6. Appraiser - ESFJ (The Provider) - The perfect one you try to hate but cannot. If we all work together and follow the plan, we can make it happen. - What I can do for you?
We are always careful to emphasise to the cohort that this measures behaviour. It does not measure a person's values, aptitude, honesty, intelligence, personality nor whether they have any mental health issues or have been brainwashed. Conducted and Composed by Elizabeth Hunter™ - Last Update 13 March, 2019
Statistics and Overview
Appraiser outline in pdf: Click here
Approx. Population US: - 12.0% - 2/16 - M:7.0% - F:17.0%.
Other Profiles: MYERS BRIGGS (MBTI) - ESFJ - The Provider. Extrovert, Sensing, Feeling, Judging. KIERSEY - Guardian - Provider. iPERSONIC - Social Realist. Other - Supporter.
Career: Health care, physician, nurse, therapist, education, social service, religion, retail owner, receptionist, real estate agent or sales representative.
Key hate: Abandonment; Those who micromanage them.
Key factors: Terse.
Rankings: How organised ranking: 4/16. How dominant ranking: 14/16. How submissive ranking: 3/16.
Twosome Descripta™ - Popular friend.
Augmentation: A strong sense of purpose and direction. Shallow and petty, only caring about the latest gossip and who’s dating whom.
Seven Pos Traits:
1. True extrovert and social butterfly.
2. Sensitive, energetic, helpful and sociable.
3. Popular and well liked.
4. Compassionate and empathetic.
5. Extremely organised with difficulty dealing with uncertainty.
6. Always ready to listen with warmth and genuine sensitivity.
7. Prefers to live in real world rather than in own imagination.
Neg Traits:
1. Too smarty-pants.
2. Terse.
3. Dislikes change.
4. Inflexible.
5. Hesitant to improvise or venture outside comfort zone.
6. Does not like criticism.
7. Needs to be loved and validated.
8. High respect for the laws and the authority. Blindly follow rules.
9. Can be too selfless.
What you need to stop doing: Being so shallow.
Nicknames: Mr. Harmonious. Mr. Figjam. Swan. Homemade lemonade. Consul. Gossip. Great Dane.
Own Brand Fascination: Innovation - Encourage others to explore alternative ideas and new techniques. With Mystique as Secondary, The Provacateur - Clever, Adept, Contemporary.
Surˌprise, surˈprise - you should not be surprised about these sorts of behaviour! Just when you thought it was safe to go back into conversation they always find new depths of shallow.
Pidgeonholed v. The Real World
P: Genuine and affectionate, would take care of sick stranger if needed, make friends wherever they go.
R: Value self-worth based on quality and feedback for home baked goods. The holiday season is their life source.
As a leader - Analytical
Augmentation: Formulates opinions and decisions based off little data and therefore may come to some hasty conclusions without fully weighing the pros and cons.
Dogma - Blind Faith: Let me do it.
Focus: Winning fairly and creatively with others.
As a negotiator: Style - Tend to Collaborate. Result - Tend to be they win and the other side wins. Outcome - Rewarding.
Examples: DAVID. Paul McCartney. Michael Clarke. Ray Kroc.
At work & comparing with social
Worst workplace to be in: If it's run as a workplace with an isolated environment where employees are forced to analyse impersonal data all day with little interaction or feedback about how they are doing.
Compared to social: Scale 1 - 8. 1&2 Excellent; 3&4 Good; 5&6 Fair; 6&7 Poor.
High I with High D: Work: 6. Social: 3.
High I with High I: Work: 7. Social: 1.
High I with High S: Work: 1. Social: 5.
High I with High C: Work: 3. Social: 7.
At the job souk: Nurse / Physical Therapist; Paediatrician; Teacher - K to Year 12; Retail Owner / Operator; Athletics Coach; Flight Attendant; Hairdresser; Office Manager; Home Economist.
Jobs and tasks: Making others happy. Providing practical services for others; Helping people with information; Planning social events; Being patient with others; Taking care of others; Getting answers for people now; Finding resources for people; Following written procedures; Making others feel comfortable and at ease; Serving; Focusing on what people need.
Promptness: On time. Hates the idea of being late for things and will become stressed if running short on time. Will scramble if necessary. Might see this as a sign of disrespect and will become upset if other people think they are being rude. Likely be the person who shows up ridiculously early for certain events and will never be the person arriving late. Will try to keep track of the time accurately in their minds.
Fulfilling Commitments: The Appraiser takes their commitments seriously and dislike feeling as though they have failed someone. When they make a commitment to another person, the Appraiser will be sure to do whatever it takes to follow through with it. They might struggle with certain personal commitments, especially if they are not going to affect someone else. When the Appraiser feels like they need to remove certain things in order to care for their loved ones, then they will back out of those commitments most of the time. The Appraiser is extremely focussed on caring for others and most of their priorities are based around this.
In a Meeting: Sneaky / whisperer.
Under Pressure: Appraisers can become anxious and stressed when they feel all of the pressure on them. They care deeply about those close and want to please others which puts on pressure automatically especially if pressured to get something done when they struggle and become uneasy.
.As a performance appraiser:
Style - I's tend to evaluate others by how well they verbalize feelings; Result - I's see performance reviews more as a time to look talk about doing better than a time to confront under performance; Outcome - Any under performance of the appraisee is likely to continue.
As a customer service representative: Style - High I's trade on creating relationships, sharing personal information as a routine part of customer service; Result - Customer may have to restate the problem. “I have had so much fun talking; I forgot to write it down”; Outcome - It’s next to impossible for a customer, who is lucky to get a word in edgewise, to vent. Assurances are offered often not knowing if the promises can be fulfilled.
Tension Warner:
ID - I with D - Priority. Open, People-Oriented v. Guarded, Task-Oriented.
II - I with I - Competition. Open, People-Oriented v. Open, People-Oriented.
IS - I with S - Pace & Priority. Pace. Direct, Fast-Paced v. Indirect, Slower-Paced.
IC - I with C - Pace & Priority. Direct, Fast-Paced, Open, People-Oriented v. Indirect, Slower-Paced, Guarded, Task-Oriented.
In the Personal Space
How others are judged: Unaware Judgeology™. Seen as judgmental but are not consciously aware of this. Deep down they possess a strong caring for everyone and want to make people happy. When they witness people harming others, especially if it is harming their loved ones, will become immediately judgmental. They are consciously aware of how their actions affect others and try very hard not to hurt people. Strong dislike of people who have no caring about others. Often feel judgmental towards people who act in a superior manner to them or to other people. They hold most people as equals until they witness certain actions from them.
Cause of anxiety: When the Appraiser feels helpless to provide for others.
When ill: The Appraiser tries to get better as quickly as possible so that they can take care of any friends or loved ones who have also caught their bug.
At the shopping mall: Somehow, the Great American Cookies store is cleaner when they leave it then when they arrived.
As the gift buyer: The Appraiser keeps a running note on their phone throughout the year in which they jot down things their loved ones mention they’d like. Has everything wrapped up and sent off, complete with a heartfelt note, before the mall swings into the season coming up.
What they want as a gift: Quality time together, Clothing, Hand written letter, Luxury treats - cookies or wine, Jewellery, High quality organisational materials, Hand made gift.
What sort of holiday: Family trip to Disneyland.
What sort of clothes do they wear - male: Know what’s hip and they dress accordingly. They wear what is acceptable, stylish and trendy or what is popular within the social circles they operate within. Often carry a fair amount of vanity as they understand the role of appearances in respect to their social status and acceptance. They use their fashion style as but another tool for commanding the social validation, in-group status and appreciation they so desire.
What sort of clothes do they wear - female: Considerate and cooperative, but do not let this surface fool you. When it comes to handling tasks, it's all about work by determination and thoroughness. However, they still have a soft spot, wanting appreciation from others for what they do, and a comfortable turtle-neck sweater provides just enough satisfaction for these busy bees.
As a house guest: As Host: House guests are not on my agenda. As Guest: I'd prefer to stay at an hotel.
In a relationship / dating: Companionship and Commitment. Red Flag if you hear this - "We shouldn't help that guy. Let's not get involved." Not negotiable with the partner - Unwillingness to commit. Biggest Strength - Admirable. Ideal Date Activities - Anything one on one. Intimate massage, romantic dinner, sporting event. Will be seeking - Short term dating, casual sex. Target area priority - LOVABLE - 10%; ROMANTIC 55%; SEXUAL 35%. Soulmate - Specialist or Investigator. Compatability: Click here.
At the bar: Loud and boisterous.
In the bedroom: When in Love Bedroomer. To you sex is only truly good when you are deeply in love. If you do not truly care for someone, sex can almost feel like a chore. When you are comfortable with your partner, sex with you is very passionate and animated. Above all else you want to make sure that your partner is happy and fully satisfied. If you feel like your partner is not enjoying themselves, it may make you shut down and you will no longer enjoy the experience yourself. To you sex is a chance to connect with your lover and feel closer to them. You may have a hard time receiving pleasure from your loved one, but the closer you feel the more you are willing to let go.
Dalliance or not? Very loyal but they may be tempted to stray if their relationship partner is not supportive. They can be insecure and their need for validation from others can open them up to desperate attempts of seeking approval. They are easily charmed by people they view as confident and exciting. Someone who can make them feel valued and validated has the potential of stealing their heart.
How they deal with clutter: Reluctant Clutter. You'll only clean common areas if guests are coming over. Your bedroom looks like a poor man’s version of a treasure trove; a disaster by any measure. Cleaning is best done with a pod cast in your headphones or talking with a friend, so you can thoroughly dissociate from the fact that you are actually cleaning. Promoters can easily get overwhelmed if they have too many tasks and ideas and have no concept of how to organise or follow through. Ideally needs a personal or digital assistant.
What sort of kitchen: The Bohemian Kitchen. You are curious, talkative and aspirational. You have a strong artistic side and love a cozy, carefree kitchen with plenty of colorful tea towels, throw rugs, fresh flowers, and artwork — whatever strikes your fancy! It's not clutter, it's personality!
What religion: 33.71% Rank: 13. Likely religion: Eclectic paganism. With such a short attention span, just go with smoking weed and buying magic crystals.
What they like at a music festival: Gets sex at the festival. Somehow makes out with the lead singer of the night’s headlining band. Gets into the “most popular” photos of the festival’s Instagram tag twice.
What sort of friend: Enthusiastic, inspirational. The enthusiastic and exciting friend, who is like your own personal cheerleader. They have a way of making you see the bright side of life and make you feel truly good about yourself. Somehow you feel like they admire you and always have a good compliment for you. You never feel bored when you are around them. Can get lonely if they do not have close friends to talk to or share their lives with and lonely and misunderstood when their friendliness and exuberance is misconstrued as being “fake”.
Weird feature: Attention Grabber. Always popular, will do this if other people do not seem to like you as much as you expect. Unhappy alone. Rank: 1/10.
Attitude to money and risk
Augmentation: In the top 4 as the highest risk-takers together with Inspirational, Agent and Perfectionist. Enjoys exploring new, untested theories and possibilities. Unlike those who have facts to rely on, enjoy “jumping into possibilities” without having to spend a lot of time figuring out if something like this has been done before. In fact, if a project or idea has been done before that can be a deterrent. Drawn to the novel and original far more than the tested and established. This tends to play out in career choices. Many Promoters are stimulated by taking less-secure job positions if there is a higher reward. Are able to consider many new, unusual theories, projects, and endeavours simultaneously without getting weighed down by anxiety or over-planning. However, need to take a moment and pause and consider their priorities, values, and principles before moving forward. This way they can avoid floundering in a sea of unfinished projects and unlimited alternatives.
Spending money: Carefree. Spendthrift. Money is an emotional extension of themselves but believe that they'll have a good life without it. Have an endless list of ideas that they can come up with to spend money on.
Financial toxicity: One upper. You might find that you are dragged into spending more than you want. They want to impress with cars, home, clothes etc. and to stop their bragging you might try to keep up. Be careful.... Trustworthy Ranking 2/16. (After being hurt too many times by being taken advantage of will cause becoming afraid and have trust issues).
The following table shows the attitude to risk of each pattern
Base source: Jayne Thompson.
When Nefarious - actions are highly reprehensible or offensive in character
Manipulative, controlling, prone to gossip. They adopt the beliefs of the people around them and bully anyone who lies outside of that value system. They may enjoy spreading rumours if it allows them to gain approval from authority. They are the “teacher’s pet” and constantly seek praise from the people they respect. They will have pity parties for themselves whenever they do not get the praise they were expecting. They may be passive-aggressive, two-faced, and dishonest. Anyone who does not believe in their traditionally accepted views is mocked, ridiculed, or manipulated by psychological means into doubting their own sanity. They need attention and approval constantly from the people in their lives and will become easily angered over any perceived slight or anything that takes the place of their attention. They will berate anyone who doesn’t follow “the rules”, even if those rules are corrupt. Crimes: Steal to finance drug habit. Prostitution.
Bratty behaviour: Gossip. While interested in what others are up to, needs to know when to keep the mouth shut. May develop a reputation for being warm in person but judgmental behind other's backs and gain a reputation accordingly.
When guilty: Unacknowledged Guilt. May not outwardly show experience of guilt but it is something that is felt on an almost constant basis and will be internalised and not fully acknowledged. Take the needs of others upon themselves, wanting to be everything to everyone around them. Holds to impossibly high standards, wanting to be something close to perfect. When cannot accomplish the goal of keeping everyone happy, will feel immensely guilty. Often feels like it is their fault if everyone is not properly cared for, making them feel guilty when they truly should not. Will find ways to compensate when feeling guilty about their own failings. Shame: Hard time feeling shame unless it's someone who they love that they have failed but will struggle. Finding ways to fix the issue can sometimes only make the situation worse. Assistance is by accepting their mistake, forgive them (and still love them, as applicable) even though they are not perfect. The Appraiser needs to accept the error and learn to forgive themselves for it.
Ingeniously Problematic™ behaviour: Sometimes. Is on display when it is clearly known what the desired outcome is, yet an assertion is made that may not be untruthful, is likely to be ambiguous and the author can use it to advantage. It is designed to give the recipient hope; reality may be 'bugger off' or (mis)leading you into taking up some sort of offer. It often involves blatant hypocrisy.
The Sir Robertson Sole symptoms™ - as the "asshole"!
The Whore - The Gossipy R. Sole. Acts cuddly but is secretly an R. Sole. Require other persons approval of their emotions. With poor logic need to improve the processing of information as come across as awkward. Will not be silent and be in your face all the time. Great at pretending to listen and, while they do hear you, do not care about what you just said, except to hate you. Usually dominant socially, often disregarding others’ opinions. If they are wronged they will be angry and they will punish you, but if you treat them well they will treat you well in return. A good way to get onside is to do favours for them without them asking – they love getting gifts but will not be happy if you stop. Cannot be helped. Disregard for everybody else may tend to be in organised crime syndicate. Use everything they have to get what they want. After an outburst they will pretend nothing happened, and the older, more wise ones will apologise about it in secret, however you should not believe it.
On R.Sole steroids - The Intolerable B-Lister: Glittering eyes and spotless teeth. Skulls as vacant as their résumés. They came so close to the top that only to be pushed aside by better looking people. They will tell you this at a not great, but not entirely lame party after a few drinks. Generally talentless, passive and smiling moistly at all times. Insulting tag: Useless. Prof. Sole nominates Regis Philbin, Sarah Palin and Barbara Walters.
The following table shows the population of each pattern
Source: Australian Psychological Type Review and others.
16 & 2 = 54.2% |
7 & 11 = 40.0% |
5 & 14 = 51.5% |
1 & 9 = 48.0% |