Emotional manipulation occurs when a person tries to gain power or control by using sneaky, deceptive tactics
to change the thinking, behaviour, or perceptions of their victim.

Ten Elevanto STYLES that a MANIPULATOR may employ to manipulate you.

1. Constant Victim – Finds a way to end up as the victim;
2. One-Upmanship - Uses put downs, snide remarks and criticisms to show superiority;
3. Powerful Dependent – Hides behind the mask of being weak and powerless;
4. Triangulator – Tries to get others on side;
5. Blaster – Blasts anger and blows up suddenly;
6. Projector – See themselves as perfect and its others that have the flaws and take no ownership because they are ever wrong;
7. Deliberate Misinterpreter – Seems like a nice person – but twists and use your words. Spread misinformation and misinterprets you and deliberately presents you in a false or negative way;
8. Flirt – To get their way in life. They want to be admired and to have an audience but others feelings are of no concern.
9. Iron Fist – Uses intimidation and throws weight around, uses you for their ends and to get their way.
10. Combo - Switching from one to the other of the above 9.

Elevanto TIMING METHOD to see if someone is going to manipulate you.

1. Intentionally direct the conversation around and talk about yourself.
2. Closely monitor how long you are allowed to do this and whether the other person is paying attention.
3. If they do not let you talk for around 15 seconds, you have a clue of whether you will be manipulated.
4. The faster you get shut down, the more manipulative the other person is!
5. Are you speaking with someone where you feel like you are being lulled into comfort,
PAY ATTENTION, because that is the moment the manipulative people strike.

Elevanto SOPHISTRY METHOD to see if someone is already manipulating you.

Sophistry is reasoning that seems plausible on a superficial level but is actually unsound, or reasoning that is used to deceive.
1. DANGER: TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE: Are you speaking with someone you instantly liked and bonded with in minutes?
2. DANGER: OVERDONE FLATTERY: Are you speaking with someone who took you seriously, respected your opinion and valued your character and personality? Plus worked out your personal style, how great they thought you were, your manners etc..
3. DANGER: UNUSUAL SENSE OF BOUNDARIES: The way they sit down makes you uncomfortable. Not a casual sit down, it is almost predatory and very close. No boundaries on subject matter; in appropriate for a stranger. And gets worse each time.
4. DANGER: DEVIL-MAY-CARE VOCAL TONES: Everything else is intense; vocal tone has a couldn't care less attitude about the conversation.
5. DANGER: SHUTTING OUT OTHERS: Downplays / rejects opinions of others nearby.
6. DANGER: PLAYING THE SAINT/VICTIM/WHORE: Acts as a saint beyond reproach whose only goal is to serve others. OR a horribly wronged victim who cannot be held responsible for any of their actions. OR a "playful temptress" who loves having a little fun if you'll look the other way.
7. DANGER: THE EYES: Intense, intimidating, keeps very direct eye contact with compliments and would smile in a very... weird way. Alluring yet scary.

If you tick some of these, you probably been manipulated to the hilt.

Elevanto U-CHECK YOURSELF METHOD to see if YOU are likely to be the MANIPULATEE.

1. DANGER: The "disease to please'.
2. DANGER: An addiction to earning the approval and acceptance of others.
3. DANGER: A fear of negative emotion.
4. DANGER: A lack of assertiveness and ability to say no.
5. DANGER: A blurry sense of identity (with soft personal boundaries).
6. DANGER: Low self-reliance.
7. DANGER: Tend to praise or blame external factors. e.g. the teacher, the exam.

Mind Gamerz™ who do the manipulating have been issued with a descriptor of their prime factor.


1. Director - ESTJ

As Manipulator: One-Upmanship. Intent on winning, withholds information so will always know more - constructs own ego. Alternative: Triangulator, Iron fist.
As Manipulatee: Avoids manipulators as dislikes being pushed around. But not so if they are close to the manipulator.

Prime Factor: One Upmanship


2. Developer - ENTJ

As Manipulator: One-Upmanship. Intent on winning, withholds information so will always know more - constructs own ego. Alternative: Triangulator, Blaster, Iron fist.
As Manipulatee: Natural skeptic, not easy to manipulate at all as have guard up and pays close attention. Only want fully trusted souls around.

Prime Factor: One Upmanship


3. Results - ESTP

As Manipulator: One-Upmanship. Intent on winning, withholds information so will always know more - constructs own ego. Alternative: Blaster, Projector, Flirt.
As Manipulatee: If trusts and admires can often be easily manipulated by them. Not easily swayed by strangers.

Prime Factor: One Upmanship


4. Inspirational - ENTP

As Manipulator: One-Upmanship. A Master. Intent on winning, withholds information so will always know more - constructs own ego. May see the other side of a conversation which could easily turn into an argument. Alternative: Projector.
As Manipulatee: Senses any attempt. Turns the tables rather quickly. Tries to manipulate back.

Prime Factor: One Upmanship


5. Persuader - ENFJ

As Manipulator: Projector. Do not want to be seen as flawed; only wants to be seen in the light of their choice Alternative: Nil.
As Manipulatee: Can often sense when someone is attempting to manipulate. But can fail if it's a close person.

Prime Factor: Projector


6. Appraiser - ESFJ

As Manipulator: The constant victim. The “victim” is the Appraiser who may not realise that this is what they are doing. Uses when negative feelings are identified. Alternative: Projector, Flirt.
As Manipulatee: Can often sense when people are untrustworthy and are not easy to manipulate. But can sense manipulation if it's a close person.

Prime Factor: One Upmanship


7. Promoter - ENFP

As Manipulator: One-Upmanship. Intent on winning, withholds information so will always know more - constructs own ego. Argumentative. Alternative: Projector, Deliberate Misinterpreter, Flirt. Good at convincing but brief e.g. a trick.
As Manipulatee: Gullible and easily manipulated but have a natural skill for manipulation.

Prime Factor: One Upmanship


8. Counselor - ESFP

As Manipulator: The constant victim. Will believe are, or play, the victim if it will get out of a hostile situation. Alternative: Blaster, Projector, Flirt.
As Manipulatee: Blind to the manipulation going on. Take everything at face value. Not skeptical.

Prime Factor: Constant Victim


9. Specialist - ISFP

As Manipulator: Constant Victim. Will believe are, or play, the victim if it will get out of a hostile situation. Alternative: Flirt.
As Manipulatee: THE EASIEST!! Easy as warm and gentle. Tries to avoid but can be trapped by those close.

Prime Factor: Constant Victim


10. Investigator - INFJ

As Manipulator: A Master. The constant victim. The “victim” is the Investigator who may not realise that this is what they are doing. Uses when negative feelings are identified. Alternative: Powerful Dependent.
As Manipulatee: Can read you but not as well if a close person.

Prime Factor: Constant Victim


11. Agent - INFP

As Manipulator: Deliberate Misinterpreter. Make rivals look bad equals they look good. Alternative: Nil.
As Manipulatee: Can pretty much see through you and are one step ahead.

Prime Factor: Deliberate Misinterpreter


12. Achiever - ISTP

As Manipulator: Blaster. Scream, hit, whatever to get you off their back. Do not want issues exposed! Alternative: Flirt.
As Manipulatee: Not easy to manipulate as prefer to be alone. Dislike people who are manipulative or shady.

Prime Factor: Blaster


13. Practitioner - ISFJ

As Manipulator: The constant victim. The “victim” is the Practitioner who may not realise that this is what they are doing. Uses this when negative feelings are identified. Grate on you with their 'poor-me' attitude and are allergic to taking responsibility for their actions. The world is always against them, the reason for their unhappiness. When you offer a solution to their problems they always say, “Yes, but.” You should consider screening your calls or purposely avoiding them. As a friend, you may want to help but their tales of woe overwhelm you. Alternative: Powerful Dependent, Deliberate Misinterpreter.
As Manipulatee: Easily manipulated. Warm hearts, desire to please make for an easy target for shady people.

Prime Factor: Constant Victim


14. Objective Thinker - ISTJ

As Manipulator: Triangulator (majority rules). Because if it is established by the majority, it must be right. So you will not feel like an idiot by agreeing. Alternative: Iron fist.
As Manipulatee: Rather difficult to manipulate as skeptical. If you try you will not be trusted again by the OT.

Prime Factor: Triangulator


15. Perfectionist - INTP

As Manipulator: One-Upmanship. Intent on winning, withholds information so will always know more - constructs own ego. Alternative: Nil.

As Manipulatee: Very difficult and hates manipulation as skeptical. Avoids hurt by way of trusting and being seen as a 'fool' by keeping a safe distance.

Prime Factor: One Upmanship


16. Enhancer - INTJ

As Manipulator: One-Upmanship. Intent on winning, withholds information so will always know more - constructs own ego. Alternative: Triangulator, Iron fist.
As Manipulatee: Will put ten times the energy into trying to manipulate you that you could ever put into manipulating them.

Prime Factor: One Upmanship