Observing self-control, or otherwise, can make it easy for you to pick their pattern

Who is in control of themselves?
How much self-control does the person that you want to impose on have?
What are the exceptions?
Poor self control patterns are:
Results; Inspirational; Promoter; Counselor; Specialist; Agent; Achiever; Perfectionist.
This group is the same as the Space Cadets. Click Here and may be likely to have Peter Pan behaviour.

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1. Can it be the Director - ESTJ?

The Director is the Border Collie

Sellfe-kən-ˈtrōl™: Yes.
Tactics: FIRE - READY - AIM.
Why? Immense self-control, controls their environment, stubborn and have lots of willpower.
Works hard to get things done and will do whatever it takes to efficiently accomplish goals and getting what they want.
Exception: None as it will affect outcomes.
K9: Border Collie.

Three things the Director would never do:
▶ Letting someone place a glass of iced water on a wooden coffee table.
▶ Seeing a job being done inefficiently and deciding it would be better just to ignore it and not say anything.
▶ Not returning your shopping cart at the supermarket.


2. Can it be the Developer - ENTJ?

The Developer is the German Shepherd

Sellfe-kən-ˈtrōl™: Yes.
Tactics: FIRE - READY - AIM.
Why? Works hard to accomplish goals and be in control of self.
Makes decisions the way they want to. Strong-willed; capable of controlling actions and emotions.
Exception: Momentarily lets loose, but can deal with aftermath.
K9: German Shepherd.

Three things the Developer would never do:
▶ Being passive-aggressive and mysteriously quiet instead of saying directly what is wrong when they are mad at someone.
▶ Distracting themselves with reality TV when an important decision needs to be made.
▶ Not taking over a meeting when it is being run inefficiently or ineffectively.


3. Can it be the Results - ESTP?

The Results is the Jack Russell Terrier

Sellfe-kən-ˈtrōl™: No.
Tactics: FIRE - READY - AIM.
Why? Live in the present moment and like risk and excitement. Do not always think things through and will often jump in without too much thinking which can get cause difficult situations.
Exception: None. Makes life more fun.
K9: Jack Russell Terrier.

Three things the Results would never do:
▶ Driving at the speed limit in the overtaking lane.
▶ Saying no to a dare because it is too scary.
▶ Sniffing loudly instead of blowing your nose.


4. Can it be the Inspirational - ENTP?

The Inspirational is the Bull Terrier

Sellfe-kən-ˈtrōl™: No.
Tactics: FIRE - READY - AIM.
Why? Enjoys taking calculated risks.
Gets into trouble often as they enjoy pushing people and crossing lines. No desire for self-control; rather learn from experiences.
Exception: Great at getting out of uncomfortable situations if it is beneficial for them.
K9: Bull Terrier.

Three things the Inspirational would never do:
▶ Not stating your opinion when you strongly disagree with something that is being said.
▶ Saying, “We do not need to reinvent the wheel here” or “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it”.
▶ Telling someone a dishonest pleasantry instead of the actual truth.


5. Can it be the Persuader - ENFJ?

The Persuader is the Boxer

Sellfe-kən-ˈtrōl™: Yes.
Tactics: READY - AIM - FIRE.
Why? No issue multi-tasking while possessing strong will and mind.
Controls others as often doing things for them.
Exception: When under stress / overwhelmed.
K9: Boxer.

Three things the Persuader would never do:
▶ Saying a simple “Goodbye” instead of adding “Have a great day!” or “It was great to see you!” or “Let’s do this again!”.
▶ Saying “I don’t want to talk,” when a friend who is going through a hard time calls them up.
▶ Not making a list of goals for an entire week.


6. Can it be the Appraiser - ESFJ

The Appraiser is the Great Dane

Sellfe-kən-ˈtrōl™: Yes.
Tactics: READY - AIM - FIRE.
Why? Keeps cool in most situations, especially if it is most important.
Exception: Reacting to emotions of others. Giving their loved ones what they ask for and making others happy.
K9: Great Dane.

Three things the Appraiser would never do:
▶ Giving the silent treatment to a partner and making them guess what is wrong for an entire day.
▶ Not crying or feeling emotional when watching a romantic drama film.
▶ Not holding the door open for the person behind you.


7. Can it be the Promoter - ENFP?

The Promoter is the Golden Retriever

Sellfe-kən-ˈtrōl™: No.
Tactics: READY - AIM - FIRE.
Why? Take lots of chances. Jumps in head first. Lives life as it comes at them. Ignores ridiculous standards. Make foolish mistakes because of their lack of self-control but learns from them.
Exception: If issue is extremely important or if someone close is depending on them.
K9: Golden Retriever.

Three things the Promoter would never do:
▶ Complying immediately when your partner or boss tells you to do an unpleasant job in an authoritarian manner.
▶ Turning off the lights, lying in bed and instantly falling asleep without getting distracted by thoughts.
▶ Following the rules without wondering why they are there in the first place.


8. Can it be the Counselor - ESFP

The Counselor is the Poodle

Sellfe-kən-ˈtrōl™: No.
Tactics: READY - AIM - FIRE.
Why? Lives life to the fullest; takes risks; wants fun; not really great at controlling themselves in most situations. Wants to be the entertainer at all costs. Enjoy making decisions as they go along.
Exception: None.
K9: Poodle.

Three things the Counselor would never do:
▶ Spending six months at a silent retreat.
▶ Declining an invitation to a party because they have paperwork that needs to be done.
▶ Setting up a detailed to-do list for the week and following it to the letter.


9. Can it be the Specialist - ISFP

The Specialist is the Saint Bernard

Sellfe-kən-ˈtrōl™: No.
Tactics: READY - AIM - FIRE.
Why? Lives life in the present. Prefers a quiet and peaceful life enjoying surroundings with no real care on control and prefers to just enjoy the moment.
Exception: If a moral belief, will exercise self-control.
K9: Saint Bernard.

Three things the Specialist would never do:
▶ Drinking instant coffee when you have the money to purchase coffee at Starbucks.
▶ Bullying someone simply because the popular crowd is doing it.
▶ Standing in the middle of an escalator.


10. Can it be the Investigator - INFJ?

The Investigator is the Greyhound

Sellfe-kən-ˈtrōl™: Yes.
Tactics: READY - AIM - FIRE.
Why? Pride themselves on being in control of their decisions, no matter how difficult it might be and possess very high standards. May sometimes seem too controlled.
Exception: When relates those close. When stressed.
K9: Greyhound.

Three things the Investigator would never do:
▶ Taking people at face-value without reading into any underlying meanings or motives.
▶ Passing a bookstore without going inside.
▶ Starting a conflict or argument just because they are bored.


11. Can it be the Agent - INFP?

The Agent is the Tibetan Terrier

Sellfe-kən-ˈtrōl™: No.
Tactics: READY - AIM - FIRE.
Why? When issue is not important. Lacks self-control to force self into action.
Exception: With things that mean the most to them; stand up for themselves regarding moral choices and stay strong.
K9: Tibetan Terrier.

Three things the Agent would never do:
▶ Starting a puppy farm - a commercial dog breeding facility characterized by quick breeding and poor conditions.
▶ Dispassionately throwing away a letter from a former lover.
▶ Listening with only with the intention of replying.


12. Can it be the Achiever - ISTP?

The Achiever is the Bassett Hound

Sellfe-kən-ˈtrōl™: No.
Tactics: READY - AIM - FIRE.
Why? Likes to live in the moment. Prefers to analyse things beforehand, but often actions are not ruled by any desire for control. Enjoys calculated risks leading to jumping into more dangerous situations.
Exception: Can navigate anything new and scary, hence good at getting out of trouble.
K9: Bassett Hound.

Three things the Achiever would never do:
▶ Telling their life story to someone they have just met.
▶ Using generalizations rather than specifics when arguing.
▶ Blocking the footpath to get a photo.


13. Can it be the Practitioner - ISFJ?

The Practitioner is the Alaskan Malamute

Sellfe-kən-ˈtrōl™: Yes.
Tactics: I'M NOT READY - AIM - FIRE
Why? Especially when it is important e.g. family. At work, keeps controlled and calm. Level-headed and knows how to get things done as efficiently as possible. Good at following orders and focussing on tasks.
Exception: Will do more than they should to make those close happy.
K9: Alaskan Malamute.

Three things the Practitioner would never do:
▶ Accepting all compliments with a simple “thank you” and not discounting them, brushing them off or coming up with a compliment to give back.
▶ Looking at their phone when someone is talking to them.
▶ Calling up an ostentatious talk-show host and getting into a screaming match on-air.


14. Can it be the Objective Thinker - ISTJ?

The Objective Thinker is the Bernese Mountain Dog

Sellfe-kən-ˈtrōl™: Yes.
Tactics: I'M NOT READY - AIM - FIRE
Why? Knows where to draw the line. Good at holding back especially if it is important. Controls self in order to get to where wants to be.
Exception: Rare. Some of the most well adjusted individuals.
K9: Bernese Mountain Dog.

Three things the Objective Thinker would never do:
▶ Going to a new doctor without looking at their reviews or checking their credentials.
▶ Sending an email without re-reading it to check for any errors.
▶ Finishing a food item and putting the empty container back in the fridge.


15. Can it be the Perfectionist - INTP?

The Perfectionist is the Papillon

Sellfe-kən-ˈtrōl™: No.
Tactics: I'M NOT READY - AIM - FIRE
Why? Keeps to self, using extreme lengths. Shows pride on being extremely direct and unconcerned with social niceties and offends people. Hates being told what to do / deadlines; difficult to manage; dislikes rules and empathy.
Exception: Can be self-controlled if left alone.
K9: Papillon.

Three things the Perfectionist would never do:
▶ Volunteering to be the master of ceremonies at their next school reunion.
▶ Ignoring logical fallacies in a face-to-face argument.
▶ Typing in all capital letters.


16. Can it be the Enhancer - INTJ?

The Enhancer is the Afghan Hound

Sellfe-kən-ˈtrōl™: Yes.
Tactics: I'M NOT READY - AIM - FIRE
Why? Decisions based on logical thought with pride. Takes time before jumping into things, wanting to be sure of the smartest choice and with complete understanding. Knows when to hold back, appears cold.
Exception: Stress may cause over indulgence, only rarely.
K9: Afghan Hound.

Three things the Enhancer would never do:
▶ Jubilantly engaging in small talk and gossip because it is the polite thing to do.
▶ Deleting your 20-year-life-plan and deciding to live entirely in the moment from now on.
▶ Asking “Are you okay?” whenever someone isn’t smiling.