Emotional manipulation occurs when a person tries to gain power or control by using sneaky, deceptive tactics
to change the thinking, behaviour or perceptions of their victim.

Ten Elevanto STYLES that a MANIPULATOR may employ to manipulate you.

1. Constant Victim – Finds a way to end up as the victim;
2. One-Upmanship - Uses put downs, snide remarks and criticisms to show superiority;
3. Powerful Dependent – Hides behind the mask of being weak and powerless;
4. Triangulator – Tries to get others on side;
5. Blaster – Blasts anger and blows up suddenly;
6. Projector – See themselves as perfect and its others that have the flaws and take no ownership because they are ever wrong;
7. Deliberate Misinterpreter – Seems like a nice person – but twists and use your words. Spread misinformation and misinterprets you and deliberately presents you in a false or negative way;
8. Flirt – To get their way in life. They want to be admired and to have an audience but others feelings are of no concern.
9. Iron Fist – Uses intimidation and throws weight around, uses you for their ends and to get their way.
10. Combo - Switching from one to the other of the above 9.

Elevanto TIMING METHOD to see if someone is going to manipulate you.

1. Intentionally direct the conversation around and talk about yourself.
2. Closely monitor how long you are allowed to do this and whether the other person is paying attention.
3. If they do not let you talk for around 15 seconds, you have a clue of whether you will be manipulated.
4. The faster you get shut down, the more manipulative the other person is!
5. Are you speaking with someone where you feel like you are being lulled into comfort,
PAY ATTENTION, because that is the moment the manipulative people strike.

Elevanto SOPHISTRY METHOD to see if someone is already manipulating you.

Sophistry is reasoning that seems plausible on a superficial level but is actually unsound, or reasoning that is used to deceive.
1. DANGER: TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE: Are you speaking with someone you instantly liked and bonded with in minutes?
2. DANGER: OVERDONE FLATTERY: Are you speaking with someone who took you seriously, respected your opinion and valued your character and personality? Plus worked out your personal style, how great they thought you were, your manners etc..
3. DANGER: UNUSUAL SENSE OF BOUNDARIES: The way they sit down makes you uncomfortable. Not a casual sit down, it is almost predatory and very close. No boundaries on subject matter; inappropriate for a stranger. And it gets worse each time.
4. DANGER: DEVIL-MAY-CARE VOCAL TONES: Everything else is intense; vocal tone has a couldn't care less attitude about the conversation.
5. DANGER: SHUTTING OUT OTHERS: Downplays / rejects opinions of others nearby.
6. DANGER: PLAYING THE SAINT/VICTIM/WHORE: Acts as a saint beyond reproach whose only goal is to serve others. OR a horribly wronged victim who cannot be held responsible for any of their actions. OR a "playful temptress" who loves having a little fun if you'll look the other way.
7. DANGER: THE EYES: Intense, intimidating, keeps very direct eye contact with compliments and would smile in a very... weird way. Alluring yet scary.

If you tick some of these, you probably have been manipulated to the hilt.

Elevanto U-CHECK YOURSELF METHOD to see if YOU are likely to be the MANIPULATEE.

1. DANGER: The 'disease to please'.
2. DANGER: An addiction to earning the approval and acceptance of others.
3. DANGER: A fear of negative emotion.
4. DANGER: A lack of assertiveness and ability to say no.
5. DANGER: A blurry sense of identity (with soft personal boundaries).
6. DANGER: Low self-reliance.
7. DANGER: Tend to praise or blame external factors. e.g. the teacher, the exam.

Mind Gamerz™ who do the manipulating have been issued with a descriptor of their prime factor.


Majik™ Guide: Prime factor of how each pattern goes as the MANIPULATOR.

Director
One Upmanship
Developer
One Upmanship
Results
One Upmanship
Inspirational
One Upmanship
Persuader
Projector
Appraiser
Constant victim
Promoter
One Upmanship
Counselor
One Upmanship
Specialist
One Upmanship
Investigator
Constant victim
Agent
Deliberate misinterpreter
Achiever
Blaster
Practitioner
Constant victim
Objective Thinker
Triangulator
Perfectionist
One Upmanship
Enhancer
One Upmanship

1. Director - ESTJ

As Manipulator: One-Upmanship. Intent on winning, withholds information so will always know more - constructs own ego. Alternative: Triangulator, Iron fist.

As Manipulatee: Avoids manipulators as dislikes being pushed around. But not so if they are close to the manipulator.

Trouble can be expected if they are: Underestimated.

Manipulated by: Temptation.

Prime Factor: One Upmanship.

Lying: Cat 2. 2nd Quartile. Higher. Propaganda.

You know this pattern is lying when they say: "I can handle it."


2. Developer - ENTJ

As Manipulator: One-Upmanship. Intent on winning, withholds information so will always know more - constructs own ego. Alternative: Triangulator, Blaster, Iron fist.

As Manipulatee: Natural skeptic, not easy to manipulate at all as have their up and paying close attention. Only wants fully trusted souls around.

Trouble can be expected if they are: Ignored.

Manipulated by: Being roadblocked.

Prime Factor: One Upmanship.

Lying: Cat 2. 2nd Quartile. Higher. Propaganda.

You know this pattern is lying when they say: "I am not stressed."


3. Results - ESTP

As Manipulator: One-Upmanship. Intent on winning, withholds information so will always know more - constructs own ego. Alternative: Blaster, Projector, Flirt.

As Manipulatee: If trusts and admires can often be easily manipulated by them. Not easily swayed by strangers.

Trouble can be expected if they are: Dominated.

Manipulated by: Temptation.

Prime Factor: One Upmanship.

Lying: Cat 4. Lowest. Meet social norms. Lie to meet needs.

You know this pattern is lying when they say: "I could never betray you."


4. Inspirational - ENTP

As Manipulator: One-Upmanship. A Master. Intent on winning, withholds information so will always know more - constructs own ego. May see the other side of a conversation which could easily turn into an argument. Alternative: Projector.

As Manipulatee: Senses any attempt. Turns the tables rather quickly. Tries to manipulate back.

Trouble can be expected if they are: Dismissed.

Manipulated by: Being roadblocked.

Prime Factor: One Upmanship.

Lying: Cat 1. Most likely. Tweak the truth.

You know this pattern is lying when they say: "I'm confident."


5. Persuader - ENFJ

As Manipulator: Projector. Do not want to be seen as flawed; only wants to be seen in the light of their choice. Alternative: Nil.

As Manipulatee: Can often sense when someone is attempting to manipulate. But this can fail if it is a close person.

Trouble can be expected if they are: Antagonised.

Manipulated by: Withholding love.

Prime Factor: Projector.

Lying: Cat 2. 2nd Quartile. Higher. Propaganda.

You know this pattern is lying when they say: "I'm calm and I don't get mad."


6. Appraiser - ESFJ

As Manipulator: The constant victim. The "victim" is the Appraiser who may not realise that this is what they are doing. Uses this strategy when negative feelings are identified. Alternative: Projector, Flirt.

As Manipulatee: Can often sense when people are untrustworthy and are not easy to manipulate. But can sense manipulation if it is a close person.

Trouble can be expected if they are: Abandoned.

Manipulated by: Social pressure.

Prime Factor: Constant victim.

Lying: Cat 3. 3rd Quartile Lower. White lies. Manipulation.

You know this pattern is lying when they say: "I'm not jealous."


7. Promoter - ENFP

As Manipulator: One-Upmanship. Intent on winning, withholds information so will always know more - constructs own ego. Argumentative. Alternative: Projector, Deliberate Misinterpreter, Flirt. Good at convincing but brief e.g. a trick.

As Manipulatee: Gullible and easily manipulated but have a natural skill for manipulation.

Trouble can be expected if they are: Reigned in.

Manipulated by: Withholding love.

Prime Factor: One Upmanship.

Lying: Cat 1. Most likely. Tweak the truth.

You know this pattern is lying when they say: "I'm fine."


8. Counselor - ESFP

As Manipulator: The constant victim. Will believe are, or play, the "victim" if it will get them out of a hostile situation. Alternative: Blaster, Projector, Flirt.

As Manipulatee: Blind to the manipulation going on. Takes everything at face value. Not skeptical.

Trouble can be expected if they are: Belittled.

Manipulated by: Social pressure.

Prime Factor: Constant victim.

Lying: Cat 3. 3rd Quartile Lower. White lies. Manipulation.

You know this pattern is lying when they say: "I promise I'll be careful."


9. Specialist - ISFP

As Manipulator: Constant victim. Will believe are, or play, the "victim" if it will get them out of a hostile situation. Alternative: Flirt.

As Manipulatee: THE EASIEST!! Easy as they are warm and gentle. Tries to avoid being manipulated but can be trapped by those close.

Trouble can be expected if they are: Betrayed.

Manipulated by: Guilt.

Prime Factor: Constant Victim.

Lying: Cat 4. Lowest. Meet social norms. Lie to meet needs.

You know this pattern is lying when they say: "I've got it under control."


10. Investigator - INFJ

As Manipulator: The constant victim. A master manipulator. The "victim" is the Investigator who may not realise that this is what they are doing. Uses when negative feelings are identified. Alternative: Powerful Dependent.

As Manipulatee: Can read you, but not as well if a close person.

Trouble can be expected if they are: Taken for granted.

Manipulated by: Trust.

Prime Factor: Constant victim.

Lying: Cat 3. 3rd Quartile Lower. White lies. Manipulation.

You know this pattern is lying when they say: "I won't judge you."


11. Agent - INFP

As Manipulator: Deliberate misinterpreter. To make rivals look bad equals they look good. Alternative: Nil.

As Manipulatee: Can pretty much see through you and are one step ahead.

Trouble can be expected if they are: Trapped.

Manipulated by: Trust.

Prime Factor: Deliberate misinterpreter.

Lying: Cat 1. Most likely. Tweak the truth.

You know this pattern is lying when they say: "I'm over it."


12. Achiever - ISTP

As Manipulator: Blaster. Scream, hit, whatever to get you off their back. Do not want issues exposed! Alternative: Flirt.

As Manipulatee: Not easy to manipulate as they prefer to be alone. Dislike people who are manipulative or shady.

Trouble can be expected if they are: Used.

Manipulated by: Frustration.

Prime Factor: Blaster.

Lying: Cat 4. Lowest. Meet social norms. Lie to meet needs.

You know this pattern is lying when they say: "No big deal."


13. Practitioner - ISFJ

As Manipulator: The constant victim. The "victim" is the Practitioner who may not realise that this is what they are doing. Uses this when negative feelings are identified. Grates on others with their 'poor-me' attitude and are allergic to taking responsibility for their actions. The world is always against them, the reason for their unhappiness. They can start by saying, "I don't want you to think I am a complainer". This is self-certification that they are just that. When you offer a solution to their problems they always say, "Yes, but...." One gets the feeling that whatever you do, they will never be satisfied. You should consider screening your calls or purposely avoiding them. As a friend, you may want to help, but their tales of woe may overwhelm you. Alternative: Powerful Dependent, Deliberate Misinterpreter.

As Manipulatee: Easily manipulated. Warm hearts, desire to please make for an easy target for shady people.

Trouble can be expected if they are: Neglected.

Manipulated by: Guilt.

Prime Factor: Constant victim.

Lying: Cat 3. 3rd Quartile Lower. White lies. Manipulation.

You know this pattern is lying when they say: "I don't need help."


14. Objective Thinker - ISTJ

As Manipulator: Triangulator (majority rules). Because if it is established by the majority, it must be right. So they will not feel like an idiot by agreeing. Alternative: Iron fist.

As Manipulatee: Rather difficult to manipulate as are skeptical. If you try, you will not be trusted again by the OT.

Trouble can be expected if they are: Misled.

Manipulated by: Frustration.

Prime Factor: Triangulator.

Lying: Cat 4. Lowest. Meet social norms. Lie to meet needs.

You know this pattern is lying when they say: "Oh, sorry I forgot."


15. Perfectionist - INTP

As Manipulator: One-Upmanship. Intent on winning, withholds information so will always know more - constructs own ego. Alternative: Nil.

As Manipulatee: Very difficult and hates manipulation as is skeptical. Avoids hurt by way of trusting and being seen as a 'fool' by keeping a safe distance.

Trouble can be expected if they are: Subjected to having games played on them.

Manipulated by: Reverse psychology.

Prime Factor: One Upmanship.

Lying: Cat 1. Most likely. Tweak the truth.

You know this pattern is lying when they say: "It's whatever."


16. Enhancer - INTJ

As Manipulator: One-Upmanship. Intent on winning, withholds information so will always know more - constructs own ego. Alternative: Triangulator, Iron fist.

As Manipulatee: Will put ten times the energy into trying to manipulate you that you could ever put into manipulating them.

Trouble can be expected if they are: Controlled.

Manipulated by: Reverse psychology.

Prime Factor: One Upmanship.

Lying: Cat 2. 2nd Quartile. Higher. Propaganda.

You know this pattern is lying when they say: "I don't care."

Example: If an Enhancer had a very long history of rule breaking as a child, it would seem that they are very good at lying even though they do not like doing it. There will be instances where lying was the most rational course of action. Their introverted intuition has a way of predicting the most likely outcome of a scenario. Their extroverted thinking comes up with the most likely way of getting to that outcome.
If an Enhancer child sees some lollies that they are not allowed to have, but really want them, they would not just 'grab and eat' when nobody is looking because they have already predicted that the lollies' absence is going to be noticed. Instead, they lay out an entire combat strategy.
When. How. Alibis. Covering tracks. Leaving no evidence. Coming up with a believable theory on what might have happened to the lollies. The theft might have been pulled off so well that nobody would ever even think to ask ‘Did you eat those lollies?’ So in one sense of lying, the crime has been executed so well that an audible lie is not necessary. The supposed innocence would in itself be a very big lie, but who would know? If, however, the Enhancer was caught red-handed, in most cases, they would have already created contingency plans and preempted excuses exactly for the odd chance of that actually happening.
The Enhancer is especially skilled at lying in the sense of intentional half-truths or misinterpreted meanings. Because in many cases, this would not be regarded as a straight-up lie. See Ingeniously Problematic™
Let's assume that the Enhancer was at a work site and the boss is not. They have a job they already know they are supposed to do and the boss is going to call later and give the next assignment. By the time the second job is complete, the boss will turn up. The call takes place before the first job is complete. The Enhancer might lead the boss to believe it is in order to get the next assignment without having to go through the whole annoying interrogation: ‘Why aren’t you finished yet?’ This will avoid the boss saying ‘Get the job done and then call me when you get that far’. This is totally unnecessary as the Enhancer is constantly trying to think ahead and plan the future. So by lying about the first job and indicating readiness for the second the Enhancer can wrap up the first job while simultaneously planning strategy for the second which is going to make things go a whole lot faster. The Enhancer is likely get both jobs done before the boss arrives and have a couple extra minutes to kill. Yes, it is technically a lie. But to an Enhancer it is considered to be operating at peak efficiency. This is how Elizabeth Hunter™ has operated all her career.