6. Appraiser - ESFJ (The Provider) - The perfect one you try to hate but cannot. If we all work together and follow the plan, we can make it happen. - What I can do for you?

ID - I with D - Priority. Open, People-Oriented v. Guarded, Task-Oriented.

II - I with I - Competition. Open, People-Oriented v. Open, People-Oriented.

IS - I with S - Pace & Priority. Pace. Direct, Fast-Paced v. Indirect, Slower-Paced.

IC - I with C - Pace & Priority. Direct, Fast-Paced, Open, People-Oriented v. Indirect, Slower-Paced, Guarded, Task-Oriented.

In the Personal Space

How others are judged: Unaware Judgeology™. Seen as judgmental but are not consciously aware of this. Deep down they possess a strong caring for everyone and want to make people happy. When they witness people harming others, especially if it is harming their loved ones, will become immediately judgmental. They are consciously aware of how their actions affect others and try very hard not to hurt people. Strong dislike of people who have no caring about others. Often feel judgmental towards people who act in a superior manner to them or to other people. They hold most people as equals until they witness certain actions from them.

Cause of anxiety: When the Appraiser feels helpless to provide for others.

Shyness Gauge™ (Out of the 16 patterns. Scale: Lower number is more shy: 14/16

When ill: The Appraiser tries to get better as quickly as possible so that they can take care of any friends or loved ones who have also caught their bug.

At the shopping mall: Somehow, the Great American Cookies store is cleaner when they leave it then when they arrived.

As the gift buyer: The Appraiser keeps a running note on their phone throughout the year in which they jot down things their loved ones mention they’d like. Has everything wrapped up and sent off, complete with a heartfelt note, before the mall swings into the season coming up.

What they want as a gift: Quality time together, Clothing, Hand written letter, Luxury treats - cookies or wine, Jewellery, High quality organisational materials, Hand made gift.

What sort of holiday: Family trip to Disneyland.

What sort of clothes do they wear - male: Know what’s hip and they dress accordingly. They wear what is acceptable, stylish and trendy or what is popular within the social circles they operate within. Often carry a fair amount of vanity as they understand the role of appearances in respect to their social status and acceptance. They use their fashion style as but another tool for commanding the social validation, in-group status and appreciation they so desire.

What sort of clothes do they wear - female: Considerate and cooperative, but do not let this surface fool you. When it comes to handling tasks, it's all about work by determination and thoroughness. However, they still have a soft spot, wanting appreciation from others for what they do, and a comfortable turtle-neck sweater provides just enough satisfaction for these busy bees.

As a house guest: As Host: House guests are not on my agenda. As Guest: I'd prefer to stay at an hotel.

Contents of wardrobe (fun perspective):
“Wait, I have a house?”

In a relationship / dating:
Companionship and Commitment. Red Flag if you hear this - "We shouldn't help that guy. Let's not get involved." Not negotiable with the partner - Unwillingness to commit. Biggest Strength - Admirable. Ideal Date Activities - Anything one on one. Intimate massage, romantic dinner, sporting event. Will be seeking - Short term dating, casual sex. Target area priority - LOVABLE - 10%; ROMANTIC 55%; SEXUAL 35%. Soulmate - Specialist or Investigator.

Compatibility: Click here.

At the bar: Loud and boisterous.

In the bedroom: When in Love Bedroomer. To you sex is only truly good when you are deeply in love. If you do not truly care for someone, sex can almost feel like a chore. When you are comfortable with your partner, sex with you is very passionate and animated. Above all else you want to make sure that your partner is happy and fully satisfied. If you feel like your partner is not enjoying themselves, it may make you shut down and you will no longer enjoy the experience yourself. To you sex is a chance to connect with your lover and feel closer to them. You may have a hard time receiving pleasure from your loved one, but the closer you feel the more you are willing to let go.

Dalliance or not? Very loyal but they may be tempted to stray if their relationship partner is not supportive. They can be insecure and their need for validation from others can open them up to desperate attempts of seeking approval. They are easily charmed by people they view as confident and exciting. Someone who can make them feel valued and validated has the potential of stealing their heart. They like the idea of more love, more connections, more intimacy and more relationships along with the Persuader, Promoter and Counselor.

How they deal with clutter: Reluctant Clutter. You'll only clean common areas if guests are coming over. Your bedroom looks like a poor man’s version of a treasure trove; a disaster by any measure. Cleaning is best done with a pod cast in your headphones or talking with a friend, so you can thoroughly dissociate from the fact that you are actually cleaning. Promoters can easily get overwhelmed if they have too many tasks and ideas and have no concept of how to organise or follow through. Ideally needs a personal or digital assistant.

What sort of kitchen: The Bohemian Kitchen. You are curious, talkative and aspirational. You have a strong artistic side and love a cozy, carefree kitchen with plenty of colorful tea towels, throw rugs, fresh flowers, and artwork — whatever strikes your fancy! It's not clutter, it's personality!

What religion: 33.71% Rank: 13. Likely religion: Eclectic paganism. With such a short attention span, just go with smoking weed and buying magic crystals.

What they like at a music festival: Gets sex at the festival. Somehow makes out with the lead singer of the night’s headlining band. Gets into the "most popular" photos of the festival’s Instagram tag twice.

What they like as their musical instrument: Sound Engineer. Why? The Appraiser likes helping others reach their full potential. As a sound engineer, the Appraiser can work behind the scenes to ensure that the studio recordings come out perfectly.

What sort of friend: Enthusiastic, inspirational. The enthusiastic and exciting friend, who is like your own personal cheerleader. They have a way of making you see the bright side of life and make you feel truly good about yourself. Somehow you feel like they admire you and always have a good compliment for you. You never feel bored when you are around them. Can get lonely if they do not have close friends to talk to or share their lives with and lonely and misunderstood when their friendliness and exuberance is misconstrued as being “fake”.

Weird feature: Attention Grabber. Always popular, will do this if other people do not seem to like you as much as you expect. Unhappy alone. Rank: 1/10.

In the classroom: Call out: "Guys, come on, she's trying to teach".

Attitude to money and risk

Augmentation: In the top 4 as the highest risk-takers together with Inspirational, Agent and Perfectionist. Enjoys exploring new, untested theories and possibilities. Unlike those who have facts to rely on, enjoy “jumping into possibilities” without having to spend a lot of time figuring out if something like this has been done before. In fact, if a project or idea has been done before that can be a deterrent. Drawn to the novel and original far more than the tested and established. This tends to play out in career choices. Many Promoters are stimulated by taking less-secure job positions if there is a higher reward. Are able to consider many new, unusual theories, projects, and endeavours simultaneously without getting weighed down by anxiety or over-planning. However, need to take a moment and pause and consider their priorities, values, and principles before moving forward. This way they can avoid floundering in a sea of unfinished projects and unlimited alternatives.

Spending money: Carefree. Spendthrift. Money is an emotional extension of themselves but believe that they'll have a good life without it. Have an endless list of ideas that they can come up with to spend money on.

Financial toxicity: One upper. You might find that you are dragged into spending more than you want. They want to impress with cars, home, clothes etc. and to stop their bragging you might try to keep up. Be careful.... Trustworthy Ranking: Middle. (After being hurt too many times by being taken advantage of will cause becoming afraid and have trust issues).

The following table shows the attitude to risk of each pattern

When Nefarious - actions are highly reprehensible or offensive in character

Manipulative, controlling, prone to gossip. They adopt the beliefs of the people around them and bully anyone who lies outside of that value system. They may enjoy spreading rumours if it allows them to gain approval from authority. They are the “teacher’s pet” and constantly seek praise from the people they respect. They will have pity parties for themselves whenever they do not get the praise they were expecting. They may be passive-aggressive, two-faced, and dishonest. Anyone who does not believe in their traditionally accepted views is mocked, ridiculed, or manipulated by psychological means into doubting their own sanity. They need attention and approval constantly from the people in their lives and will become easily angered over any perceived slight or anything that takes the place of their attention. They will berate anyone who doesn’t follow “the rules”, even if those rules are corrupt. Crimes: Steal to finance drug habit. Prostitution.

Bratty behaviour: Gossip. While interested in what others are up to, needs to know when to keep the mouth shut. May develop a reputation for being warm in person but judgmental behind other's backs and gain a reputation accordingly.

When guilty: Unacknowledged Guilt. May not outwardly show experience of guilt but it is something that is felt on an almost constant basis and will be internalised and not fully acknowledged. Take the needs of others upon themselves, wanting to be everything to everyone around them. Holds to impossibly high standards, wanting to be something close to perfect. When cannot accomplish the goal of keeping everyone happy, will feel immensely guilty. Often feels like it is their fault if everyone is not properly cared for, making them feel guilty when they truly should not. Will find ways to compensate when feeling guilty about their own failings. Shame: Hard time feeling shame unless it's someone who they love that they have failed but will struggle. Finding ways to fix the issue can sometimes only make the situation worse. Assistance is by accepting their mistake, forgive them (and still love them, as applicable) even though they are not perfect. The Appraiser needs to accept the error and learn to forgive themselves for it.

Ingeniously Problematic™ behaviour: Sometimes. Is on display when it is clearly known what the desired outcome is, yet an assertion is made that may not be untruthful, is likely to be ambiguous and the author can use it to advantage. It is designed to give the recipient hope; reality may be 'bugger off' or (mis)leading you into taking up some sort of offer. It often involves blatant hypocrisy.

The Sir Robertson Sole symptoms™ - as the "asshole"!

The Whore - The Gossipy R. Sole. Acts cuddly but is secretly an R. Sole. Require other persons approval of their emotions. With poor logic need to improve the processing of information as come across as awkward. Will not be silent and be in your face all the time. Great at pretending to listen and, while they do hear you, do not care about what you just said, except to hate you. Usually dominant socially, often disregarding others’ opinions. If they are wronged they will be angry and they will punish you, but if you treat them well they will treat you well in return. A good way to get onside is to do favours for them without them asking – they love getting gifts but will not be happy if you stop. Cannot be helped. Disregard for everybody else may tend to be in organised crime syndicate. Use everything they have to get what they want. After an outburst they will pretend nothing happened, and the older, more wise ones will apologise about it in secret, however you should not believe it.

On R.Sole steroids - The Intolerable B-Lister: Glittering eyes and spotless teeth. Skulls as vacant as their résumés. They came so close to the top that only to be pushed aside by better looking people. They will tell you this at a not great, but not entirely lame, party after a few drinks. Generally talentless, passive and smiling moistly at all times.
Insulting tags: Useless. "You are always unhelpful". "Nobody likes you".
Worst quality: Overbearing.
Prof. Sole nominates Regis Philbin, Sarah Palin and Barbara Walters.

Robert Sole's Conviction™: The 1950's housewife and mother. Normal, yet awesome, on both the outside and the inside.

The following table shows the population of each pattern

Source: Australian Psychological Type Review and others.