assertion is made that may not be untruthful, is likely to be ambiguous and the author can use it to advantage. It is designed to give the recipient hope; reality may be 'bugger off' or (mis)leading you into taking up some sort of offer. It often involves blatant hypocrisy.
Outright lying is easy to pick as I claim to be cruising today in the Gulf of Siam aboard the USS Nimitz that I own. The Ingeniously Problematic™ folk tend to be in the High D quadrant, but not always. Using our technique is part art and part science. Sometimes you have to look as to who gave instructions to whom.


Question to Tony Blair: Will Labour introduce tuition fees for higher education?" Blair's answer was: "Labour has no plans to introduce tuition fees for higher education." No plans does not mean no tuition fees.

Unknown: "Nobody is sorrier than me that the police officer had to spend his valuable time writing out a parking ticket on my car. Though from my personal standpoint I know for a certainty that the meter had not yet expired, please accept my expression of deep regret at this unfortunate incident."

High S The impression of tension, nervousness or fear that is given off naturally by socially anxious individuals is interpreted by observers as indicators of deception. Interestingly, their demeanour seems not to accurately reflect their behaviour and they are less likely to persist in lying when challenged.

9 - Specialist - Tells lies to get something done. Rank 12/16.

10 - Investigator - Tells lies to hide what embarrasses them. Rank 3/16.

11 - Agent - Tells lies to hide what embarrasses them. Rank 16/16.

12 - Achiever - Tells lies to hide what embarrasses them. Rank 9/16.

Ingeniously Problematic™ behaviour ignores the behaviour of the audience; most of whom accept the bulltish but Owls (High C's) treat it with the contempt which it deserves.

Embriaguez Explorer™

9 - Specialist - Wants to hug everyone.

10 - Investigator - Finds everything hilarious.

11 - Agent - Becomes extremely affectionate.

12 - Achiever - Becomes the impulsive daredevil.

Dalliance Rankings Explorer™

9 - Specialist - Can be insecure and paranoid over the faithfulness of their partners. Consequently, they may allow themselves to cultivate side relationships that could later become their backup plan should their main relationship fail. They may also engage in emotional affairs if they do not receive the type of emotional support they feel they deserve.

10 - Investigator - With high ideals and they are tentative about entering into relationships until they are pretty sure they’ve got something good. That said, they are generally very committed once they fall in love with someone and they are probably more resistant to outside temptations. If anything they may have difficulty leaving a relationship that is not good for them and they are more likely to be the one giving their partners a second chance after being cheated on.

11 - Agent - Likely to be true to their partner in a relationship because of their preference to cling to the people they already know and love and their sense of morality that is likely consistent with the “golden rule”. They know how gut wrenching heartbreak can be and they would not want to hurt or betray anyone they care about. It is only after they’ve been emotionally hurt or betrayed that they would consider cheating on their partner.

12 - Achiever - May have a more flexible attitude when it comes to how the game of relationships should be played. Even though they are prone to jealousy and fear of being cheated on, they may develop a dog-eat-dog perspective that may in their minds justify engaging in infidelity if they anticipate their partner might do the same if given the same opportunity. e.g. Kobe Bryant. AShton Kutchar. Kristen Stewart. Top 5 Rank = 5.

Promptitude & Commitment Explorer™

9 - Specialist - Late. Can often struggle with being on time simply because they become distracted by their surroundings. Live very much in present moment which can make it hard to focus on time management. Likely to become intrigued by something and have a hard time pulling themselves way from it. Do not like being late if it will put them on the spot and will strive to avoid awkward situations. If they do see that they are going to be late, they might not even show up for fear of being called out.

Fulfilling Commitments. The Specialist prefers to live life in the present moment, which can cause them to avoid certain commitments. They are not always sure what they want out of life and, because of this, they can appear a bit flighty. The Specialist can sometimes jump in and out of relationships but this is simply because they have rather high standards. They want to find people and hobbies that truly inspire them and will not be afraid of letting go when it does not feel right.

10 - Investigator - On time. Often hates being late to anything and might feel it is rude or inconsiderate. Want to make positive impression. Understands if there is a legitimate reason for being late, but dislikes if it is done purely out of flakiness. Likely be on time or even early for work and specific events that are important to them or those closest to them. Loathe when people make others wait for them.

Fulfilling Commitments. The Investigator takes their commitments very seriously and have a hard time turning their back once they have made a decision. They do take a long time to fully commit to something and prefer to think it over beforehand. Once the Investigator has decided to make that commitment though, they definitely remain committed. They dislike feeling like they have failed anyone and will hold themselves to extremely high standards. The Investigator will only break a commitment if they realise they are only hurting themselves by staying true to it but it will take them a very long time to come to terms with this.

11 - Agent - Late. A tendency to run through a million different thoughts can cause occasional lateness. Some Agents will hate the idea of being late to avoid awkward situations and will be punctual to avoid this but may be late to avoid less attention to themselves. Actions are more intentioned than many people think (excluding Elevanto) and are often aware of what they are doing. Will be late if distracted and fail to realise so much time has passed at the previous appointment.

Fulfilling Commitments. The Agent often struggles to make commitments and dislike feeling locked down to something. They simply prefer to go with the flow and often dislikes making plans that are too firm. The Agent is a daydreamer , which often causes them to prefer plenty of time by themselves. The Agent does not want to make a decision about something and then feel immense regret over it later on. They want to be able to explore new things without feeling like they are locked down. The Agent will take their relationship commitments very seriously though, and are not afraid of committing to a loved one. The Agent causes lots of grief to managers who cannot tolerate lateness and lack of commitment as the Agent almost certainly will let you down, again and again.

12 - Achiever - Late. Sometimes struggle to see the importance of being on time and dislike being forced to fit into a tight schedule. Enjoy their freedom and do not want to feel rushed or pressured by others. Dislike being disrespectful though and will show up on time if it is important to a loved one. Other than those rare occurrences, will likely be late for certain events. They do not do this on purpose, but simply become distracted by what is directly in front of them. Their desire to live in the present moment causes a dislike of being forced to pull away from something.

Fulfilling Commitments. The Achiever can be a little bit hesitant when it comes to commitments and will often avoid them. They prefer to feel free to make their own choices and committing to something removes this option. The Achiever dislikes feeling locked down by their choices and sometimes has a fear of missing out. They prefer to make choices as they go instead of committing to something long term. When the Achiever stumbles upon something or someone that is very important to them, they will be capable of making the appropriate commitments.

Weirdology Explorer™

9 - Specialist - Social Media Stalker. Wants to know everything about everyone. A fault with the phone will be seen as a catastrophe when, in fact, it does not matter. Tries anything. Show off body. Rank: 5/10.

10 - Investigator - Intense. Come across too obsessive (= excessive in degree or nature) at times. Seeks out hidden meaning in things and sometimes reaches untenable or irrational conclusions. Rank: 4/10.

11 - Agent - Fantasises about folk they know. Not in a sexual sense, it's about where they will end up. Stares into space living out some imaginary scenario. Peter pan complex (inability to take on responsibilities, to commit themselves or to keep promises, excessive care about the way they look and personal well-being and their lack of self-confidence, even though they do not seem to show it and actually come across as exactly the opposite). People may often find their behaviour to be childish and immature. Rank: 7/10.

12 - Achiever - Looking out for themselves. Always does this and this tends not to sit too well with others. Has strange interests and fetishes. Rank: 5/10.

Guiltology Explorer™

9 - Specialist - Forgiver Of Guilt. Very internal, compassionate and sensitive individuals, who may feel guilty over things that they shouldn’t. Strong internal morals, a desire to do what they believe is right. If feels like they have harmed someone in some way they will feel very upset this and will attempt to make things right, often apologizing for the tiniest things. Want to be a good person, working hard to follow their own morals. May stray from this path sometimes, but they always find ways to make up for their mistakes. In caring about others will experience guilt when a negative act affects people around them. The sense of consideration for others often makes it very easy to forgive.
Shame: Compassionate outlook can often lead to feelings of shame. If feel like they have wronged someone, will definitely feel ashamed of themselves. Sometimes have a hard time living up to the expectations of others and may experience shame because of this. Needpeople in their lives that will love and accept them completely. Having a safe place to go where they do not feel judged, ill be able to cope with their shameful emotions.

10 - Investigator - Internalise Guilt. Feel guilty over the smallest actions, finding it very important to be a good person and to right wrongs (make amends) when causing upset, hurt or harm. Need to know what they have done wrong as sometimes they do not realise that their actions cause angst - particularly when they have no clue how tactless actions are seen by others. In caring about others, may feel guilty for things they should not feel guilty for.
Shame: Experience shame on very drastic levels, and sometimes suffer from a shame spiral that can be hard to pull out of. Once embarrassed for something they have done, may find themselves thinking about all of their previous shameful actions Can be extremely hard on themselves, so they definitely struggle with feelings of shame. Best way to help to cope with feeling ashamed, is by others reminding them of their true self. They need to understand that they are not worthless just because they have made mistakes. Even the kindest souls have had moments where they have not been perfect.

11 - Agent - Always Apologising For Guilt. It is extremely important to do the right thing in their lives and want to be good people. A very strong sense of morality and often know exactly what they believe is right and wrong. Hold themselves to higher standards than most people are aware of, causing them to experience guilt very often. They may feel guilty for the smallest of actions, wishing they could be doing more to help people. Always striving to make a difference, wanting very deeply to be a good person. They constantly feel like they could be doing more for others and the world in general. Apologize often, wanting to be sure that they make amends for any possible wrongdoings.
Shame: Care and sensitivity can lead to them feeling a lot of shame over their actions. Feel shame towards even the smallest things, like forgetting to smile at someone in the supermarket. They might be afraid that their actions have negatively affected others and that will truly upset the Agent. May experience feelings of shame for times when they fail to be their best selves. Best way to help an Agent is by reminding them how hard they try. They know that no one can be perfect, but they certainly do try to be good. They have a knack for seeing the good in others and are capable of pushing past some of the hardest experiences.

12 - Achiever - Move On From Guilt. Often handle feelings of guilt in a very logical manner. Instead of being upset when they do something wrong, often accepts own failings. Will analyze the mistake and find ways in which they can make it right. Once they have atoned for their mistake will be more than capable of moving on, seeking ways to improve in the future. Takes life as it comes at them, believing that everyone makes mistakes and that is simply part of life. Often do not hold onto these guilty feelings, believing that to do so is a waste of time.
Shame: Intelligent individuals, who favor logic over emotions. Understand that everyone makes mistakes in life, which often helps them refrain from feeling ashamed. May sometimes feel ashamed if they believe they have harmed the people that they love. Just deal with shame and are skilled at understanding situations and will often be able to forgive themselves for their mistakes in life. No one can be perfect including the Achiever.

Judgeology Explorer™

9 - Specialist - Closed Judgeology™. Least openly judgmental. They try to be nice to everyone and dislike the idea of hurting anyone’s feelings. They may hold internal judgments when they witness people being immoral or harming others without caring. They believe that everyone should be able to do the right thing and are hurt personally when they see people being cruel towards others. Try to reserve judgments, but sometimes it is challenging when people continue to be harsh. In the end they are very forgiving and just want people to try harder.

10 - Investigator - Self Judgeology™. Judge themselves much harder than they do others and have a way of being very hard on themselves. Do not want to be seen as judgmental with a strong desire not to cause others angst. However, often tactlessness takes over. Often appear judgmental and use considerable intuition if someone is going to hurt themselves or others and they want to assist. Can often see the good in people but annoyed about society behaviour.

11 - Agent - Moral Judgeology™. Have their own views on what is right and wrong and are very clear about what they believe. They often judge themselves very harshly and push themselves to be a good person. Because of this strong desire to follow what is right can be viewed as judgmental. They do not judge people for being weaker than others or for making mistakes in life. They are more likely to feel judgment towards people who harm others or commit immoral acts constantly. They are very forgiving and do understand that people make mistakes but they also realize that people need to be held accountable for constantly doing bad things. If someone is harming another person, this action should not be accepted.

12 - Achiever - Factual Judgeology™. Judgments come from a factual and not a personal place. They do not make emotional judgments but rather pick up on certain behaviours that prove their judgments. They notice people’s behaviours and their actions and make decisions based on that. With a good memory will take into account all of the actions of others. If someone proves to be stupid by constantly saying stupid things, they realize that this person is probably stupid. These judgments are not made with emotion and are usually correct. It doesn’t make them treat this person poorly, it just means they will take note of it in the future.

Clutter Explorer™

This technique emanates from the service station industry where it was always necessary to understand the attitude of operators and staff towards 'sparkle and housekeeping'. Elevanto's techniques are all about observing so if you can see how someone approaches the issue of clutter and organisation, it's another tool to work out their pattern to reap the advantages of using these techniques. You'll need to look in the four quadrants at all sixteen clutter descriptions.

9 - Specialist - Leave Clutter. Perhaps it’s time to start cleaning. After assessing the situation thoroughly and devising a plan, you remember that you could really use a separate laundry bin for your whites and you need new dish cloths. The solution is to go and get some before you start. You might see if someone else has a better plan, further delaying action.
Specialists like to work at their own pace and live in the present moment. Carrying a diary around allows them to jot down to-do lists to be completed at a later date, thoughts and ideas and all of their feelings.

10 - Investigator - When motivated Clutter. A thorough cleaning is important but generally it's a once a week or once a month when you are feeling motivated. If you find yourself cleaning throughout the week, you’re probably avoiding other work you’re supposed to be doing, because you “won’t be able to focus until it’s clean”.
Already organized by nature, sometimes need a tool to help motivation to complete tasks.

11 - Agent - Encourage Clutter. Why would you clean when there are so many more meaningful things to do with your time? Plus, you would first need to figure out all the possible approaches to tackle that mess and the pros and cons of each. You might ponder how and why our society began placing significance on clean environments. You think about cleaning more than you actually clean until it actually affects your current task and only then will you take action.
Agents have a thirst for knowledge and they love to learn everything about stuff that fascinates them. This may mean forwarding things to email, Facebook Messenger or texting themselves. They are all over the shop.

12 - Achiever - Succumb to Clutter. When eventually you notice how cluttered things are, you take care of the mess quickly, efficiently and on a no frills basis. You will be puzzled if another party to all this is an Agent as they will want to brainstorm possible approaches as you get back to what you were previously doing.
Achievers are keen observers. They are skilled at watching and waiting but when a problem arises they know how to fix it ASAP. They loathe wasting time, so apps can make sure they are making the most of their days and not losing time in the weeds.

Kitchen Explorer™

This is the sort of kitchen you may like and how you organise things in the kitchen. This is useful if you have the chance to observe how someone else handled the kitchen. Another very useful indicator to pick their pattern. You'll need to look in the four quadrants to explore all sixteen kitchens.

9 - Specialist - The Romantic Kitchen. You are gentle and flexible, with a strong sense of style. You'd be perfectly happy in a little Paris kitchen with airy lace curtains and a set of French doors that open out to the balcony. A good looking French companion would also not be out of place.

10 - Investigator - The Scandanavian Kitchen. You are creative, idealistic and always looking for ways to improve. Light, bright, and white! You love authentic white subway tiles with dark grout, white-washed floors, and clean, tidy spaces with just a few bright pops of color. This reminds you of a better future ahead.

11 - Agent - The Organic Modern Kitchen. You are imaginative, sensitive, and spiritual. You love greenery and natural materials, like wood and linen, but often accent with classic or modern pieces. You are not afraid of a tapestry rug in the kitchen.

12 - Achiever - The Fixer-Upper Kitchen. You are hands-on, detail-oriented, and a keen observer. Are there cabinets to be repainted? Appliances to be fixed? New lighting to be wired? You're on to it. Where's the fun in a finished kitchen? It's all creating something with your own two hands.

Religiousness Explorer™

While religion needs to be kept out of discussions generally, together with sex and politics, sometimes if it is known that someone is very religious it may be yet another source of information to pick Disc and then impose correctly. Percentages are the best we can find as to whether various patterns agree that they are "very religious". You'll need to look in the four quadrants to explore all sixteen percentages.

9 - Specialist - 47.98% Rank: 3.
Likely religion: Episcopal or Catholic.

10 - Investigator - 44.33% Rank: 6.
Likely religion: Zen Buddist. Evangelical / Protestant.

11 - Agent - 33.50% Rank: 14.
Likely religion: Celtic Pagan.

12 - Achiever - 36.71% Rank: 11.
Likely religion: Extreme Fundamentalist Islam.

Intimate Explorer™

How you go and they go in the bedroom may not be the starting point to pick someone's pattern. However, as with any model, the more information you have, the more likely you can reap the benefits of picking others behaviour patterns. You'll need to look in the four quadrants to explore all sixteen positions.

9 - Specialist - Express Feelings Bedroomer. You see the physical act of sex as a prime opportunity to express your feelings for someone. To you it is one of the best ways to show someone that you truly care for them. You are capable of separating sex from love but see no value in those sorts of shallow experiences. You look for comfort and trust within a relationship and that translates well into your sex life. You are eager to make your partner feel loved and appreciated in the bedroom which they definitely appreciate.

10 - Investigator - Not that Important Bedroomer. Sex has to mean something to you, or else it is pretty miserable. You want to completely trust the person you make love with, that being said you don’t trust easily. You take time to warm up to people and are not the most physically open person in the world. Although you are hesitant at first, when you find the right person it is electric. You don’t believe in setting boundaries in the bedroom with someone you love and are willing to try new things. Sex is not the most important thing to you, but you find you are rather amazing at it with the right person. You are capable of taking sex to a whole new level of spirituality.

11 - Agent - Emotional Connection Bedroomer. For you love-making is about just that, love. Without a deep bond and strong emotional connection, you see little point in sex itself. Sex being just a physical act is something you do not desire. Casual sex is definitely not for you and would make you very internally unhappy. That being said sex is actually very important to you within the confines of a deeper connection. You see sex as a physical manifestation of a powerful emotional connection with someone. It is your opportunity to connect intimately with your partner. You are very willing and eager to try new things in the bedroom as long as there is an emotional connection.

12 - Achiever - No Emotion Bedroomer. You have a relatively high sex drive and are able to see sex in just the physical terms. You don’t scoff at the idea of sex without a deep connection, but you probably agree that it adds another element to the sexual experience. You view sex in the highly chemical sense and are drawn to people you are physically attracted to. You are often very visually stimulated and enjoy what is aesthetically pleasing. You usually see sexual encounters as an outlet and do not require an emotional connection.

Music Festival Explorer™

How you go at the festival is handy. The more information you have, the more likely you can reap the benefits of picking others behaviour patterns. You'll need to look in the four quadrants to explore all sixteen festivals.

9 - Specialist - Carried away at the festival. Got photographed for a magazine’s “Best of” festival fashion spread. Probably was the only person to memorize the lineup and the best time to leave the crowd and get hair dye, but also the last person to remember they haven’t eaten in 15 hours.

10 - Investigator - Not that involved at the festival. Can be found meditating near the edge of the festival. Only ventures into the fray to see their favorite band in the world (winds up staying for a while to read palms.)

11 - Agent - Hippie at the festival. Bought their tickets from a dubious source outside the venue. Definitely does wear a flower crown, definitely does not remember where they put their cell phone for two days (it was in their back pocket).

12 - Achiever - Part timer at the festival. Is only there to see one weird opening act. They spend twice the amount of time they spent watching the performance looking for their car.

Nefariousness Explorer™

Generally, this consultancy uses the various techniques based in the positive side of things. But there are nefarious people of all patterns. This section looks briefly at the 'bad ones'. And we have come across some over the years. You'll need to look in the four quadrants at all nefarees.

9 - Specialist - Self-serving, judgmental, indulgent.. Easily lost in self-pity and bitterness over numerous perceived or misunderstood slights. They will go from stages of passive aggressive coldness to stages of self-righteous indignation. They live for the moment and can be exceedingly reckless; they habitually overeat, over-shop, drink too much, or seek pleasure without thought for how it might impact themselves or others. They are easily angered by people who don’t understand their intense emotional reactions, even though they never actually vocalize them. They are not swayed by logical arguments or reasonable discussion; everyone they allow into their life is at the mercy of their ever changing emotions. They may decide to shut people out entirely if they can’t get complete approval. Crimes: Drastic, murder. Unpaid parking tickets.

10 - Investigator - Manipulative, scheming, self-righteous. Above all, they seek to fulfill their vision for the future. They will go to any lengths to reach this vision, even if it means deceit, underhanded deals, and trickery. They justify what they do because in their mind “the end justifies the means”. They often consider themselves better and more broad-minded than others, and thus conclude that any input from the outside world is silly and shallow. They live in their own subjective fantasy world and stop attributing value to human interactions. People are to be used to reach their end goal. If they hurt people along the way they’ll try to stifle any sense of guilt they might feel. They will try to escape those people so they do not have to actually confront their own wrongdoings. In their close relationships they may be passive aggressive, and use people’s faults and shortcomings against them as blackmail. When faced with their wrongdoings, they may fall into self-pity or else shut people out of their life who don’t show them complete approval. Crimes: Stalk or never commit crime. Conspiracy, heresy.

11 - Agent - Self-absorbed, self-righteous, and waver between being passive and extremely judgmental. They enjoy living in their fantasies, but care little for the practical realities of daily life. They may neglect their loved ones and family members and instead prefer to live in a world of their own making, in essence abandoning everyone who holds them dear. They may consider themselves more morally superior or “righteous” than others, married to their idealism to such an extent that any and everyone in the real world seems flawed and disappointing. They may retreat from the world and silently judge everyone they see. Over time, they may become increasingly harsh and condemning of people in their lives. They may become so obsessed with their own emotions and fantasies that they shun or berate anyone who tries to find a way into their hearts. Crimes: Steal from the rich and give to the poor. Stalking.

12 - Achiever - Cold, self-destructive, indulgent. Ruthlessly logical, but in pursuit of their own pleasure and at the expense of anyone who gets in their way. Ignore own moral compass and have no concern for the welfare or feelings of others. They keep to themselves and scorn attachments to other individuals, only seeking to get ahead or enjoy sensational thrills even if it harms themselves or others in the process. They become calculating and selfish, easily angered by anyone who seeks a foothold in their life. Nefarious Achievers can be the perfect mercenaries, using their hands-on skills to find wealth or sensory experience, even if it means destroying another life. e.g. Darth Maul (Star Wars). Crime: Graffiti, arson, impulsively violent. Domestic violence.

Bratty Behaviour Shortcuts!

One of our latest techniques is to match these bratty descriptions to the person you are studying. Then you have their Disc pattern. You'll need to look in the four quadrants at all sixteen bratty descriptions.

9 - Specialist - Avoiding necessary confrontation. Conflict averse and need to realise that ironing out conflict and disputes is a necessary evil and avoiding confrontation often aggravates the situation. An alternate tendency is to drop the issue rather than risk offending the other party.

10 - Investigator - Pretentiousness. At only 1% of the population, are generally misunderstood, can be very tactless and are not easy to get to know well. Some may even be pleased about being misunderstood and not understand that rare does not equate to superiority. May use their uncommon nature as a means of belittling others for lacking their depth or analytical abilities or as an excuse for looking down on others. Seen by some as intimidating by design.

11 - Agent - Holding others to unrealistic expectations. Despite seeing the best in people, wild imagination over embellishes (invents the best in) the other person or situation such that they become upset when the real-life version falls short of the fantasies. Need to grasp reality.

12 - Achiever - Unwarranted grouchiness. Often very innocently, will respond grouchily towards whomever interrupts their train of thought. Needs to fake social pleasantries from time to time, even when not really in the mood to do so.

Peter Pan Possibility

One of our latest techniques is to match child like behaviour to the person you are studying. That is, observing the inability of individuals to take on responsibilities, to commit themselves or to keep promises, excessive care about the way they look and personal well-being, and their lack of self-confidence, even though they do not seem to show it and actually come across as exactly the opposite.
More: lack of career interest, not being able to handle situations, trouble with commitment (may be interested in relationships or sex, but not for long), drug and alcohol abuse, unreliability, it's everyone else's fault and does not want to improve.
Even further, Peter Pans are completely intolerant to criticism; having a younger partner means less responsibility. "Wendy" makes every decision and takes on the responsibilities of Peter Pan, thus justifying the unreliability.
Elevanto looks keenly if someone cannot handle conflict at ALL. Then we watch and see if Peter Pan RUNS AWAY. That may involve walking or stomping away from the discussion, leave the house, going to a room where games can distract or just curling up under a blanket to cry like a toddler for a couple of hours. Meanwhile Wendy does all the work.
If not RUNNING AWAY, we look for RETALIATION. That may involve a fit and / or bringing up items thinking or knowing that will upset you to “get back at you” for causing Peter Pan to be upset. Tantrums are common, as are name-calling and/or throwing things.
This Peter Pan behaviour may lead you to their Disc pattern. You'll need to look in the four quadrants at all Peter Pan Possibilities. Results; Inspirational; Promoter; Counselor; Specialist; Agent; Achiever; Perfectionist. This group is the same as Sellfe-kən-ˈtrōl™ and Space Cadet™

9 - Specialist - Yes. Specialists enjoy being able to live in the present and can sometimes maintain a childlike enthusiasm. They do not like having to focus on certain responsibilities and often become drained by this idea. For the Specialist being able to experience the present without having to obsess over the future is an excellent feeling. They would likely enjoy the idea of not having to live up to the expectations of others and would definitely like everything attached to not having to grow up. Examples: Michael Jackson, Ariana Grande.

10 - Investigator - No. Investigators are often no strangers to taking on responsibilities and will often be more than capable of growing up. Many Investigators find themselves growing up far too soon, and feel the need to take on the needs of those around them. While some Investigators might be immature versions of themselves, this simply means they have not worked on developing their weaker functions. Most Investigators really are not prone to things like Peter Pan syndrome 'sort of speak', instead they are more likely to be the opposite. They can often be the ones who had to grow up a bit too far, taking care of everyone around them.

11 - Agent - Yes. Agents can sometimes have a dislike of responsibilities and having to grow up. They are dreamers by nature and prefer being caught up in their own rich inner minds. Sometimes the Agent can become frustrated by the rules of society and dislikes having to live up to certain expectations. This can cause them to be a bit like Peter Pan in their desire to live their lives on their own terms. They enjoy being able to experience living inside of their own vivid imagination and dislike being dragged out of that. Responsibilities and schedules can be exhausting for Agents at times, making them a bit more prone to Peter Pan syndrome behaviour. Example: Johnny Depp.

12 - Achiever - Yes. Achievers are not always focused on their responsibilities, so in some ways they can be prone to Peter Pan syndrome behaviour. While they are not necessarily seen as immature people, they do dislike being forced to focus on things that others deem valuable. They enjoy living in the present and often like being able to do whatever they please without pressure from the people around them. Examples: Madonna, Tom Cruise.

Dealing with Morons Explorer™

This technique emanates from when you find that the person you are dealing with becomes unreasonable.

1 - Minimize time with the moron and give up the dream that they will one day be the person you wish they'd be. Keep your interactions as short as possible. Minimizing your exposure to those who show any deviation from a healthy, normal, or efficient condition goes a long, long way. Give up where they seem to be the parent/partner/spouse/friend etc you've always felt they could be, yet they ultimately always end up hurting or disappointing significantly. See the Sir Robertson Sole Symptoms™ on this and other pages. We fall for it and get our hopes up again the next time they treat us nicely or seem to have turned a new leaf. Giving up the hope and fully accepting this person for who they really are can be an unbelievable relief after what is sometimes a lifetime of wishing. Give them the flick pass. Get rid of them if you can. They will still have their knickers in a knot and you will not. Sometimes, you just have to wear them - refer items 2 - 7.

2 - Keep it logical and in writing. This may be difficult if you are very verbal, heart-focused person, who connects from an emotional or empathic perspective. This only works with reasonable people who care. Unreasonable people usually don't care, and their response (or lack of it) will often only make you more upset. Keep communications fact-based, using minimal details and in writing if possible. Unreasonable people lose track of what they said and misinterpret what you said.

3 - Don't drink around them. It may be tempting to get into the booze when you're around people who are acting like morons, it will only make you more emotionally vulnerable and more likely to do or say something useless that will either make you look bad, make you feel bad, or make you more of a target.

4 - Focus on them in conversation. A way to avoid being the target of demeaning comments, manipulation or having your words twisted is to say as little as possible. Volunteer minimal information and get them talking about themselves if you have to be around them or have to interact with them. Make it that they are a far safer conversation subject than you are.

5 - Stay away from topics that get you into trouble. Before going into an interaction with a moron, review in your mind the topics that invite attack and be proactive about avoiding them. e.g. if your in-laws always make cracks about your choice of career, answer neutrally and change the subject immediately (see item 4) if they ask you how work is going.

6 - Don't try to get them to see your point of view. Don't try to explain yourself or try to get morons to understand you and empathize with your perspective. They won't, and you'll just feel worse for trying and failing.

7 - Create a distraction. If you absolutely have to spend time with someone who typically upsets you, try to be around them in circumstances that offer some sort of distraction. Focus on playing with a pet if there's one in the vicinity, have the interaction be based around some kind of recreational activity or entertainment, or offer to help in a way that takes you out of the main ring (e.g. offering to chop vegetables in the kitchen before a family dinner). If you can get them to do something that absorbs their attention (taking it off you), even better.

"Realize what you really want. It stops you from chasing butterflies and puts you to work digging gold".
- William Moulton Marston 1893-1947

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