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Fault - Being too Bossy. Directors lead with a process called Extraverted Thinking. Directors easily see errors that need correcting and naturally delegate to get jobs done and tasks completed on time. They are less excited about the minutiae of implementing goals and prefer to direct others to do so. They are natural leaders and supervisors and, while this is a very good thing, it can give them a reputation for being bossy or controlling. They see what needs to be fixed, what needs to be done and they usually have no problem telling other people how to get those things done or doing it themselves. They don’t mean to be bossy or come across as controlling (but do), rather they are driven by task completion and goal achievement. They see it as their duty to make sure that goals are completed and everyone’s lending a hand to get the job done.
Observed as the Grumbling Griper™. When their hard work is under-appreciated or they feel taken for granted. Do not mind complaining about things that upset them and will often do so openly, yet do not want to be seen as a complainer. But are.
Emeritus Prof. R.Kive™'s "More of a different kind": Has the overgrown anger reflexes of an Objective Thinker.
Fault - Being too Arrogant. Developers are usually extremely driven, competitive and confident individuals. They have a natural leadership style and bold determination that can make them intimidating to many people. They know what they want, they have an eye for the future and they want to get there as quickly as possible. They can become impatient with emotions, extraneous details and people who contradict their plans. Their natural confidence and drive can seem domineering and superior to others, especially people who are more soft-spoken and gentle in their delivery. It’s important to remember that confidence and superiority are not the same thing. Many Developers are confident but truly don’t consider themselves superior to anyone else. They are usually open to hearing other people’s views as long as they aren’t clouded by emotions or filled with details that get in the way of the overall big picture or point.
Observed as the Grumbling Griper™. When people do not do what they ask. If truly trust someone they might feel more comfortable opening up to them in a very direct way but not as a whinger.
Emeritus Prof. R.Kive™'s "More of a different kind": The moment when a Director spins in their office chair to face you.
Fault - Being seen as not taking life seriously. Results folk tend to live in the moment and enjoy taking advantage of current opportunities and realities. They are usually optimists and favour a lot of action and excitement in their lives. At the same time, they tend to dislike routine, sitting still and making long-term decisions. They like to keep their options open and become stressed when they have to make decisions that might tie them down or limit their prospects. Parents, teachers, or partners who see their easy charm and impulsive lifestyle might judge them for not buckling down and making commitments or deciding. They might feel that it’s “immature” to go from one experience to another and not develop a consistent routine. Mature Results folk are responsible, capable, and fearless, but they probably aren’t the types who want to sit in an office the rest of their lives. They need the chance to experiment, go on adventures and try new things. Tying them down will only cause resentment and frustration. At the same time, they may benefit from the help of open-minded people who can help them find strategies for achieving and choosing their long-term goals.
Observed as the Grumbling Griper™. When things get slow or theoretical. Do not mind complaining, but they do it in a more lighthearted way. If trusts someone they will complain to them much more and will vent about what is bothering them.
Emeritus Prof. R.Kive™'s "More of a different kind": The inner pep talk voice of a Counselor.
Fault - Being way too argumentative. Inspirationals naturally see about a thousand alternate angles to any statement or rule. They are determined to explore every perspective and find an idea’s core truth. This can be frustrating for friends and family members who don’t share the Inspirational's natural love of debate. They may feel that the Inspirational is arguing just for the sake of it and, while that may sometimes be the case, it’s not usually. Most Inspirationals just have to make sure a statement stands up to scrutiny, and they can find so very many ways to scrutinize something. It can frustrate Inspirationals when they unintentionally offend people they care about by arguing against something that’s personal to someone else. They may feel misunderstood or that their efforts to discover truth are being stifled. Especially as children, many Inspirationals are told to do as their told and follow authority without question. This can be a very difficult experience when young as they essentially have to shut down a major part of who they are to get by - manipulative tendencies and a Jeckyll and Hyde reputation in many instances.
Observed as the Grumbling Griper™. When people do not understand their vision. Excellent at masking their troubles with humour and will often use this as a way to complain or vent.
Emeritus Prof. R.Kive™'s "More of a different kind": The moment when a Developer says it’s cool and they’re not mad, but it’s just denial.
Always acknowledge a fault quite frankly. This will throw those in authority off their guard and give you an opportunity to commit more."
Fault - Being always seen as trying too hard. Persuaders are known for their enthusiasm, empathy and outgoing nature. They crave harmony in their environment and like to make people happy and feel welcome and understood. Healthy Persuaders are usually good listeners, inspirational teachers and loyal friends. They tend to be very generous with their time and they will usually drop just about anything if someone needs to talk or needs their help. They can become so absorbed in the needs and emotions of the people around them that they can lose sight of their own needs. People who don’t share this tendency can see the Persuader as “trying too hard” or too concerned with what other people think. Persuaders may be were misjudged as being “phony”, “fake” or “too bubbly”. Usually these kinds of judgments come from people who are introverts and don’t realize that there’s nothing fake about it; it’s just the way Persuaders are wired. They try to show the real, authentic parts of themselves that are needed for the occasion and will often put their own needs and desires aside for the needs and desires of the people they care about.
Observed as the Grumbling Griper™. When impersonal reasoning interferes with their ability to build quality relationships. My not complain at all as they do not want their complaints to make them appear weak in any way.
Emeritus Prof. R.Kive™'s "More of a different kind": The effects of 100 years of aging on a Promoter.
Fault - Being caring too much about what others think. Appraisers lead with a judging function called Extroverted Feeling. Appraisers tend to be warm, compassionate and friendly. However, they also tend to look outside themselves for corresponding feelings of morale and acceptance from others. They are very sensitive to both praise and criticism and are anxious to conform to all legitimate expectations. Now this doesn’t mean they have no values of their own (they certainly do), but they do tend to care a lot about making sure that other people are happy with them. Their need for harmony and acceptance can seem silly to thinking types, who value pure logic over other people’s expectations. And silly to introverted feeling types who sort out their own emotions and do not care less what other people think. Other types have to understand that the need for acceptance to be expressed is just as vital to the Appraiser as the need for logic is for the dominant thinking types.
Observed as the Grumbling Griper™. When other people are not pleased with them. Will often feel at ease venting their troubles to someone they trust. This often causes complaints to occur more often than they realise, simply because they feel comfortable.
Emeritus Prof. R.Kive™'s "More of a different kind": The huge grin a Results person has when everyone pays attention to them.
Fault - Being an avoider of stability and security. Promoters are naturally adventurous and innovative. They don’t like doing things “by the book” and will usually turn down a risk-free lifestyle in favor of new experiences and challenges. They are the quintessential “ideas people” and they must follow their inspiration in order to have a fulfilled life. Other types may see their ever-shifting ventures and feel that they are “flighty” or “irresponsible” or "a poor finisher". They may be chided for turning down a good, secure job or a secure, long-term relationship. It’s important for people to remember that Promoters are naturally going to chase their dreams and visions and they will become bored and depressed in the same routine, structured life year after year. This isn’t to say that Promoters can’t commit sometimes; in fact, when they find a career or person they love they tend to be very loyal. Even so, they will always need some form of adventure and experimentation in their life and they will find ways to get it or they will be very unhappy people.
Observed as the Grumbling Griper™. When anyone expects them to follow through on projects they have committed to. Tend to complain only when something serious is bothering them. Gets upset if negative people around them. Hypocritical if a Social Justice Warrior when they fail to acknowledge the most basic of economic principles.
Emeritus Prof. R.Kive™'s "More of a different kind": A homicidal narcissist wearing a cut face mask of an Agent so everyone thinks they are innocent.
Fault - Being a seeker of too much attention. Counselors are often called “The Entertainers” and it’s not hard to see why. They enjoy making people laugh, smile and come alive. They have a natural enthusiasm and charisma that draws people in. The problem is certain people will not be as impressed by this as others. Some individuals find themselves jealous of the charm and outgoing good humour of the Counselor and may feel that it’s over-the-top or shallow. They may feel that the Counselor's humour and natural entertaining style is actually a need for constant attention and admiration. While some Counselors do really crave attention, many of them just enjoy making people happy. They see opportunities for fun and excitement everywhere and don’t want anyone to miss out.
Observed as the Grumbling Griper™. When people are not getting along. Do not have the ability to bottle up their emotions and often need to express them to others.
Emeritus Prof. R.Kive™'s "More of a different kind": The camouflage of a hidden nerdy Perfectionist.
Fault - Being overly sensitive. Specialists lead with a process called Introverted Feeling. As a result, they tend to hold their emotions close and their values even closer. They are very private about their emotions, but even so they are often deeply moved by injustice and harsh words. They may cry more easily than other types much to their own dismay. As very private individuals they’d prefer to keep their emotions more internalized, but when they are moved on the inside, it often shows in the form of tears on the outside. Specialists are highly sensitive and loving and feel everything personally and deeply. This sensitivity makes them passionate about the welfare of troubled and struggling people (or animals), but it can often be misconstrued for weakness by less understanding individuals.
Observed as the Grumbling Griper™. When they are asked to make decisions for other people. Do not like to complain, but can sometimes have a hard time keeping their feelings to themselves.
Emeritus Prof. R.Kive™'s "More of a different kind": A caring version of the Achiever.
Fault - Being stuck in the head. Investigators tend to be consumed with an inner vision for their lives. This moves from image to image, chasing after every possibility in the subconscious. Investigators find themselves pre-occupied by affirming existence by questions, by forecasts, by symbolic apprehensions or insights that lead them. They can become so wrapped up in understanding how to make sense of their intuitions or how to understand them more fully that they lose sight of the outside world. Reality does not exist - in place are fruitless fantasies. This is exactly the kind of judgment that many people can make against Investigators; that they are so focused on their ideas, dreams and visions that they lose sight of what’s happening around them and the practical needs of the day. It’s important to remember that Investigators are known for their vision and insight and this ability shouldn’t be stifled, but at the same time they need to remember to use their auxiliary support process to engage with the outer world and find balance and to attempt to do it with tact.
Observed as the Grumbling Griper™. When there is any conflict that interferes with their artistic vision. Will not be afraid to complain to people they trust (the "complaint machine").
Emeritus Prof. R.Kive™'s "More of a different kind": Insecure, master manipulator version of a Persuader.
Fault - Being totally unrealistic. Agents are intensely imaginative and passionate individuals. They have high ideals that they strive to live up to and bring into reality. Unfortunately many people just don’t “get” the Agent's way of thinking and they find their ideals to be unrealistic and impractical. They make it their mission to bring them down to earth and “help” them focus on the concrete realities of daily life. While unhealthy Agents can venture so far into a world of the imagination that they lose touch with their own realistic needs, most healthy Agents have a good balance of imagination and determination. What other people might see as a “pipe dream” many Agents are able to accomplish if they believe in themselves. They need people who have faith in them, will encourage them and will also (kindly) remind them to take care of themselves and their practical needs. Agents are natural dreamers and without their passion and imagination we wouldn’t have people like William Shakespeare, Hans Christian Andersen or A.A. Milne.
Observed as the Grumbling Griper™. When anyone expects them to deal with the mundane details of life. They will likely feel the need to complain to someone with whom they care regarding their troubles, but they also want to hear what that person has to say.
Emeritus Prof. R.Kive™'s "More of a different kind": The hormonal teenager side of themselves a Specialist would rather hide.
Fault - Being lazy or unmotivated. Achievers like to see all the pieces of a puzzle before making a decision. If they’re in a crisis they can act quickly. However, when it comes to deciding on a job, whether or not to get married or when to complete homework, they prefer to mull over information and get all the facts before deciding. When people judge Achievers as “lazy” it’s usually because a) The Achiever doesn’t feel they have enough information to move forward or b) They’ve found a “shortcut” for completing a task that doesn’t line up with bureaucratic rules. If the Achiever is actually bored with a project they’re given they will generally find the fastest way possible to accomplish it. This may bug other types who favor procedure and routine over efficiency. This disregard for the “way it’s always been done” can lead to judgments about the Achiever being lazy instead of following the rules.
Observed as the Grumbling Griper™. When there is no productive action to take immediately. Like to complain in a more sarcastic way and enjoy using humor as a way to deflect. Laid back; do not want to become stressed for no reason.
Emeritus Prof. R.Kive™'s "More of a different kind": What you get when you take out the batteries of a Counselor.
Fault - Being worried too much. Practitioners like to know what to expect and they tend to fear uncertainty and the unknown. They like to order their lives in such a way that risks are avoided and the people in their lives are carefully tended to. They dislike uncertainties, abstractions and not knowing what the future will hold. They can be very protective about the people in their lives, especially their families and can worry about many negative possibilities and risks that they might be exposed to. They tend to be judged for being “over-protective” or too worried about risks and uncertainties. People on the outside might give them a hard time and tell them to “loosen up” more and to “enjoy today, because tomorrow has enough trouble of its own”. Unfortunately, these kinds of empty lines only work to further frustrate the Practitioners instead of helping them.
Observed as the Grumbling Griper™. When they lack positive feedback or receive unwarranted criticism. The quiet complainers and will not do so in a big or obnoxious way.
Emeritus Prof. R.Kive™'s "More of a different kind": The momentary pause an Appraiser takes when talking.
Fault - Being repetitious and not trying new things. OT's lead with a process called Introverted Sensing, a perceiving function and OTs like routine and knowing what to expect. The more they repeat the same process favorably, the more they like to incorporate that process into their routine. Many OTs like the same meals over again, the same schedules and they like going to the same familiar places. This doesn’t mean they can’t ever be adventurous or try novel things, in fact many of them go through spurts of time where they do attempt new or unusual things. They can also be innovative, but are very cautious and meticulous about their innovations. Even so, to outsiders, OTs often look like people who should “shake things up” and try new and different meals, activities and routines.
Observed as the Grumbling Griper™. When there is not a clearly defined plan of action. Very guarded with complaints as they do not want people to dote on them, which is why they do not want to outwardly complain.
Emeritus Prof. R.Kive™'s "More of a different kind": Rule oriented Enhancer who has never never been tempted to be a rebel.
Fault - Being too insensitive. Perfectionists favor objective honesty and this comes through clearly in their speech. They may unwittingly offend other people because they don’t realize that their delivery seems overly direct and detached. This can be a major source of frustration for Perfectionists because they actually do care about the people in their lives more than most people realise. They are often caught off guard when people call them insensitive because they are rarely mean-spirited and would rather avoid conflict or hurting other people’s feelings if they could. They appreciate objective honesty in others, so they have a hard time understanding why other people wouldn’t feel the same. When they care about someone, they tell them the truth. So if a Perfectionist you love is being a little “too” honest with you, just remember that “sugarcoating” is probably not a sign they respect you.
Observed as the Grumbling Griper™. When practical considerations interfere with their creative potential. Having someone who is open to listening to their complaints is truly a wonderful feeling since they realize that most people are not great listeners.
Emeritus Prof. R.Kive™'s "More of a different kind": The Dr. Jekyll (good) version of an Inspirational Mr. Hyde (evil).
Fault - Being cold and calculating. Enhancers are intensely strategic and visionary. They favor logic and rational thought over their own emotions and feelings and will usually be confused by people who do the opposite. They consider the big picture and have little patience for extraneous details and feelings that might get in the way. People often misinterpret their direct speech and shrewd nature with meanness or snobbery, but what they need to realize is that Enhancers are honest and direct with the people they care about. They would consider it an insult to have messages “sugarcoated” for them so they refuse to do this to others. They favor bold honesty and are put off by social niceties that get in the way of the truth.
Observed as the Grumbling Griper™. When people do not see why their strategy is the best. When they trusts and enjoy someone as a person, they will feel more at ease expressing themselves to that individual. They will likely complain to them in a more sarcastic and witty manner, as a means to vent and get out of their frustrations. The Emperor of Sarcasm and Skepticism.
Emeritus Prof. R.Kive™'s "More of a different kind": The hairball (Rapunzel) complex of an Investigator where they will never want to admit how much they care.