8. Counselor - ESFP (The Performer) - Party animal. Everything’s going to be just fine; I’m with you all the way. - Don't worry, be happy.

ID - I with D - Priority. Open, People-Oriented v. Guarded, Task-Oriented.

II - I with I - Competition. Open, People-Oriented v. Open, People-Oriented.

IS - I with S - Pace & Priority. Pace. Direct, Fast-Paced v. Indirect, Slower-Paced.

IC - I with C - Pace & Priority. Direct, Fast-Paced, Open, People-Oriented v. Indirect, Slower-Paced, Guarded, Task-Oriented.

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In the Personal Space

How others are judged: Avoider Judgeology™. Has conscious awareness of people and realise where they should and should not judge. They tend to prefer having fun and expressing forgiveness more than they do judgments. Sometimes Counselors judge others who they feel are attacking them or their loved ones. If they fear this person intends to harm them, they will become judgmental before they even get a chance to do harm.

Cause of anxiety: When you are not able to extract what you need from your environment - affection, attention, a job opportunity or a physical need.

Shyness Gauge™ (Out of the 16 patterns. Scale: Lower number is more shy: 15/16

When ill: Texts all their friends that they’re dying and asks who wants to come over for a movie night.

At the shopping mall: Is getting their nails done for the second time this week, because they suddenly realised the old colour clashed with the dress they’re wearing to that party tonight (or male equivalent).

As the gift buyer: The Counselor creates an elaborate scavenger hunt their loved ones must complete in order to find their gift. Ensures that years later everyone will remember the fun they had completing the hunt, even if they forget all about their presents.

What they want as a gift: An experience, Games, Gift card to favourite clothing store, Tasty food, Physical affection, Spa voucher, Practical item.

What sort of holiday: Rio carnival.

What sort of clothes do they wear - male: Likely to really go for it when it comes to making a statement with their clothes. They are not afraid to wear something bold or provocative if they are so inclined because, generally speaking, they enjoy the attention. They have a unique self image and they want to showoff their individuality and beauty in a way that is authentic to them. Probably more likely than other types to show a lot of skin and accentuate their physical assets with their clothing.

What sort of clothes do they wear - female: Enjoy social interactions and tend to bring out the fun in many situations. They usually do well in new environments and meeting new people is an opportunity they will not pass up. Similar to their exuberance, bright yellow slip-on sandals are a match made in heaven.

As a house guest: As Host: Welcoming. As Guest: I'll use all the soap and towels, eat all the eggs and just vanish.

Contents of wardrobe (fun perspective):
A complete and utter mess.

In a relationship / dating:
Relationship needs – Adventure and Authenticity. Red Flag if you hear this - "I don't like the fact you spend so much time with other people." Not negotiable with the partner - Having limits placed on their socializing. Biggest Strength - Being the life of the party. Ideal Date Activities - Anything that involves socialising. Club, bar, new restaurant. Will be seeking - Casual sex. Target area priority - LOVABLE - 20%; ROMANTIC 60%; SEXUAL 20%. Soulmate - Perfectionist, Practitioner.

Compatibility: Click here.

At the bar: Wants to be the life of the party.

In the bedroom: Athletic Bedroomer. You are extremely observant and in the moment as a sexual partner. You are capable of experiencing sex without love and you do not generally feel remorse afterwards. Although you are capable of separating sex and love, you do enjoy feeling deeply connected to your partner. When you care about someone you can be extremely giving and enthusiastic. You are an athletic and exciting partner in the bedroom.

Dalliance or not? Fun and frisky and they crave attention and sensory stimulation. They are usually very friendly and open to everyone and many potentially romantic relationships form naturally from this. They like the idea of more love, more connections, more intimacy and more relationships along with the Persuader, Promoter and Appraiser. Sometimes the lines can get blurred for them and they may find themselves having crossed a line they did not intend to cross. e.g. Bill Clinton. Top 5 Rank = 4.

How they deal with clutter: Unfocussed Clutter. People are coming over in an hour, but the house is a mess. You'll take 20 minutes to select the perfect music to assist you with the vacuuming and it is mandatory to check all social media despite the clutter and the time ticking away. You then spend 60% of the remaining time dancing with your vacuum, 30% trying to get your roommate to dance too and 10% on actually doing the vacuuming. Counselors love everything about life and they have so many big ideas that sometimes things get lost in the shuffle. Needs a central hub to organize everything and communicate with their crew.

What sort of kitchen: The Classic Glam Kitchen. You are confident, charming, and enthusiastic about life. Not every person can pull off a crystal chandelier in the kitchen, but you cannot think of anything more glorious. You love metallics, ornaments and marble bench tops and dream of owning a French La Cornue stove at $47,000.

What religion: 44.78% of this pattern are religious. Rank: 5/16. Likely religion: Pentacostal.

What they like at a music festival: Freeloader at the festival. Most likely to be the "Free Bird" person. Always has a drink in their hand, but does not spend a cent for the entire duration of the festival.

What they like as their musical instrument: Lead Singer. Why? The Counselor wants to be the centre of attention and is very outgoing. Great taste in clothing and the finer things compliments being in the spotlight and being an excellent lead singer.

What sort of friend: Party animal, funny. The friend who is always a blast to hang out with and who is always down for something new. You can not go wrong partying with them and they always seem to know where the best parties are. Tends to get lonely when they have nobody to really connect with or talk to on a meaningful level and if 'friends' run away in tough times after taking advantage of the Counselor's good humour and jovial personality.

Weird feature: Pleasure Seeker. Playboy, bon vivant. Healthy eater. Rank: 3/10.

In the classroom: They need to go toilet NOW. Once the teacher lets them go, they do not come back until the last 5 minutes of the lesson.

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Attitude to money and risk

Augmentation: Counselors, together with Results, Achievers and Specialists have a fondness for risk-taking, especially in the immediate context. However, they do like to have a certain amount of security when it comes to their home life and the people that are important to them. They like having a “home base” whether it’s an actual home, a long-term friendship, a relationship, etc.. that they can return to at the end of the day (or week, or month). Counselors (and Results) scan their environment for interesting and novel experiences they can jump into right away. For example, they might be walking along the beach and see an opportunity to go hang-gliding and instantly get in line for the experience. They tend to be adaptable and quick to respond to sudden changes and developments. They tend to be stimulated by challenges and enjoy having many options and alternatives to consider. Counselors are quick to think on their feet and they tend to keep a steady head during a crisis. They are also good at scanning their environment for resources and solutions. Unlike some other types who might panic over a challenge, find themselves stimulated and invigorated by it. Counselors are always looking around for new experiences and enjoyment and they can sometimes become scattered and move from project to project without completing anything. This tends to play out in them jumping from job to job or passion to passion without finding long-term contentment. If they fail to inwardly analyse the opportunities they embark on then they can make poor choices that fail in the long-term and figure out whether what they are doing is logical or has lasting value. Sometimes it means allowing themselves to be bored because it is the most reasonable thing to do or it is the thing most in line with their values.

Spending money: Random. Emotional Spender. Sometimes resourceful but sometimes inefficient. May make emotional / impulsive purchases despite knowing it's a poor decision. Tend to spend often but in small bursts of activity. Optimistic about risks and can be handy in the role of entrepreneur.

Financial toxicity: Player - Extractor. Pretends to reach for the wallet but always comes up short, so the other party pays. Or gets up to go to the bathroom when they see the waiter coming to the table with the bill. Trustworthy Ranking: Middle. Do not have trouble trusting people. Takes everything on a case by case basis).

The following table shows the attitude to risk of each pattern

DISC	RANK	Feature	Tell tale sign	Reality
1 Director ESTJ	12	Take risks only to avoid losses	Orderly life	Wants to help but extremely bossy
2 Developer ENTJ	6	Only takes long term risks	Confident	Can back underdogs but are bullies
3 Results ESTP	3	Thrill seeker	Impulsive	Can see things through if committed
4 Inspirational ENTP	1	No comfort zone	No contingency plan	If self motivated - cross ts and dot is
5 Persuader ENFJ	8	Only take action after thorough analysis and preparation	Look after others	Invasive questions to help
6 Appraiser ESFJ	13	Only when the outcome is fairly secure	Order and convention - safe harbour	Only as petty as the people around them
7 Promoter ENFP	2	Entrepreneurial	Crazy ideas	Question, debate, procrastinate
8 Counselor ESFP	4	Cannot stand still	Just do it	Sharper than they appear
9 Specialist ISFP	5	Spontaneous, experimental, unpredictable	Gets stressed	Constantly analysing but appear flaky
10 Investigator INFJ	14	Only if reward exceeds the risk	Will not risk it if others are to be hurt	Are cold if you do not know them well
11 Agent INFP	11	Spontaneous of thought and slow of deed	Have analysis paralysis	Will go to any lengths necessary in pursuit of what they believe is right
12 Achiever ISTP	7	Pursues something new and interesting; adrenaline junkies	Gets bored easily	Some pursue extreme sports; others stay safe
13 Practitioner ISFJ	16	Deliberately structure their lives to avoid taking risks and are difficult to get going	Scared of potential for failure. Only jump after considering pros, cons and safety net	Feelings > interests. More interested in keeping the peace than getting exactly what they want.The master of passive-aggressive behaviour.
14 Objective Thinker ISTJ	15	Vigilant, cautious and wary of risk, only trusting what is true and verifiable	Zero chance of them doing anything that permanently damage their body	If a new method beats out an old one, will swap
15 Perfectionist INTP	10	Takes risks in order to break new ground	Even tempered and rational	Enjoying social interaction yet not capable of it
16 Enhancer INTJ	9	Calculated risks if can see a gain	Have back up - are very sensible	Want to hear other angles even if do not agree initially
Highest	Inspirational	Promoter	Results	Counselor
Lowest	Practitioner	Objective Thinker	Investigator	Appraiser

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When Nefarious - actions are highly reprehensible or offensive in character

Seeks attention and sensation at all costs. Impulsive, vain and self-absorbed. They dislike anything or anyone that might upstage them and they will be passive-aggressive to anyone who they feel might steal their spotlight. Their subjective emotions rule their lives, and logical arguments or constructive criticism are dramatically shunned. One minute they will be madly in love, the next minute they will ditch their partners or cheat on them because they feel trapped. They jump from one exciting thrill to another without concern for the people they affect along the way. Crimes: Lots such as theft and drink driving. Lie to avoid punishment. Drunk and disorderly.

Bratty behaviour: Spotlight chaser, at all costs. Not stick to plans, drop commitments. Can even fail to be there for friends in times of need (=neglect) if they perceive a greater opportunity for them to be the centre of attention. Needs to get the notion that attention is short term and fleeting whereas long lasting relationships are not.

When guilty: Atone For Guilt. Preferring to enjoy life rather than focus on negativity. Dislike harming others, but may struggle with facing own mistakes. May attempt to convince the people that they hurt that they never intended to do so as do not want people to believe they are a bad person, that is a strong concern. Care about the people around them and truly do not want to harm anyone. Although unintended, the lifestyle of living in the moment can cause upset to others. When feeling like have done something wrong will definitely try to atone for this. Shame: Will feel ashamed if their sometimes flighty actions have harmed other people. May be better at hiding their shame than others, but that does not mean they do not experience shame. Will respond to forgiveness by letting a Counselor know that you are okay with their mistakes and that everyone makes them from time to time. Sometimes it helps to let them know of a time you messed up as well.

Ingeniously Problematic™ behaviour: Sometimes. Is on display when it is clearly known what the desired outcome is, yet an assertion is made that may not be untruthful, is likely to be ambiguous and the author can use it to advantage. It is designed to give the recipient hope; reality may be 'bugger off' or (mis)leading you into taking up some sort of offer. It often involves blatant hypocrisy.

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The Sir Robertson Sole symptoms™ - as the "asshole"!

The Lounge Lizard or Floozy - The Attention Whore R. Sole. Cuddly inside and out. Stimulation seeker. Boisterous and annoying. Can be considered dumb. They get drunk on one beer and proceed to feel that all their actions are totally excused. Even if not, totally insensitive. The more alcohol, the more outrageous. e.g. Dead baby jokes around abortion clinics and jokes at your mother's funeral. They will not stay at the funeral for very long, but they will steal one of the bottles of funeral wine and proceed to get into it. Leave traces of trouble - e.g. boot full of urine, vomit on the ceiling. Relationships can be tricky, but they might work out. Provided you are not into communication or honesty or something. It’s hard to be honest when you cannot remember what happened last week.

On R.Sole steroids - The Wishy Washy Rockstar: Will do anything to keep all eyes on themselves. This can be as simple as performing a triple keg stand but, if conventional methods fail, will go as far as genocide to remain in the limelight. Unhappy if any one else's talent is acknowledged especially if the other person's talent is orders of magnitude higher. This is always the case.
Insulting tags: Boring. "You are absolutely useless". "You are no fun to hang around."
Worst quality: Impatient.
Prof. Sole nominates Bill Clinton, Katy Perry, Kayne West and Idi Amin.

Robert Sole's Conviction™: The loud, foolish and stupid person. Insane on the outside, normal on the inside.

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The following table shows the population of each pattern

Source: Australian Psychological Type Review and others.

POPULATION	MALE - Aus	FEMALE - Aus	MALE - US	FEMALE - US
1 Director ESTJ	15.8%	7.7%	16.0%	10.0%
2 Developer ENTJ	8.4%	4.6%	5.5%	2.5%
3 Results ESTP	4.7%	2.5%	12.5%	7.5%
4 Inspirational ENTP	6.8%	5.4%	6.0%	3.0%
5 Persuader ENFJ	2.1%	4.8%	12.5%	7.5%
6 Appraiser ESFJ	3.1%	8.2%	7.0%	17.0%
7 Promoter ENFP	4.1%	9.1%	7.0%	6.0%
8 Counselor ESFP	1.4%	3.8%	8.0%	14.0%
9 Specialist ISFP	1.9%	4.9%	5.0%	7.0%
10 Investigator INFJ	2.6%	6.0%	0.5%	1.5%
11 Agent INFP	3.2%	8.4%	1.5%	2.5%
12 Achiever ISTP	5.6%	2.7%	8.5%	3.5%
13 Practitioner ISFJ	3.9%	12.8%	4.0%	10.0%
14 Objective Thinker ISTJ	21.3%	9.7%	10.5%	6.5%
15 Perfectionist INTP	6.4%	4.1%	4.0%	1.0%
16 Enhancer INTJ	8.7%	5.3%	2.5%	0.5%
Highest	Objective Thinker	Practitioner	Director	Appraiser
Lowest	Counselor	Results	Investigator	Enhancer
Highest 4	14 & 1 & 16 & 2 = 54.2%	13 & 14 & 7 & 11 = 40.0%	1 & 3 & 5 & 14 = 51.5%	6 & 8 & 1 & 9 = 48.0%

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